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He won't go for test

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  • Posted By: Lozilla
  • August 15, 2007
  • 10:53 AM

Hi I'm 28 and have been trying for about 4 years. I came off the pill when I was 24. Nothing happened.
So I cut out coffee, took pregnancy vitamins, took my basal temp every day, quit smoking weed (he still smokes weed and won't give up), ate as well as I could and wasn't working in a stressful or anything, neither was he. Still nothing.
By this time we watched couples that we knew get together, then have kids. I have tried to quit smoking on and off, but it's hard, I'm going for it again though. I went to the docs for an ovulation day 21 blood test a year ago to find out if I'm ovulating ok, I am.

But last year I split with my partner as I wanted kids and marriage and all that when he was saying he didn't want them! Anyway he pleaded with me to get back with him, he bought me a ring, we're engaged now, and he promised he would get his sperm tested in return for more sex! It's now been a year, and we've rowed and sulked. Yes I did give him more sex but he didn't hold to his promise. I gave up and have gone back on the pill two weeks ago (which is nice for my painful periods). Although some friends told me they got pregnant right after stopping the pill, when they had difficulty before.

I can't make him go for the test as it's one of the worst things to find out as a man that your firing blanks isn't it? I have been sensitive to him about it. If he gets the test we can move on then with help. The docs say they won't do anything else on me.

We both want kids but admittedly more me than him. I don't know what to do now. Just sad really...

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