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Border Personality Disorder or/and Asperger's Syndrome???

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  • Posted By: taniaaust1
  • March 19, 2009
  • 03:15 AM

Once again a doctor is disagreeing with one of my medical diagnoses given to me by another doctor. So im trying to get some clarity.

This time my GP (who im also currently living with) .. is saying she strongly believes I have Asperger's Syndrome. (Her own son, brother and ex husband all have this issue and have been diagnosed by various specialists, so she's very familiar with Asperger's, Asperger's thinking and Asperger's traits.
i myself note that I do think like her Asperger's son.. Im more alike him than I are to an average person. I actually understand him and resonate to him easily) ..

She thinks the Borderline Personality disorder diagnoses I currently have, which has been previously confirmed by a psychristrist at one of our states main hospitals last time I was in hospital.. is wrong due to it being Asperger's (she believes). I DO/did have all the diagnostic traits for BPD when i was diagnosed with that. (she admits that she dont know much about BPD so is basing her own assessment on me on her familiarity with Asperger's).

Anyway.. this has all left me feeling confused with, maybe i dont have BPD after all? (if i fit the criteria like i did and maybe still do.. does that prove the psychristrist diagnoses of me was correct?),

do i have Asperger's?? (i myself think i dont "quite" fit the criteria for this.. but on what ive been reading it's hard to assess and someone needs to be highly familiar with Asperger's for a proper diagnosis of it.. and there are many different criterias for it out there which keep on being changed as they learn more about this illness. The world expert on that illness in his book says one shouldnt be diagnosed with it solely based on set criteria alone but one needs to look at all the traits) ..

or do i have both of these?

There are many similiarities between BPD and Asperger's eg the different thinking.. I take everything literally, emotional blow outs and other things.

I think the fact that I also have CFS/ME could possibly further confuse my symptom picture as some of my CFS/ME symptoms overlap with Asperger's ones eg noise intollerance, sensitivities to things, sleep issues, problems understanding things, clumbsyness, i get "overload" etc

Can anyone help me to understand more where my correct diagnoses is.

(Im going to ask my doctor to send me to an Asperger's expert.. for another opinion.. umm while Im at it maybe i should ask to be sent to a borderline personlity disorder expert too for a second opinion).

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  • my medical interest my doctor thinks is an Asperger's obsession. I tend to get into set interests and dont really waver from them. Ive been interested in health related things and medicine since I was 4 yrs old. Ive also have had other extreme many would say obsessions throu out my life... I will stick with something till I become like an expert in it or their is nothing else left for me to be able to learn about it. So i do have this Asperger's trait (along with others.. in real life ive had issues socially eg got bullied at school, struggled to make or keep friends etc etc, i still are a bit different about others thou im comfortable online but apparently according to Asperger's world expert those with Asperger's find chatting online easier and often dont struggle with that). From Tony Attwoods book "The complete guide to Asperger's syndrome" under heading "internet friends" "The great advantage of this form of communication to the person with Aspeger's syndrome is that he or she often has a greater eloquence in dislosing and expessing thoughts and feelings throu typing rather than face to face conversation. In social gatherings the person i expected to be able to listen to process the other person's speech, often against a background of ther conversations, to reply immediately, and simultaneously analyse non verbal cues such as gestures, facial expression and tone of voice. When using the computer, the person can concentrate on social exchange withou being overwhelmed by so many sensory experinces and social signals" anyway.. does anyone here have any thoughts on all this. Do those here think that I do have a medical obsession?? to me it's an interest.. I dont know if it's an obsession. Do i have Asperger's? thou i fit the BDP criteria exactly (but with additional things I have)
