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29 years old, Total Loss of Libido, Zero Sex Drive in 6 Months

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  • Posted By: Unregistered128734
  • June 29, 2009
  • 07:38 AM

I'm a 29-year old male of asian descent, 5'9" and 145lbs. I exercise daily and try to eat healthy with whole grains, leafy greens, white meat, taking supplements such as vitamins and omega-3. I am happy with my work and life and don't feel much stress at all. I don't feel like I have any nagging psychological issues.

Since I turned 27, I noticed my sexual libido has declined extremely rapidly to almost zero since becoming 28. For the last 6 months, I have only felt sexually turned-on maybe once or twice. It seemed too low.

Last year I went to a doctor and he took my blood. He told me that my testosterone level was fine and that we all naturally start to lose our libido as we get older. But zero seems oddly low to me. He didn't seem to care. I spoke to a friend who is 42-years-old and he had sex twice last week. I think that is closer to normal. I doubt that I have enough interest now for once in a whole year.

I am looking for people who have been in a similar situation as me to tell me about their experiences and if they found any solution. Please don't reply if you do not have any experience and just have a random guess about what is going on. Currently my lack of libido is hurting my relationships with women, and also generally my energy level and drive to work and do other things is extremely low.

If you are a medical professional and have some advice, please let me know as well.

