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How do I know if my son has Autism

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  • Posted By: stayceeb7432
  • January 15, 2007
  • 05:43 AM

My son does not make much eye contact, he doesnt speak or listen, and does not respond to his name. But in everything I read, autistic children do not like to be hugged, touched, smile, and laugh. My son does all these things. Still at times he walks on his toes and I don't know what to think. He will be 3 in 5 months and doesn't talk. Should I be worried

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  • Hi, I do know how you feel, my daughter, in my opinion, has mild autism. Not much eye contact, not very cuddly but does sometimes respond to hugs (not very often though), is obsessional about cleanliness, her bedroom is lined up and she knows if anything has been moved! I have never had much professional help but if you live in the uk, please call the national autistic helpline 0845 070 4004. They are so helpful and i gained more information from them in ten minutes then i have after ten years with the medical profession. They will go through check lists with you and also advise you what steps you will need to take to get a diagnosis. Do not give up, you will need persistence and a very strong will. Your child is still quite young so the help you may be able to get now will probably help enormously. Good luck!!!
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 15, 2007
    • 11:29 PM
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  • Hi.First off, Id say get his eyes and ears checked at the doctors to make sure theres no physical cause and explain your concerns to the doctor.If everything is ok, Id give it another 6 months as kids tend to have a way of doing things at their own pace. My brother was particularly ignorant and didnt speak till he was nearly 4 years old then just rambled on in full sentances!!If after another 6 months you're still concerned return to your doctor for more advice.If your child is happy, smiling, laughing and loving I shouldnt be too worried.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 15, 2007
    • 11:56 PM
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  • I agree that he needs testing to rule out hearing problems and such. I would suggest a very good treatment called Cranial Sacral Therapy, which is extremely helpful for children and a gentle form of massage. My friend does this therapy and has worked with autistic kids with amazing results (being able to attend regular school). It may be worth a try! Doctor of Oriental Medicine
    acuann 3,080 Replies
    • January 16, 2007
    • 01:31 AM
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  • has his growth been normal?
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 16, 2007
    • 11:57 AM
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  • there are different kinds of autism, or "spectrums". kids can be affected without meeting all of the characteristics involved. my 4 year old has a form called "pervasive development disorder". she has alot of symptoms that look like autism- but loves affection and touch. she makes eye contact but its a blank stare- not actually focused on the person shes speaking to - but through them. there are kids in our family with different degrees (or spectrums") of autism ranging between those that are almost unoticible to full blown with retardation and signiture symptoms like hand flapping/ spitting/whale song/etc. a good first step is an eye/ear/medical exam and a growth development chart (timeline of reaching age appropriate milestones like speech,walking,crawling, etc). a psychologist/psychiatrist can help pinpoint strengths and weaknesses in the child -resultingf in a more accurate diagnosis of what is affecting him. there are alot of good treatments like occupational/sensory therapy, joint compressions,relaxation techniques- and if needed- medications.good luck, and im glad your baby likes hugs too :)
    kamsae 88 Replies
    • January 18, 2007
    • 04:25 AM
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  • My son does not make much eye contact, he doesnt speak or listen, and does not respond to his name. But in everything I read, autistic children do not like to be hugged, touched, smile, and laugh. My son does all these things. Still at times he walks on his toes and I don't know what to think. He will be 3 in 5 months and doesn't talk. Should I be worriedHmm he might be phenylketonurian. Very soory. Have him tested.Basically, he might not have some special enzymes to neutralize synthetic chemical content in processed food- instead, the chemicals create toxicity in his brain and kill his brain cells.He can still live a good life.I hope I am mistaken. In the mean time, do not feed him anything processed or sugar.Take Care.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 18, 2007
    • 04:31 AM
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  • I'm an Early Intervention Specialist and I deal with evaluating kids with developmental delays and mental retardation. I work with kids that are birth to three years of age.I think it would be a good idea to have your child tested for autism. And please don't be worried about the actual "diagnosis". From your description, your child does sound like he has some of the symptoms of mild autism. The eye contact and the not wanting to be cuddled and hugged and kissed and the fact that he is not talking are some definite signs that something is going on. Has your doctor expressed any concern? Has his hearing been tested? Have you notified your local Help Me Grow for Speech Therapy or other services?If your son is diagnosed with autism, please don't feel like it is the end of the world. I have dealt with many autistic children in Early Intervention that were moderately to severely autistic, and it is very important to get the diagnosis early to start therapies. Therapies are very important in an autistic child's life. Two of the kids I worked with that were diagnosed with autism are now going to go to a regular classroom for Kindergarten. One of the moms just came up to me the other night at a basketball game and told the little boy to tell me the names of all of the trains he had. He named them all. And he even is giving hugs and kisses and saying "Love you". And making very good eye contact now. Where as before, he wouldn't make any eye contact, would not say a word, and did not like to be touched or be around crowds or out of his comfort zone.Another sign of autism is that many of the kids I work with have a comfort zone. Many children like to rock. Some will rock in a chair, on the floor or on the couch. This is their comfort zone. Does your child seem to have a comfort zone?I hope this helps. And keep us informed. I'll check back if you have any more questions.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 20, 2007
    • 03:24 AM
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  • I'm sorry. I thought that it said that he doesn't like to be hugged or cuddled. Sorry.One other thing? Do you think he understands you and hears you ok?