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • Yes, as I was reading through your post, I was thinking you seem to have more of an Obsessive Compulsive Disorder focusing on your own thoughts over and over. What difference does it make, actually? Do you want to be autistic, or do you just want to get on with your life and own your personality? Do you want to be a writer? I think you are young and just exploring all of your options. You should focus on finding your passion in life instead of your disability, whatever it is that you want that disability to be. I doubt if you should be believing in a diagnosis from your girlfriend. She is too emotional and attached to make an accurate diagnosis and doctors should know that they are not supposed to be practicing on friends/family. There is a major conflict of interest and her judgement is biased for an accurate diagnosis. Too, how do you know that she doesn't have a Electra complex and that it isn't you???:confused: www.emofree.com
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies Flag this Response
  • thanks for your opinion Monsterlove What difference does it make, actually? Do you want to be autistic, or do you just want to get on with your life and own your personality? It may make a big difference to me cause ive had psychotherapy for the BPD which didnt work at all for me, my psychologist ended up giving up on me with the BPD therapy I was having due to it wasnt helping me at all. If in fact I do have Aspergers rather than BPD, this would explain why therapy for me was completely unsuccessful as ones with Asperger's need to have therapy adjusted to to way we think or otherwise it's apparently usually unsuccessful. Im at risk of ending up in jail one day due to the emotional control losses I have at times when im stressed, if I dont end up having suitable therapy. This week Ive lost it once again and drove my car into something, this time I drive it into ANOTHER CAR! (cause the other person upset me, thank God the person knows she did trigger me and feels bad in upsetting me.. as if she reported me to the police that would of meant I'd broken the good behaviour bond Im currently under for driving my car into a building last year). This week I also have scratched something into my arm (hopefully it wont end up scarring). This week I also lost the plot and hit my partner. Ive also ripped out my hair hair this week. (not all weeks are this bad but I get this bad whenever im stressed out over anything.. as i cant deal with my emotions). So yes it DOES MAKE A DIFFERENCE as i NEED the right kind of therapy to treat my lack of ability to deal with stressors/emotions... I dont want to keep going throu therapy which isnt right for me cause Ive had the wrong kind of therapy again. I think you are young and just exploring all of your options. You should focus on finding your passion in life instead of your disability, whatever it is that you want that disability to be. Im not that young, Ive just had my 38th birthday. My passion in life was to be in the health field..something I cant do as Im too sick to work and hence are on disability (due to the CFS/ME i have). I cant even do volunteer work :( (as im completely unrealiable due to my symptoms) I doubt if you should be believing in a diagnosis from your girlfriend. She is too emotional and attached to make an accurate diagnosis and doctors should know that they are not supposed to be practicing on friends/family. There is a major conflict of interest and her judgement is biased for an accurate diagnosis. Too, how do you know that she doesn't have a Electra complex and that it isn't you??? Electra complex??? ive never heard of that before. We spoke together earlier and she is going to refer me to Asperger's specialist in regards to getting a diagnoses there (or not).
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • It is very possible to have co-morbid BPD and Asperger's. But, from your recent post, it sound much more like BPD to me. I have a lot of experience with this as they thought I had it at one time (I don't). It may make a big difference to me cause ive had psychotherapy for the BPD which didnt work at all for me, my psychologist ended up giving up on me with the BPD therapy I was having due to it wasnt helping me at all. If in fact I do have Aspergers rather than BPD, this would explain why therapy for me was completely unsuccessful as ones with Asperger's need to have therapy adjusted to to way we think or otherwise it's apparently usually unsuccessful.Psychotherapy is not the 'right' therapy for BPD, it won't usually work. You need CBT or DBT--you need to find a therapist who