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Could I be infertile due to PID, chlamydia, undiagnosed???

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  • Posted By: faithhope777
  • February 21, 2007
  • 09:49 PM

Hello, first of all let me Thank You for providing this opportunity to tell my situation. I am desperate. I have no med. insurance yet. My husband and i just moved from Hawaii to California, but planing on moving to East Tennessee by the end of the year. Until then I will not have job or insurance. I also believe that we often if not almost always have underlying infections, that often get undiagnosed and untreated.

Please read my story. I am a 30 year old female, married 6 months. I am so worried that I may be infertile if not Sterile. I have not ever been to a fertility doctor or had fertility testing, so this is a self diagnosis based on my history. Can you tell me what you think, and what you think I could do for now, to stop going crazy with this thought.
My history is that at 17 I became pregnant. I was too scared to tell my parents, and I also had other fears going on so I regretabley had an abortion. Let me tell you my other fears. I made many horrible choices after I lost my virginity at 16. I then got a boyfriend and we began to have intercourse. After about my 10th time of EVER having sex in my life, we became pregnant. So I know I was fertile. Well before I found out i was pregnant, I had cheated on my boyfriend twice with someone of a risky type. I feel horrible admitting all of this. Well a week after cheating, I began to have symptoms of STD's, pain and burning during sex and urination. I was tested not quite sure for what STD's but anyways they were negative.
So also during this time, right before finding out I was pregnant and right after cheating I became extremely sick, turns out I had MONO, E.B.V, and the type of Hep. that goes away, I believe it is Hep. C, and anemia, one illness caused the other and so on and so forth. I thought I was dying, I thought I must for sure have HIV, but I selfishly was too scared to find out the truth of that and have to admit to boyfriend and parents about what I had been doing sexually. My boyfriend was a virgin before me and I KNOW was very faithful, he was so in love with me, he wanted our baby desperately and wanted to marry me, which made my decision to abort all the more horrible to deal with.
Looking back I don't know how I made it through that time. Immediately after the abortion I mean within an hour, I began to have extreme pain almost fainting from it, pain like I had never known, also bleeding a lot, and the scariest symptoms was that I could feel my insides (belly ) exploding, literally loud popping, I could feel and almost hear in my belly. I was to scared, traumatized and never wanted to go back to clinic, so unfortunately I never got that checked out.
So after abortion for the next year my boyfriend and I embarked on our selfish, and stupid plan to try to have a baby. I wanted to fill the void and the intense pain, sadness and guilt that made me cry myself to sleep every night. I never thought I believed in abortion, until it happened to me. I couldn't believe that I could kill my own child. Well we tried for a whole year and NEVER got pregnant. So I was sure I must have gotten PID or some horrible infection after abortion, that sterilized me.
My boyfriend and I broke up and I immediately began a monogamous 8 year long relationship from age 18-26. We always had unprotected sex, and though we never tried getting pregnant and ALWAYS used the pull-out method I knew that I should have gotten pregnant accidentally even with the pull out method. Never did get pregnant.
After that relationship ended for the next year and a half I began to have at least 4 or more one night stands always unprotected, always using pull- out method. Never got pregnant. I also had a relationships lasting at least 6 months, this one actually did ejaculate in me every time, Never got pregnant. I know he is fertile now, because I recently found out he became a father.
I was very self-destructive, did not see a future for myself, and with each horrible choice of unprotected sex, I sunk deeper into a pit of not caring for myself. All the while seemingly happy and normal to my parents.
Finally at 27 I became a born again Christian, ****s saved me. I met my now husband at church. He gave me the strength and love to go get tested Finally for HIV and chlamydia and gohnorrea, cause these are what I was most worried about. We both got tested, at the appropriate time for these diseases to show up, after at least 6 mos. since my last partner. we both tested NEGATIVE for all these.

We are now married and though are not trying just yet we want to soon. However I am scared to death that the guilts and pains of my past will haunt me forever, not being able to conceive my own child!. My husband know all my fears, and he thinks I should not worry about it and let the Lord take control. I believe and understand this, however I do know that without knowing the truth of my situation I will not be able to rest, to enjoy my life truly.