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 20, 2007
    • 03:28 AM
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  • I am a child care provider and I am sure that the child in my care has autism; his parents had his hearing and speech tested. She said that whoever tested him wanted them to call for more testing, but she did not say what kind of testing. This child has been in my care for almost three years and I have observed the " whale talk," no language development. Recently, we have gotten him to try to repeat some things that we say. He stares at his hands like he is fascinated with them and always have to have some type of object in his hands. His parents often allows him to walk around and come into the day care with medications, the home telephone and anything that he wants so that he does not cry and scream. He lines things up and only plays with puzzles, cars and colors ocassionally but would rather line up the crayons. He has been on vacation with his parents for two weeks and now he has seperation anxiety, and cries when they leave (normal kid thing, I know) but his is sever in that he truely whales for them all day. He understands instructions like, let's go to the bathroom. He pulls down his own pull-up and pants sits on the toilet but almost never uses it. He never has a bowel movement even though he might be holding his stomach in pain that he has to go. He follows instructions to sit down to eat, he can put things in the trash on demand, pick up things on demand, and even put on his own coat. But he has weird behavior, and does not talk. I am concerned that this beautiful little boy is being neglected of the care that he needs and deserves just because his parents do not want to admit (to me anyway) that he has some development issues. Please help or advise on how I can get through to the parents or what I should do to help teach him.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 17, 2008
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  • Did I just misread your question or did the others? It sound as if he has some of the traits but does like to hug and makes eye contact. My 10 year old son is definitely Autistic. His speech is limited, OCD, picky eater, melt downs, echolalia, hand flapping but he loves to be hugged and smuggled. He also will hold somebodies face and look into their eyes while smiling at them or speaking to them. The majority of those with Autism may not like to be touched or to look at you but, the signs you see on a list are not all true for all persons with Autism. Have an evaluation with your nearest Health Department, have his hearing tested and see a Neurologist. If those signs point to Autism and he continues to exibit some (but not all of the traits) it is most probably Autism. Now, push for his rights at school (the school system runs like a business and may try to hold back services to save money but the services are his right). READ READ READ and get involved in any orgaization that you can help with and will help you.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 2, 2008
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  • You refer these children to your local school district. I don't think the developmental specialist was very clear on that. Autism is diagnosed by a medical doctor, but first, his vision and hearing need to be evaluated. The school district will provide services for the family, which include pre-school classes, speech therapy and occupational therapy. The local district is required by Federal law to provide the services or to work with a neighboring district to provide services together. But the school district cannot make the "autism" call, but provide the services for the child after a M.D. makes the diagnosis. Developmental doctors are a nice specialty now, if you can find one. Once they have the diagnosis, they will have to do a psychological evaluation, along with speech and any other evaluation that the team deems necessary.As far as the parents acting like ostriches, unfortunately, bad parenting skills have hurt more than the one child you are caring for. You can pick up some "child find" brochures at your local school and have them out where all of your parents check in and hope that they take one. You can also give their name to the local district, but they sound like they don't want help and the decision to get help for their child would meet with more success if it were their decision and not your referral. If they don't sign up for the service, there won't be any given.
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies
    • October 3, 2008
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  • I just published a very informative post, Autism Symptoms Checklist that includes both the CHAT and M-CHAT. If you are not familiar with these screening checklists, you'll want to view my post. Best of luck to you!Karenhttp://www.MyQuirkyKid.comhttp://www.MyAutismStory.com
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  • has he had a hearing test? or maybe he is hearing impared
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  • Stacyceeb, It's been over two years and I saw this thread, was this ever resolved for you? Based on what you said two years ago it also sounds like something called Einstein Syndrome, this is where a child is delayed in speech (also avoids eye contact) but has the emotions of a typical child including those you mentioned. There are several good books on late talking children one that I would recommend is by an Economist Thomas Sowell who's on son was mis-diagnosed with autism but now shows no signs of autism and is very very bright, not in the idiot-savant way either.