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  • Hi, I'm 28 white male 6ft3in 165lb, enjoy life!, no med probs, no drugs, eat very healthily, married. I never had a particularly high libido (on average maybe 1-2 time every 2 weeks) , but noticed about 18mths ago that it had almost disappeared. I had been married about 3mths but was and still am in a really good marriage. Even without really much libido at all, as soon as we began foreplay a "spark" would usually occur, and I'd be able to perform. Over time, though (and my loss of libido would occasionally creep into the back of my mind), I'd "think" myself out of the spark. We still have intercourse sometimes, but the frequency of my impotency has increased. My wife & I have been very open about this, so I certainly feel comfortable discussing with her...... I am trying to find out others who have had similar problems (or other good forums, what are some other good online sources/discussion groups?, etc). I'm a 29-year old male of asian descent, 5'9" and 145lbs. I exercise daily and try to eat healthy with whole grains, leafy greens, white meat, taking supplements such as vitamins and omega-3. I am happy with my work and life and don't feel much stress at all. I don't feel like I have any nagging psychological issues.Since I turned 27, I noticed my sexual libido has declined extremely rapidly to almost zero since becoming 28. For the last 6 months, I have only felt sexually turned-on maybe once or twice. It seemed too low.Last year I went to a doctor and he took my blood. He told me that my testosterone level was fine and that we all naturally start to lose our libido as we get older. But zero seems oddly low to me. He didn't seem to care. I spoke to a friend who is 42-years-old and he had sex twice last week. I think that is closer to normal. I doubt that I have enough interest now for once in a whole year.I am looking for people who have been in a similar situation as me to tell me about their experiences and if they found any solution. Please don't reply if you do not have any experience and just have a random guess about what is going on. Currently my lack of libido is hurting my relationships with women, and also generally my energy level and drive to work and do other things is extremely low.If you are a medical professional and have some advice, please let me know as well.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • August 28, 2009
    • 11:48 AM
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  • I'm a 29-year old male of asian descent, 5'9" and 145lbs. I exercise daily and try to eat healthy with whole grains, leafy greens, white meat, taking supplements such as vitamins and omega-3. I am happy with my work and life and don't feel much stress at all. I don't feel like I have any nagging psychological issues.I am also 29, asian, and pretty much your same build and eating habits. Very strange. The EXACT thing happened to me. I was planning on checking my testosterone. Doctors are very hesitant to prescibe testosterone bc of the many side effects and generally you want to avoid it. However, it is really upsetting to not have a libido. I remember actually being interested in ***n, whereas now, I have no interest even in that. Let me know if you found any solutions.....My only suggestion is to start lifing weights which naturally increases testostersone and therefore your drive.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • September 13, 2009
    • 06:43 AM
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  • I think if I'm honest it does sound a bit like you've not had any women around you to create that spark with!Women are very mysterious creatures. They do something to us men when they're around us which just works!If you've got no female friends I'd suggest you start trying to find some.
    dinky1 11 Replies
    • October 24, 2009
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  • You should probably get that checked out. Even if it’s not an STD it could be something else. It doesn't sound normal. But for STDs you should look out burning or some type of fluid.
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    • November 11, 2009
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  • RehabilitateI will recite all that I have accumulate as knowledge through reading some books and some internet’s articles and forums in a nutshell Stop watching all kinds of ***nAbove all, one must know that sex is produced inside the mind of person and not in his sexual organism. Therefore, ***n deforms the normal idea that human has about sex in his head. Sex must be sensual more than the involvement of any other senses. When we watch too much ***n, those natural information which are instinctively stored in our minds became more related to vision than to sense. I will explain further. Everyone knows that watching ***n creates excitement; that’s why many people use it as a prerequisite before passing to the real act. Here lies its danger that the viewer becomes more and more, and over the time, dependant on ***n (on vision) to create the needed excitement for being normally aroused to the point that he or she can no longer get aroused or excited by her or his partner. Another concrete evidence of this, if you watch a ***n movie, that you like so much, for the first you’ll get excited, of course, but less than if you watch it for a second and so forth if you watch it for the third time…..every time you get less excited than the previous one until it induces nothing in you in the end. So, you will need another movie more “hard core” than that one ….ultimately you will become frigid. The conclusion is that ***n is like a drug because it makes you addict to it and each time you use it you need to overdose to the extent that a normal woman can’t excite you in the end and, accordingly, you will be not able to erect. Masturbation is more harmful than any other thingDrugs and alcoholDrugs and alcohol (have substances which) stimulate dopamine receptors; hence the pleasurable feelings you get from them, and over the time, desensitize your brain to its own dopamine so that you get more of it to get the same effect. Heavy drinking can eventually harm your nerves, decrease sensitivity. Alcohol also kills nearly 20% of hormone testosterone and reduces your fertility levels with up to 50% by decreasing the sperm count and increasing the production of abnormal sperm.Quit Smoking Men who smoke are 50 percent more likely to suffer from impotence than men who do not smoke.Cigarettes contain nearly 4600chemicals including 43 known cancer-causing (carcinogenic) compounds and 400 other toxins. These include nicotine, tar, and carbon monoxide, as well as formaldehyde, ammonia, hydrogen cyanide, arsenic, and DDT. Nicotine acts as a vasoconstrictor. That is, it constricts the arteries and blood vessels—including those that are responsible for a man's erection. Nicotine also lowers testosterone and other hormone levels in the blood. And it increases the concentrations