I come to you in the hopes that your educated opinions will finally help put to rest some of my worries. I recently went to Planned Parenthood clinic, for Pap and sTD retesting, just because I still wonder if they might have been wrong. Husband also thinks this is crazy , he says it is like i want something to be wrong , like I want to have something.

I just don't trust the testing that they do, it seems to simple, to easy to miss a disease, just through swab or urine testing, and your website has confirmed that my fears are correct in deed.
I also wanted to ask a health professional, aobut all my fears and tell my history, but unfortunately I was treated with a very rushed attitude, and the nurse practiitioner seemed almost annoyed by my questions and I feel she did not answer my questions.
1) I asked if I could have had STD during the 10 years between testing at 17 and 27, and have the STD clear up on it's own, and no longer show up on tests???? she just said No.
2) I asked if I could have had PID??? syptomless. She said " NO way, I would have to know because the pain is so intense I would have to be hospitalized eventually.
3) Can't PID be syptomless??? Also can it clear up on own, after causing permanent damage to repro. organs?? Or does it stay in your system until it is treated??
4) Have you ever heard of syptoms like those of what I felt after my abortion?? Exploding, popping in belly??
5) If I am in fact Infertile, what do you think is my chances of having children?? I know is basically not something you can truly answer without checking me out.

God Bless and thanks for letting me share my story,
Jessika

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  • Wow, first of all it sounds like you have been through alot. And you are still so young! You say you have found ****s, and that's great, but you also need to find forgiveness and forgive yourself for your destructive behaviour. People change and it sounds like you have, but you are still stuck in your past. I recommend either finding therapy or perhaps a self help book to help you let go of the past. You cannot be fully present in the hear and now if you always are thinking about what used to be... Try not to think about fertility. Try not to try too hard to have a baby. Stress is the biggest obstacle to fertility, especially in the US/ Concentrate instead on your own health and take the best quality prenatal supplement you can buy - take it now. Don't drink, don't smoke, and work on releasing your emotional baggage of the past. If you've had the testing for STD's and have no gynecological symptoms, then I wouldn't worry. If you have any symptoms like irregular periods, painful periods, and the like, then please post them. Sometimes it takes a long time to get pregnant, and it really is out of your hands in many ways. Please just enjoy being with your husband and yourself. Best wishes.DOM
    acuann 3,080 Replies
    • February 23, 2007
    • 05:13 AM
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  • I hope this is as close to what your health care professional would say. It sounds like you need to really see a OB/BYN and not a primary care doctor. So definitely pick up a self-helf book and continue on your spiritual course with your life partner, and let the specialist doctor in the area or OB/GYN review your history and do some tests to figure out where you stand. These questions are very common and I feel the specialist will solve your worries.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 23, 2007
    • 10:55 AM
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  • Thank you acuann,Your reply was very nice. You are right I guess I do have issues of not letting go of the past and not forgiving myself. I can't do anything about it. It is just that if I have destroyed my own reproductive organs and who knows what else because of my choices, that is what is so hard to deal with. To know that I was born perfectly healthy, as I know I was and that I did all the damage to myself, because of sex, how sad. I just received a shocking call from Planned Parenthood yesterday in fact, they told me I tested positive for high risk HPV, and need to go in for a coloposcopy, to check deeper for possible cervical cancer cells. Needless to say this just confirms even more my deep down instinct that something is wrong. I have been suffering from constant UTI like syptoms since my abortion, I am not saying it is because of that, no, it is because of all the sexual activity at young age, with different partners, unprotected. At least once a month , for the last at least 10 years I have pain and burning with urination, and usually that is accompanied by discomfort or dull ache in my lower abdomen during intercourse. Not to mention the fact that I truly believe the fact that I have not become pregnant once since that one time 13 years ago proves that something is wrong with my fertiliy, since I have not spent even more than 3 months since I was 16 without a boyfriend, and without having intercourse, unprotected always. There that is my worries and fears and now my reality in a nut shell, thanks for letting me vent again. I feel better. And I will start working on forgiving myself. I thought I truly had, because I know God has forgiven me, and if he has who am I to not forgive myself, right?OK thanks for caring, take care,Jessika