specializes in BPD. It is not uncommon for a BPD individual to not do well in therapy--that's why they get the stigma of being unruly patients. Really, even if it's Asperger's, CBT will help. Im at risk of ending up in jail one day due to the emotional control losses I have at times when im stressed, if I dont end up having suitable therapy. This week Ive lost it once again and drove my car into something, this time I drive it into ANOTHER CAR! (cause the other person upset me, thank God the person knows she did trigger me and feels bad in upsetting me.. as if she reported me to the police that would of meant I'd broken the good behaviour bond Im currently under for driving my car into a building last year). This week I also have scratched something into my arm (hopefully it wont end up scarring). This week I also lost the plot and hit my partner. Ive also ripped out my hair hair this week. (not all weeks are this bad but I get this bad whenever im stressed out over anything.. as i cant deal with my emotions).These behaviours are very BPD-like. You have to find a more healthy way to cope with and express your stress. CBT will help regardless of the diagnosis. I agree with the other poster that your girlfriend should not be attempting to diagnose you, she is too close to you to be unbiased. Also, given her familiarity with Asperger's, she is more likely to place you in that category without proper evaluation. I hear you when you say that you NEED to know what is wrong.....but really it would be more wise to develop healthier coping mechanisms regardless of the diagnosis. It is the only way to get better, no matter which one of these it is. There is an old story out there about a man who falls off a ladder and hurts his arm. Then, while rushing to get to the hospital, he falls down the stairs and further hurts his arm. When he gets to the hospital, he asked whether or not his arm was broken from the first or second fall. The doc replies "it doesn't matter, we still need to set the fracture". Point being, no matter what the cause, the symptoms must be dealt with. It is possible to fix a broken arm without knowing the cause, also it is possible to develop more healthy coping mechanisms regardless of the cause of loss of such.
    Harmonium 322 Replies Flag this Response
  • There is an old story out there about a man who falls off a ladder and hurts his arm. Then, while rushing to get to the hospital, he falls down the stairs and further hurts his arm. When he gets to the hospital, he asked whether or not his arm was broken from the first or second fall. The doc replies "it doesn't matter, we still need to set the fracture". Point being, no matter what the cause, the symptoms must be dealt with. It is possible to fix a broken arm without knowing the cause, also it is possible to develop more healthy coping mechanisms regardless of the cause of loss of such. good little story there :) Thou one needs to know what kind of break it is to fix it well thou... but yeah not dealing with emotions/stress is not dealing with emotions/stress no matter what the cause. Psychotherapy is not the 'right' therapy for BPD, it won't usually work. You need CBT or DBT--you need to find a therapist who specializes in BPD. It is not uncommon for a BPD individual to not do well in therapy--that's why they get the stigma of being unruly patients. Really, even if it's Asperger's, CBT will help. i used the term psychotherapy as i had the therapy throu the psychologist but i see now that term is confusing. The therapy I had there was in fact DBT which didnt end up working for me, I actually cried when my psychotherapist told me she saw no point in me continuing as I'd had no improvement. She gave me a list of the possible reasons the therapy had failed.. eg she may of been wrong person for me, the therapy may of been wrong for me, it may of been the wrong time for me to do this therapy etc etc In DBT as you would know seeing you are familiar with it yourself...has a strong component in dealing with emotions and various ways to deal. The thing is all the tactics I tried and could do.. failed. DBT as you probably knows.. includes CBT too. From what Ive been reading from Asperger's experts.. CBT isnt all that good for Asperger's and often needs to be specially tailored for one with Aspergers due to the differences in the way one thinks. (So if i had Asperger's this would make sense as my DBT/BPD therapist really struggled to understand me and the examples she gave me made no sense to the way I think. She actually said I was different to her other BPD patients and told me she was struggling