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mental retardation question

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • July 6, 2010
  • 06:49 PM

I am dating a man with a 5 year old daughter. He reports that she was developmentally delayed as a baby and did not walk, talk, or meet other developmental milestones on time. She has completed Pre-Kindergarten and is able to write some letters and numbers with many reversals and characters written upside down or backwards. The child is verbal but frequently tantrums and whines to get her way rather than using age appropriate language. She often has a blank vacant expression with mouth hanging open. She is potty trained but does not tend personal hygeine without aid (bathing, wiping, etc). I suspect there may be mental retardation or a learning disability involved but I do not know whether to say anything to him.

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  • . She often has a blank vacant expression She is potty trained but does not tend personal hygeine without aid (bathing, wiping, etc). The child is verbal but frequently tantrums At five.. writing with reversals is very common It could be something like Autism or Asperger's syndrome. i think you should maybe mention your concern to the one you are seeing as things like this are best picked up as early as possible so the child can get some extra help at school etc.
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • oh BTW.. maybe not best to put it in terms of "mental retardation" to your partner but maybe just note to him that you are very concerned. Asperger's isnt mental retardation (which is a mild autism) as such but rather someone who's brain just works different to the norm. Many with Asperger's are of normal intellegence or above normal intellegence, they just think differently to the norm so hence there is often some communication issues. You may see a tantrum but really not know what is going on in their heads. They do things differently and have different focus's to the norm. eg really like routines so hate change, keeping clean just may not be a priority, their minds are often elsewhere so they have trouble staying on task etc etc I had thought my child was naughty (i even had a doctor call her malicious when she was only 4) but it turns out she has Asperger's/Autism. My daughter was tantruming at over 10 yrs old on trying to make her have a bath.
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • I am dating a man with a 5 year old daughter. He reports that she was developmentally delayed as a baby and did not walk, talk, or meet other developmental milestones on time. She has completed Pre-Kindergarten and is able to write some letters and numbers with many reversals and characters written upside down or backwards. The child is verbal but frequently tantrums and whines to get her way rather than using age appropriate language. She often has a blank vacant expression with mouth hanging open. She is potty trained but does not tend personal hygeine without aid (bathing, wiping, etc). I suspect there may be mental retardation or a learning disability involved but I do not know whether to say anything to him.If she is enrollled in school, all public school districts have a district psychologist to evaluate all children. She is at an age that they evaluate for special-ed placement and "at risk" placements. Call the school district and ask for testing. Next, at 5 years old, he should certainly still be taking her to a pediatrician. Hasn't the pediatrician noticed anything? Somebody needs to shake up that father and open his eyes to his daughter's needs. The sooner she gets help with early intervention, the better off she will be. If she completed pre-K without anyone mentioning special-ed, or developmental delays, then maybe she is doing better than you think she is. Maybe it is Aspergers, like the previous person posted. Or maybe it is something genetic or other.... If you don't want to do that, then call your state's department of developmental services (county office closest to you) and talk to an intake worker over the phone. You can also have her doctor order a "FISH" test or an "array CHG" test to rule out or confirm genetic possibilities if you suspect that. Most states also have early intervention programs for physical/occupational/speech therapy, etc. But the way to get into any/all of those programs, is to first get evaluated either by the school district psychologist or by your State's Deptartment of Developmental Disabilities' psychologist, for placement into early intervention programs appropriate to her needs.
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  • Thank you for the information. I didn't think about autism. The reason I thought about mental retardation was that I thought maybe she was acting out (tantruming & whining) because she didn't understand her environment or could not verbalize what she wanted so I thought maybe she was doing it out of frustration. That and the developmental delays as a baby. I am thinking as soon as she starts school next year it is going to be apparent to her teachers.
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