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 23, 2007
    • 04:29 PM
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  • Please do not be so ******n yourself. I hope they are able to help you with the HPV. You may have trouble with conceiving due to all the stress, but that doesn't necessarily mean you are infertile. If your reproductive organs have been damaged, that does not mean it is irreversible. Be kind to yourself! I think acupuncture would be very helpful to you. Please visit www.acufinder.com for more info. I have not worked with many women for infertility, but 2 out of 2 got pregnant, so that is pretty good odds! Best wishes.DOM
    acuann 3,080 Replies
    • February 25, 2007
    • 03:39 AM
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  • I was diagnosed with PID at the age of 18,I was told by my doctor that I would never be able to have children due to this disease scarring me. I regret to this day that I started having sex at an early age and not understanding the consequenses of these actions. In the beginning were careless and don't realize what kind of harm unprotected sex can bring. I'm now 31 years old, and have been in a relationship for 7 years and have yet to become pregnant. It is now taking a toll on my relationship,because my fiancee has been ready for marriage and a baby for two years and I can't seem to become pregnant, and I know it's because of PID. So now he's saying he's gotta find a wife who can reproduce, and I can't blame him for that. This is what UNPROTECTED SEX gets you when you're young and don't know what you're doing but think you do. To the lady, "good luck" on your efforts, but I think it's a waste of time to keep trying. ADPOT!
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  • I was diagnosed with PID at the age of 18,I was told by my doctor that I would never be able to have children due to this disease scarring me. I regret to this day that I started having sex at an early age and not understanding the consequenses of these actions. In the beginning were careless and don't realize what kind of harm unprotected sex can bring. I'm now 31 years old, and have been in a relationship for 7 years and have yet to become pregnant. It is now taking a toll on my relationship,because my fiancee has been ready for marriage and a baby for two years and I can't seem to become pregnant, and I know it's because of PID. So now he's saying he's gotta find a wife who can reproduce, and I can't blame him for that. This is what UNPROTECTED SEX gets you when you're young and don't know what you're doing but think you do. To the lady, "good luck" on your efforts, but I think it's a waste of time to keep trying. ADPOT! Wow - your fiance is horrible to say such things:eek:. Try acupuncture for infertility. It can help. I have treated a patient with a PID history who also had multiple miscarriages...it took awhile and she had a challenging pregnancy, but she delivered a lovely baby girl who is now nearly 2 years old. It is not impossible, and acupuncture CAN help! Best wishesDOM
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  • Don't believe that one person that said just give up- that it is hopeless. It may not be. I had PID and did not even know I had it till I went for my 1 yr check up (did not have it at previous check up- I go every yr) then the next year later got pregnant with no problems...I did not have chlamydia or any other std mine was caused by bacteria infection that is not from having sex- so you can get pid even if you don't have sex. It does not have to be from having sex and getting an std though most cases are from that...Anyway, there may be other simple things causing your problem. But, one of the best ways to find out if your tubes are blocked or something is by an hsg (hysterosalpingiogram) they shoot dye into your tubes and sometimes if they are just a little blocked the force of the dye will clear the tubes...I wouldn't give up if it is what you really want....