of fatty acids in the blood, leading to clogged arteries and further restricting blood flow to the genitals. Smoking injures the ability of blood vessels to respond to sexual stimuli. Normally blood vessels release a substance known as nitric oxide during sexual stimulation, resulting in the opening of the floodgates. Smokers release less nitric oxide and the blood vessels open less readily, resulting in a flaccid erection. It is still unknown whether nicotine or other products of cigarette smoke cause all the effects related to vascular damage. Cigarette smoking can also affect male fertility: smoking reduces the quality of semen. Doooooooooo sportStudies have come up with the fact that exercising (sport) increases both the level of dopamine and the number of its receptors in the brain which lead to more pleasure. Release and strengthen the circulation of blood in the body which means more blood enters inside the penis to make you have optimal erection. Never stop exercising sport.Exercise Kegels: to perform kegels you clench the pc muscles in the same way you would stop the urine midstream for 3 seconds (relax and repeat many times 10 to 15 times a day)Yoga can improve sexual stamina, an exercise called Bow Rose. To exercise this technique, you first lie on your stomach, bend your knees and bring your heals up towards the backside, grape a hold of your ankles, make sure that you rest on your stomach, the pull your ankles with your hands to raise your knees off the floor. Repeat this exercise as many as you like)Exercise the technique of “Pumping the prostate”.Learn the techniques of “Tantra” ForeplayingLearn techniques to prolong the foreplaying to make your partner fully aroused (studies showed that woman needs approximately 20 minutes to get totally aroused while man needs only 1 or 2 minutes). So don’t leave a part of her body without a touch. After finishing the foreplaying and just before insertion, take hold of your penis and rub its head with her clitoris many times and a long as possible without insertion.Food Eat very well (all kinds of vitamin B, Zinc, phosphor, Vitamin A, oxide nitric...)..Try to reduce consuming caffeineNever use boosting drugs like Viagra they will only harm you and abuse your energypsychoPsychologically speaking, you need to have some kind of distraction and avoid stress and depression because they substitute the libido and destroy hormone testosterone.Sleep enough.“Sex without love is no more than a masturbation”. Get married soon with a woman that you love, because love can create miracles.Be patient and give your body time to recuperate what you ruined during years.Pray Allah
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  • I'm a 29-year old male of asian descent, 5'9" and 145lbs. I exercise daily and try to eat healthy with whole grains, leafy greens, white meat, taking supplements such as vitamins and omega-3. I am happy with my work and life and don't feel much stress at all. I don't feel like I have any nagging psychological issues.Since I turned 27, I noticed my sexual libido has declined extremely rapidly to almost zero since becoming 28. For the last 6 months, I have only felt sexually turned-on maybe once or twice. It seemed too low.Last year I went to a doctor and he took my blood. He told me that my testosterone level was fine and that we all naturally start to lose our libido as we get older. But zero seems oddly low to me. He didn't seem to care. I spoke to a friend who is 42-years-old and he had sex twice last week. I think that is closer to normal. I doubt that I have enough interest now for once in a whole year.I am looking for people who have been in a similar situation as me to tell me about their experiences and if they found any solution. Please don't reply if you do not have any experience and just have a random guess about what is going on. Currently my lack of libido is hurting my relationships with women, and also generally my energy level and drive to work and do other things is extremely low.If you are a medical professional and have some advice, please let me know as well.My boyfriend is 31, 5'6 and 140 pounds. He has no libido at all and we haven't had sex in 3 months. He had blood work drawn and everything was fine with him accept he was vitamin C, D and B12 deficient so he is starting on that. He was also started on Ativan for anxiety and given a sleeping aid which he has not used. He is supposed to go today for a testosterone test to see if that could be causing the libido loss. We used to have sex 3-5 times a week but about a year ago his sex drive started getting less and less. We would go two months without having sex but this is the longest. Everything else is great with our relationship and we are very happy. He gets so upset with himself when he can't get in the mood when I want him to. It makes me feel better to know that he isn't the only guy that has this problem but I hope we figure out what is causing it soon because honestly I don't know if I can marry someone I can never have sex with...I want kids someday.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • November 5, 2010
    • 05:08 PM
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  • I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum, here. A 26 year old female.I used to have the highest sex drive of everyone I knew. My boyfriends always loved me because I was always up for anything and never 'had a headache' or didn't feel like it, or whatever.But now? I just don't feel it anymore, and for someone who used to love sex, it's really frightening. I never, ever want to have sex. I don't want to make out...I barely even want to be touched. I don't feel sexy, I don't find other people sexy...I just don't get turned on.I don't understand what the problem is. I went to a doctor and she completely blew me off.I was abused sexually as a child but I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it. If so, WHY is it bothering me NOW?This is ruining my relationship (I'm dating a guy who, of course, loves sex) and really diminishing how happy I am in life.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 16, 2011
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  • I am curious to know if things have gotten better--You said your boyfriend was diagnosed with Vitamin D defiiciency--this may have been the whole problem. I was having the same issue and went to an Doctor who deals with bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. She spent the time to figure out what was wrong- she did a lot of testing and the only two problems she found were estrogen dominance and Vitamin D deficiency. Since taking her recommended vitamin supplements and getting outside for 1/2 hr of exercise a day my sex drive is back where it used to be--or close to it anyway. Vitamin D messes with your mood and your libido. Anybody who has a doctor that doesnt take them seriously and do some testing should see a different doctor. My Ob/Gyn wanted to put me on Zoloft--I knew that wasnt the solution and that I must have some underlying imbalance. It makes no sense to treat one symptom (depression) and not get to the bottom of what is causing the various symptoms.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 25, 2011