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  • my son does not make much eye contact, he doesnt speak or listen, and does not respond to his name. But in everything i read, autistic children do not like to be hugged, touched, smile, and laugh. My son does all these things. Still at times he walks on his toes and i don't know what to think. He will be 3 in 5 months and doesn't talk. Should i be worriedmy nephew has autism and your case sound just like his. Autism is a condition no matter how we look at it but i dont think you should worry. Even tho your child may not be able to understand you like a child with out autism . There are ways that you both can communicate. As your child gets older the more he will learn and trust me you will be suprised because some of the thing that the docthor will say he will never do he more than likely will. We hung cd from my nephews cieling because when the sun lite hits them he loves the colors. He use to throw his food on the floor and would not eat but come to find out alot of autism kids have texture problems. A speciallest can help with that. My nephew loves to ride in the car and stick his hand out the window to feel the air. School will help alot and if you have a disabeld child they can start school as early as 2. Dont worry as bad as the condition is made out to be in time itwill be ok.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • September 13, 2009
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  • Hi...I'm 12 years old. i never talked until i was 5 years old. I have no Autism of any sort. i never talked/walked/crawled until 4 - 5 years old.If your that concerned take your child to a Specialist. All the best. :)Denholm
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • September 23, 2009
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  • I am a child care provider and I am sure that the child in my care has autism; his parents had his hearing and speech tested. She said that whoever tested him wanted them to call for more testing, but she did not say what kind of testing. This child has been in my care for almost three years and I have observed the " whale talk," no language development. Recently, we have gotten him to try to repeat some things that we say. He stares at his hands like he is fascinated with them and always have to have some type of object in his hands. His parents often allows him to walk around and come into the day care with medications, the home telephone and anything that he wants so that he does not cry and scream. He lines things up and only plays with puzzles, cars and colors ocassionally but would rather line up the crayons. He has been on vacation with his parents for two weeks and now he has seperation anxiety, and cries when they leave (normal kid thing, I know) but his is sever in that he truely whales for them all day. He understands instructions like, let's go to the bathroom. He pulls down his own pull-up and pants sits on the toilet but almost never uses it. He never has a bowel movement even though he might be holding his stomach in pain that he has to go. He follows instructions to sit down to eat, he can put things in the trash on demand, pick up things on demand, and even put on his own coat. But he has weird behavior, and does not talk. I am concerned that this beautiful little boy is being neglected of the care that he needs and deserves just because his parents do not want to admit (to me anyway) that he has some development issues. Please help or advise on how I can get through to the parents or what I should do to help teach him.My son has shown 95% of habits that you have described above. Its a year old post, so just wanted to find out how did the boy fare later, and how is he now. Thanks to everyone for their contributions.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 19, 2009
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  • my son was diagnosed with autism when he was five years old, he is now twenty years old.we struggled with him a long time now because of dangerous behaviors we had to place him in a facility. now they want to say he is not autistic because he is socialble and has good eye contact, he apears to have good understanding whe you talk to him. I told them that we taught him those things. he cannot talk but can get his message across.he is very destuctive with property, rocks, makes no friends with peers, only with staff. He use to have fair eye contact, lots better now. Hugs only when he wants to, insenitive to pain sometimes,other times very sensitive. out of the ordernary laughing, tears up everything, but very loving.
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  • Well, the sounds he makes doesnt have all that much to do with autism. Does he point at anything or attempt to bring your attention to something? Does he look at something when you find it startling or interesting? If not, those are very good signs of autism. Does he imitate? You already said you can get him to do things, and that is NOT an autistic norm.There are other things that can mimic autism. Lead poisoning is just one of them. How is his eye contact? If he has little or none, look at autism again...Kirstenmom to Dalton, 3 yrs autisticI am a child care provider and I am sure that the child in my care has autism; his parents had his hearing and speech tested. She said that whoever tested him wanted them to call for more testing, but she did not say what kind of testing. This child has been in my care for almost three years and I have observed the " whale talk," no language development. Recently, we have gotten him to try to repeat some things that we say. He stares at his hands like he is fascinated with them and always have to have some type of object in his hands. His parents often allows him to walk around and come into the day care with medications, the home telephone and anything that he wants so that he does not cry and scream. He lines things up and only plays with puzzles, cars and colors ocassionally but would rather line up the crayons. He has been on vacation with his parents for two weeks and now he has seperation anxiety, and cries when they leave (normal kid thing, I know) but his is sever in that he truely whales for them all day. He understands instructions like, let's go to the bathroom. He pulls down his own pull-up and pants sits on the toilet but almost never uses it. He never has a bowel movement even though he might be holding his stomach in pain that he has to go. He follows instructions to sit down to eat, he can put things in the trash on demand, pick up things on demand, and even put on his own coat. But he has weird behavior, and does not talk. I am concerned that this beautiful little boy is being neglected of the care that he needs and deserves just because his parents do not want to admit (to me anyway) that he has some development issues. Please help or advise on how I can get through to the parents or what I should do to help teach him.
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  • I completely disagree with the last poster, Autistic kids are all different. Im on the Autism spectrum myself and have been recently diagnosed offically with Aspergers. Autistic kids may learn by imitation. They may smile and laugh (I recently came across a poll on that at a aspie forum and was surprised to find that most laughed and smiled far more than i myself do). I love hugs and closeness.. thou i cant usually initiate it myself (except if its with my boyfriend) but i love it if another does. the original posters child sounded like he may be on the autism spectrum.
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