to understand me (she ended up approaching someone superior to her on my case for more advice). These behaviours are very BPD-like. You have to find a more healthy way to cope with and express your stress. nods yes I completely agree .. and that was why I got my old doctor to refer me for DBT in the first place. but really it would be more wise to develop healthier coping mechanisms regardless of the diagnosis. It is the only way to get better, no matter which one of these it is. Im out of ideas. and as I said my DBT therapist couldnt help me, things like trying to distract myself when emotional.. the tame ways werent working as I use pain to distract. I actually end up beating myself up at times. Last time I did that was just over a week back.. leaving marks and brusing all over my body.. I NEEDED that endorphin rush to throw me out of my emotional state. Doing things like just pinging myself with a rubber band or sucking something very strong.. DONT distract me from things (some of the various ideas of my BDP therapist which I tried didnt work, that's if i even get enough time to do it.. most of the time I react and act out basically immediately, having less than a minute to distract myself. Sometimes trying to distract myself in the ways suggested to me, actually made me feel worst mentally/emotionally at the time as it didnt get me the emotional release I needed). (As I have raynauds syndrome.. I cant do things like crush ice in my hands either.. another BDP suggestion. Every one of her suggestions which I already arent doing, didnt work for me). (I do have things I do which I was already doing before I went to the therapist which help but only if I havent had a sudden intense trigger) Im wanting/NEEDING healthier stress coping mechanisms. (i used to run an intermediate class in visualization, meditation and relaxation and those things dont help as none of those things help when im triggered off) thanks for the post
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • update. I didnt even need to ask my doctor if she will send me to an Asperger's specialist to see if that is part of my issues or not as she herself has decided to do that anyway. She wanted me to go and see an expert interstate, (i'd have to take a plane there) as there appears to be no one over here who deal with Adults with Asperger's :( ***why on earth do i always get medical issues there is no specialists about for??*** My partner doesnt want me going out of state by myself with all my medical issues.. so he's asked my doctor to keep looking for an expert here. Ive been studying the two issues.. the Borderline personality disorder and the Asperger's.. and there appears to be some traits which are in one but not the other and visa versa... and from that it appears I could actually have both issues going on. Ive also now found and taken some online Asperger's questionaires.. which are meant to be a guide to if one has Asperger's or not, which compare how many "normal" traits one has with how many Asperger's traits ones has, a guide to where one is on the spectum.. and from two different ones... I fell into the Asperger's catagories.. (one came up saying I may have Asperger's.. and the more indepth one of 150 questions..came up saying I are very likely to have Asperger's). I had an Asperger's score of 130/200 where as my normal score (non Asperger's)was of only 87/100 (and those questions on those questionaires werent based on BPD things). So now i guess i have to just keep waiting and see if my doctor can find an expert in my state of Australia.
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • blaze.. i wish you'd get treatment for your OCD, it's really out of hand but you cant see it yourself.
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  • LOL blaze seems to be on a mission for raising awareness.taniaaust1- I hope you don't mind me offering my professional view of your diagnosis.Although you seem to have traits that match Aspergers and OCD, you could also have BPD.The main characteristics of BPD is self harm and antisocial behaviours, inability to accept things when things don't seem to go as planned, fear of abandoment from family and friends, and extreme manipulating attempts at keeping their family and friends when the fears are usually imagined. They often use aggression or intraversion, (which can also look like extreme shyness or depression) and use suicide attempts to manipulate situations.When you were diagnosed I wonder if your were showing these particular signs?People with Aspergers often shows signs of OCD but self harm is usually an unrelated symptom.