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • August 11, 2008
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  • Hi im 18 yrs old & live in Decatur,IL I just Graduted in May 08' Im going off to College to be a Dentist Im going SIUC.. & this yr i had PID but got treated for it. Can you plz hear my story. i lost my virginity at age 16 it was peer presure & tring to be "CooL" & then ontop of that he was "SUPPOSE" to be a Virgin to. but after i lost my Virginity i was Celibate for about an yr & then when i turn 18 Dec 9th we went to California to visit my father & her side of the family & his side soo on Christmas Break me & my mother went to California & my cousin he is 23yr old he Molested Me like 2 days b4 christmas & i never told my mom or dad cuase i knew they were going to go crazy .. but i told my younger male cousins that i am close to but they were upset so told they told my mom sisters and my mom has 6 sisters so we all talked about it but they wanted me to tell me my mom..i told them i would but still tell this DAY i HAVE NOT told her.. but i always promised my mom if this ever happen i would tell her but i feel like i let her down cause i didnt tell her then after my mom left on christmas day & went back to our home town. I stayed an this time i stayed wit my Dad side of the family i got Raped by one of my sisters Friends so everything was jus messed up & was jus dpressed & i got Drunk for the 1st time & my sister Friend Raped me again..So when i went back home i felt so low.. i statred back cuttin my arm & then i had this guy friend & i knew he had very many female partners.. & me an him was liking him an had been liking him for 3years but i didnt want to have intercourse wit him cause i knew he was so nasty So finnally i gave in he told me i was the only girl he was talkin to & that he loved me & wanted me to have his kid one day.. & but i knew it was all talk.. but i thought i liked him soo much so i was lik well why not.. we been liking each other this long so on thing lead to another an we had unprotected sex..{for the 1st time} so when he was inside me it was burning inside me.. so i told himt o stop & something was wrong & then he said he Thinks he nutted in me So when i wook the pregnancy test weeks later it says i was & then i was bleeding ofr like week or so So i knew i wasn't on my period because im only on for 4days.. so i took another test an it says i wasn't pregnant so i was confused so i thought i had a miscarriage so i went to Planned parent hood & the nurse told me that i was smart cause some girls dont know they've had a miscarriage & then she came back an told me i had Trick "Trickomonous"& she said if i had anything else in five days they would let me know..& i needed o tell my partner so he can get treated also & that we are not to have sex until he gets treated {But after this i was done with him}So i told him & he said he would.. but i didnt know for sure cause i didnt go to the doctor with him but in 5days she calls an says i have Gonorrhea so the next day i go get treated for it & take the pills But this time i didnt tell him cause i felt like he knew he had these STD's so after awhile we still cool But Not sexual He kept tellin me he wanted to make a baby But i dint fall for it.. So mothns later i told him i him i didnt want to hang with him or talk to him cause he was wrong for what he did..So lik a Month later he gets 4 other girls with Gonorrhea & Trick &Chlamydia So when i go to the Hospital in July 25 this yri was sick & had pnuemonia &then they tell me i have PID & wont be able to have kids..So ever since i been even more Down.. I jus want to know if i can in the future have kids because i dont want to get married an my husband wants to leave me because i cant have his child. i just worried..so worried that i think i need a counserlor or something. So thanks you for reading this
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • August 20, 2008
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  • Yes, you need major counseling. You need to find out why you participate in such destructive sexual behavior (well, your history of sexual abuse is clearly the reason). You need to commit yourself to getting better and being healthy. PID can lead to infertility, but not always and some things are reversible. Acupuncture can help immensely with this, as well as with psycho-emotional issues. I am sorry for all you have gone through, but now is the time to set things right and start taking care of yourself. I hope you find a good counselor to talk to. Best wishesDOM
    acuann 3,080 Replies
    • August 21, 2008
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  • Your HPV will be treated. What concerns me the most is that you have Hep C and you think it will go away. Wrong. Go back and get rechecked for hep, all types. You should have your HIV test back by now, too. You could also get blood work for syphilis and herpes 2. Hep C is a very serious disease and is contagious. You need to know if you have it and protect your husband. Kids make a lot of dumb mistakes that affects them throughout their lives. Don't be so ******n yourself and think of all the good things you are doing right now.