    wasabi 17 Replies Flag this Response
  • LOL blaze seems to be on a mission for raising awareness. taniaaust1- I hope you don't mind me offering my professional view of your diagnosis.Although you seem to have traits that match Aspergers and OCD, you could also have BPD.The main characteristics of BPD is self harm and antisocial behaviours, inability to accept things when things don't seem to go as planned, fear of abandoment from family and friends, and extreme manipulating attempts at keeping their family and friends when the fears are usually imagined. They often use aggression or intraversion, (which can also look like extreme shyness or depression) and use suicide attempts to manipulate situations.When you were diagnosed I wonder if your were showing these particular signs?People with Aspergers often shows signs of OCD but self harm is usually an unrelated symptom. Thanks for the post. The more feedback from people i get, the more it appears that I do have both issues. It was relationship issues (he'd made me feel uncared for and there was issues over him and another girl).. so i guess abandonment issues one could say which made me drive into a building that time which then got them to keep me in hospital, (where I wanted to be at the time.. i knew i needed to be there!! I was at high suicide risk, it wasnt a manipulate thing as I really did want to). When I several mths back cut myself with a razor across my wrist.. that wasnt manipulate either..as i really was playing russian roulette with myself/life and was quite prepared to allow myself to bleed to death if that occurred. I layed down bleeding to die, didnt care about dying. (cut wasnt deep enough thou thou i did need stitches, I saw doctor thou at home thou and she didnt have a stitch kit on her so she ended up having to superglue me back up), not wanting to live if one is abandoned is very BPD. The major fear of abandonment of partners is one of the things which is more along lines of BPD than Asperger's. Ive also thou gone to extreme lengths so someone dont leave me in the past to the point where I'll be doing whatever the other wants even if it isnt in my best benefit to keep him. for example.. my current partner slept with another without a condom. I was EXTREMELY upset about that when he told me 6 weeks after the event. I allow him to sleep with this other once per week (but he has had to promise to always wear a condom as I cant emotionally cope with the situation otherwise.. and as I fear so much that they will do it without one.. im currently insisting to be present too to make sure they do right thing by me). I will really accept far more what others will accept as I fear so much of being alone. Any normal person if their partner slept with another without condom.. probably wouldnt allow them to ever see the other again! I wont place stronger demands thou as I wont risk loosing my partner and do want him to be happy. (His happiness is very important to me). (ummm that whole sitution could be seen as very Asperger's too.. i dont know.. maybe im being taken Advantage of?) (this post isnt about my relationship, so i want no comments on that)............. Asperger's people apparently self harm too from what Ive read eg can end up with concussion due to head banging or explode into situations in which they arent watching their own safety or do other self harming things. My doctor thou says things like cutting isnt a common thou with Asperger's. Other Asperger's things I have which one wouldnt usually find in BPD.. Ive never been able to hold a pen/pencil correctly.. so have an immature grip. I tend to be a "loner" (except when it comes to partners who im obsessed with.. but ive read that Asperger's people can go overboard with affection etc when it comes to their partners.. or they can be the opposite liking not much contact with them). My interests and way of whole life match Asperger's to the solitary sports I did etc etc. I have trouble with organisation.. and have no sense of time, (I was always in trouble at school cause I never could arrive in time), other kids saw me as different so i was always teased etc etc "inability to accept things when things don't seem to go as planned" I do have that.. but that is both BPD and Asperger's. Asperger's people often hate change.. and things not going as planned can throw them into an emotional outburst. That happens to me.. I even have gotten extremely upset if someone has changed what they wanted for dinner on me (to the point that i cried and got upset and angry some over it)... as I dont cope with a situation suddenly changing. It takes me time to get my head around changes.
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • so are you on meds??? What do you want out of life? Were you abused when you were a kid? Do this with earnest: www.emofree.com
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies Flag this Response
  • I second EFT it's great!!!
    wasabi 17 Replies Flag this Response
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  • so are you on meds??? What do you want out of life? Were you abused when you were a kid? Do this with earnest: www.emofree.com Yes im currently on meds.. Rivotril aka Clonazepam, but that is due to the CFS/ME (its a neuro protector and meant to help slow down how my brain is firing) and also for the anxiety attacks I get. (and it's working well these.. i get anxiety of the time which comes on suddenly in situations, then goes away as soon as the situation is okay.. but with the Rivotril, it stops me reacting with anxiety in anxious situations). Im also on many different supplements. umm what do i want out of life. That question in my case is probably irrelevant and it's a case that I cant possibly have what I really want (at least right now due to the CFS/ME and if i go by statistics probably never). Im too unwell to be able to do what I'd like to be doing (I can only be upright for a couple of hrs a day or so due to POTS and the CFS/ME.. so most of my time, I need to spend it laying down.. i lay when on computer). So I cant really do the things I want to be doing. If I was well.. I'd go back to my studies and getting my qualifications.. What I'd really like to be is a doctor (before I was aiming to be a Naturopath).. but in my case now that isnt possible with my health. My near future wants is to just be well enough to do some voluteer work, but the volunteer associations wont accept me cause i cant be reliable due to the ME and POTS etc. Last time I went to one, I didnt even make it home as I nearly collapsed, a friend had to come and get me. My physical issues affect my life far more than my mental ones............. and yes I was badly abused as a child. Im not sure what that's got to do with things (thou i know that's linked with BPD).
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • HELLO!!! If the childhood abuse is what is causing your current problems then it might be a good place to start with a therapist...rather than ruining your hopes, dreams and aspirations over something you had no control over when you were a wee one...Naturopathy is a wonderful field and if you wanted to become a doctor in this field, why haven't you gone with it to help you get on your feet? You must have a belief in it otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to be a ND.Once again, you can regain power in your life with the help of EFTwww.emofree.comEFT makes you strong from the inside and does not depend on outside belief systems that involve any religion. Since you have so much time on your hands, I don't know how it can hurt you.or you can continue to vegetate and decline in body, spirit and quality of life. It seems like such a waste--the path that you're on. You are absorbing energy, but rather than cell phones, I imagine it's been the energy of negative people in your life and the long term affect that they have/are having on your day to day existence--which is lacking in quality.
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies Flag this Response
  • HELLO!!! If the childhood abuse is what is causing your current problems then it might be a good place to start with a therapist...rather than ruining your hopes, dreams and aspirations over something you had no control over when you were a wee one...Naturopathy is a wonderful field and if you wanted to become a doctor in this field, why haven't you gone with it to help you get on your feet? You must have a belief in it otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to be a ND.Once again, you can regain power in your life with the help of EFTwww.emofree.comEFT makes you strong from the inside and does not depend on outside belief systems that involve any religion. Since you have so much time on your hands, I don't know how it can hurt you.or you can continue to vegetate and decline in body, spirit and quality of life. It seems like such a waste--the path that you're on. You are absorbing energy, but rather than cell phones, I imagine it's been the energy of negative people in your life and the long term affect that they have/are having on your day to day existence--which is lacking in quality. Naturopathy is a wonderful field and if you wanted to become a doctor in this field, why haven't you gone with it to help you get on your feet? You must have a belief in it otherwise you wouldn't have wanted to be a ND. yes i did.. I was at college studying Naturopathy when I first got this illness... more than half the way throu a 4 yr diploma. If my issue was fixable like that ..with herbs, nutrition or doing healthy stuff eg meditation etc . I would of fixed it or had it fixed. Ive seen MANY natural therapists and spent $1000s on natural treatments. My current issues ARENT caused by my childhood. I cant even remember the abuse.. I cant remember my childhood at all and hence get no emotions when i try to even think about it, Im not even sad about my childhood or angry. (others thou have told me about the abuse). I had many factors which have helped trigger off my illness.. eg 1/ genetic (my cousin, nanna and uncle all have CFS or CFS linked illnesses.. my uncles is lifethreatening MCS like condition (anaphilactic shock to all kinds of things), it's amazing hes still alive). 2/ I have been overdosed on chemicals as a child eg fluoride overdosing..so have all pitted deformed teeth etc. I also was highly exposed to organophosphates. 3/ I had severe mono (something wrong with my immune system??? may be linked to the genetic stuff) 4/ My body has issues with it's nutrient conversions and cant convert things most peoples bodies can eg it dont convert D2 to D3, I also have polymorphisms affecting me which affect other nutrients in my body too. (and yes the hospital has given me large dosage of supplements for this and im still on them) 5/ My Autonomic nervous system is highly dysfunctional. (one specialist told me it was the worst he's seen). my body cant regulate it's BP.. so it widely swings high and low (not anything to do with stresses..it swings according to my posture). 6/ i have POTS (to the point were i go unconscious if i stand too long. Ive been unconcious according to another.. for up to 5 mins!Ive been kept in hospital due to going unconscious (due to physical stuff.. nothing to do with my emotions). 7/ If I over do physical activies.. I end up CFS "crashing" to the point where doctors have had me ambulanced to hospital on seeing me.. due to the extreme neuro issues I'll get eg tremors, no balance or coordination so cant walk, leg drag, hyperreflexia (abnormal reflexes), my pupils go uneven etc........... these are not the kind of issues therapy on working on my childhood can fix. This illness is much more than just being in my head. I get bothered when someone tries to tell me that working on my childhood can fix my body up. Ive seen MANY therapists..both natural ones.. and also medical ones eg neurologists, endocrinologists etc etc If EFT worked to fix neuro and other physical body issues.. it would be being used all the time for those things.