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies
    • August 21, 2008
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  • Hi dear i am 17, My name is joanne I'VE had a destructive behavior till i met this guy i have been for 2 YEARS NOW, i live in brooklyn new york, with my ex he made me felt like sex was all i was worth because i did not loved myself as much, had a rough past and i had chlamydia for over a year and a half i never really had any symptoms, beside burning when i'd pee after sex with my current boyfriend since pee is acidic i didn't thought of it as something so bad! LISTEN, i was recently about exactly 2 months ago, hospitalized for 5 days straight with a (PID) they never explained to me what it really was but i didn't knew if it was a complication, i had it twice because i gave it to him, and ive had it since the beginning of 2008 which was shortly after moven on from my ex its who i had it from, I FELT SO ASHAMED BECAUSE MY BOYFRIEND THOUGHT I CHEATED WHEN I HONESTLY DID NOT, WHEN I HAD EXPLAINED AND REALIZED THAT MY EX NEVER HAD BEEN TREATED I WAS SO YOUNG AND INNOCENT, PERSONALLY I BELEIVED HIM, HE WAS PASSING IT AROUND HE GAVE IT TO ME, I DIDNT KNEW **** I HAD TO BREAK UP WITH HIM BECAUSE I JUST HAD TO STOP THE ABUSE AND HE WAS CHEATING ON ME! that is why i broke up with him, now A PID which means ( pelvic inflammatory disease ) has a number of stds filled under sometimes can go unnoticable,that is another reason why i didnt knew before after leaving my ex i only did an hiv testing i never had a gyn till the middle of the year OF 2008, the first time i went to get tested i felt extremely rushed i was confused all said was you are going to be hospitalized - - , i was in out patient but obviously my current bf didnt get himself treated even if he told me he did i also beleived him :/, that experience made me scared to have sex, YOU SHOULD MOST DEFF GO SOMEWHERE ELSE IF YOU FEEL LIKE IN YOUR GUT SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT IT WAS JUST REALLY DEPRESSING AND SAD FOR ME TO GO THROUGH I CAN UNDERSTAND A LOT YOU HAD SAID WHICH IS PRETTY DEEP THAT NURSE SHOULD'VE BEEN FIRED BECAUSE SHE MISGUIDED YOU ( WHAT A dumb ****h ) UGH BUT I KNOW THAT FEELING, TRY AGAIN some doctors do no want to see the bigger picture even nurses or simply don't know, or just don't want you to worry but the first step to healing is knowing SO MOST DEFF TO A FERTILIZATION TEST - - AND GOODLUCK I NEVER KNEW OR UNDERSTOOD WHAT A PID WAS TILL NOW AND I AM VERY SCARED THAT I MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO FERTILIZE MYSELF ITS A VERY BAD GUILTY FEELING AND IT MAKES YOU FEEL SELF-WORTH OF NONE GLAD YOU GOTTA STRONG HUSBAND BY YOURSELF TILL NOW ME AND MY CURRENT BF HAVENT HAD A SEX. I WANT TO MAKE SURE AND I DO WANT TO MAKE THINGS WORK BECAUSE HE COMPLETE ME IN MANY DIFFERENT WAYS I AM TURNING 18 IN APRIL, CAN'T WAIT TO SEE WHAT NEXT YEAR BRINGS ME, I HAVE LEARNED MY LESSON UNPROTECTED SEX ONLY IF YOU ARE FAITHFUL AND ONLY HAS ONE PARTNER IS THE BEST, CONDOM NEVER HURTS EITHER. STAY STRONG YOU CAN ALWAYS RECOVER GIVE YOURSELF A BREAK, RIGHT NOW I AM GOING THROUGH THERAPY AND DOING A LOT MORE FOR ME !! CONTINUE TO DO SO FOR USELF.XOXOXO!! :)
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
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  • hey, i'm 17 and i got a phone call a couple of nights ago and it was the nurse, she told me i had chlaydia, i know this sounds silly but i really paniked, i felt sick, and i felt discusted. i had unprotected sex last year and i didn't get tested, last month i had protected sex, then last week i had unprotected sex, i cant even tell the last person i had unprotected sex with coz' i feel ashamed and discusted, iv been livin life with chlaymida 4 a year, i discust myself, dus this mean i will have PID? im reli sick and confused, please help!!!
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    • November 21, 2009
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