    taniaaust1 2,267 Replies Flag this Response
  • sorry i got bothered by your post. But the reality is that even if i do work on childhood trauma (trauma i dont even remember),.. and it managed to help some how the BPD. That wont fix CFS/ME (which is a mitochrondrial issue!!! the latest studies are all showing) so I still wont be like all great and able to go out to work again and do the things Id like to be doing, like you are saying. It's not realistic and if I didnt know so much about this illness.. I would say that you were being unfair by giving one with ME false hope. If ME was that fixable.. there wouldnt be so many of us on disability.
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  • I see; that's understandable since you have a physical illness(es). Sorry you are having such a hard life. Will send you good thoughts.
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  • It sounds to me as if you are trying very hard to ragain control of your life and yourself, and I am praying that you will do so! Perhaps you have both disorders that you mention. Why not? it would explain a lot, wouldn't it? If I may be so bold as to suggest interventions, have you looked at dietary changes, yeast issues, metal toxicity and supplements? You may need to find a DAN! doctor to help you. Or try the book with broccoli on the cover...Total Mind Solution i think it is called! God loves you. You were made in his image and you live for his glory. No matter your religion, remember you are here for divine reasons!
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  • I am a relationship coach. In the last few weeks I’ve discovered that many of my clients may have Asperger’s. I began a lot of research. I began to think my parents both had it, and some of my siblings. Then I thought I had it and all my sibling had it. What if……what if Asperger’s is only a catch-all for symptoms related to childhood pain and abuse? All Asperger’s symptoms can be traced to childhood trauma and neglect. Maybe the confusion about what is and what isn’t AS (and the question of co-diagnoses) is simply because all diagnoses for mental and emotional problems are adaptations to trauma—particularly childhood. (See Colin Ross for the book he wrote on this theme.) This would explain a lot. AND none of us want to think that we are so affected by our childhood that it could have such comprehensive and debilitating influences on our present life. I sure would have rather known that I had a neurological disorder to explain my pervasive emotional and mental challenges. On the other hand, dealing with my adaptations to childhood abuse has had me develop wonderful skills at helping myself and others. Maybe the truth is that I have been deeply wounded and I will spend the rest of my life re-learning and healing…and growing. A question I would like to have answered: Is there anyone who has AS who did not have difficult childhood abuse or neglect, or later adult trauma? (Note: I find that many people think they had great childhoods, but later find that the abuse or neglect was pervasive and subtle.) Or maybe a better question, since so many have had trauma to deal with, is there anyone who clearly doesn’t have AS traits AND who had a truly happy, safe, supportive childhood? I will be giving a lot more thought to this. Blessings to you all.
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  • After reading your thread, i am looking into what Asperger's Syndrome is. I have been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I believe i have been misdiagnosed. Look at my thread if you have a chance to hear my story: Borderline Personality Disorder Misdiagnosis / Nexus369. I recommend finding out as much as you can about any of your family illnesses and/or conditions. And to research things through books and internet and educate yourself as much as you can. Are you taking any medication? Certain medications are intended to treat multiple types of disorders. Apparantly, that's what my "doctor" did with me. Believe me, it's frustrating not knowing what condition that you have. It's been almost a decade of me not knowing for sure what i have. But one thing for sure is that the medication has kept me balanced. And in conjunction with that: journaling, meditating, uses healthy anger releases and leaving an abusive relationship has helped me tremendously. I am very curious to know what about Asperger's Syndrome is similar to BPD.
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