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  • Please let me know when you find out what it is. I have been experiencing the same thing. I used to be VERY high libido. I used to have sex everyday.ever since I turned 28, I started to feel the drop of libido down to bottom. Now I'm 29. I don't get turn on, looking at hot women anymore. All tests came back normal. My doctor told me "this" is not a "health concern". I'm a 29-year old male of asian descent, 5'9" and 145lbs. I exercise daily and try to eat healthy with whole grains, leafy greens, white meat, taking supplements such as vitamins and omega-3. I am happy with my work and life and don't feel much stress at all. I don't feel like I have any nagging psychological issues.Since I turned 27, I noticed my sexual libido has declined extremely rapidly to almost zero since becoming 28. For the last 6 months, I have only felt sexually turned-on maybe once or twice. It seemed too low.Last year I went to a doctor and he took my blood. He told me that my testosterone level was fine and that we all naturally start to lose our libido as we get older. But zero seems oddly low to me. He didn't seem to care. I spoke to a friend who is 42-years-old and he had sex twice last week. I think that is closer to normal. I doubt that I have enough interest now for once in a whole year.I am looking for people who have been in a similar situation as me to tell me about their experiences and if they found any solution. Please don't reply if you do not have any experience and just have a random guess about what is going on. Currently my lack of libido is hurting my relationships with women, and also generally my energy level and drive to work and do other things is extremely low.If you are a medical professional and have some advice, please let me know as well.
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  • I'm a 24 year old male and I've been suffering from the same problem for some 5 years or so. I've been doing a lot of research on the internet and it is amazing the amount of guys under 30 suffering from the same conditions. One thing is for sure, doctors now very little about this and they will put you on antidepressants. Don't buy the psychological crap until you've tried everything else. Other thing I've noticed is that the so called normal range for testosterone levels are the same for 10 year olds and 80 year olds which is nonsense. There are many reports of young men with T levels considered normal but close to the inferior limit that had their symptoms desapeared after trying testosterone. So, try T before ruling it out! Also importantly, many of the guys in our situations have low vit D and sleep apnea ( and I suspect, low vit B12). I myself, had a huge improvement in my libido some 20 minutes after aplying the testosterone gel. But, since T replacement has many unpleasent side effects, now I'm trying to boost my T levels by dealing with my vit D defficiency and sleep apnea problems (there are scientific articles showing links between both sleep apnea and vit D defficiency with low testosterone). If I were you I would get your vitamins (especially D and B12) tested, make a sleep study, and try testosterone. I'll keep you posted when I find ore about it! Keep strong!
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  • I'm a 24 year old male and I've been suffering from the same problem for some 5 years or so. I've been doing a lot of research on the internet and it is amazing the amount of guys under 30 suffering from the same conditions. One thing is for sure, doctors now very little about this and they will put you on antidepressants. Don't buy the psychological crap until you've tried everything else. Other thing I've noticed is that the so called normal range for testosterone levels are the same for 10 year olds and 80 year olds which is nonsense. There are many reports of young men with T levels considered normal but close to the inferior limit that had their symptoms desapeared after trying testosterone. So, try T before ruling it out! Also importantly, many of the guys in our situations have low vit D and sleep apnea ( and I suspect, low vit B12). I myself, had a huge improvement in my libido some 20 minutes after aplying the testosterone gel. But, since T replacement has many unpleasent side effects, now I'm trying to boost my T levels by dealing with my vit D defficiency and sleep apnea problems (there are scientific articles showing links between both sleep apnea and vit D defficiency with low testosterone).If I were you I would get your vitamins (especially D and B12) tested, make a sleep study, and try testosterone.I'll keep you posted when I find ore about it!Keep strong! I've got the same problem and have some comments to add, no magic solution but hopefully we can all help each other by sharing our experiences. I'm 56, slim, fit, and have always taken care of myself and my body. I've never smoked and don't drink much. I exercise and have no health issues .... apart from this one. A little history, I've always had a high sex-drive and enjoyed sex, frequently. After my mid forties I began to notice a loss of virility - poorer erections, poorer arousal and less sexual pleasure. In what seemed a short time (probably less than a year) I became almost completely non-functional sexually. It was extremely diificult to obtain an erection and virtually impossible to reach orgasm. Moreover there was almost no sexual excitement or pleasure associated with orgasm. In short a major change had occurred, I had gone from being highly sexed to almost sexless in a year or so. A major disaster in personal terms. At first I put up with it and endured the frustrations of being non-functional, I suppose I hoped it would come back at some point. In the meantime I maintained by reasonably healthy lifestyle. Obviously my relationships suffered and life was more difficult. I cannot think of, or find, any factor to explain this sudden change. After several years I consulted my doctor, he was sympathetic and tried hard to assist me. After a series of blood tests it was found that my serum testosterone level was low, 6.2 nmol/L. This was very low for my age group (40-50's). All other blood factors tested normal and my doctor suggested testosterone replacement therapy. This did have some beneficial effects in that erections were easier and stronger (but not as good as prior to the problem) but did not seem a total solution.At that time I had assumed that my difficulties were primarily because of the difficulty in obtaining and maintaining a satisfactory erection, I suppose I assumed once that was fixed all would be well - how wrong I was !!! Once my testosterone level had been stabilised at a healthy level I came to realise that the fundamental problem was a complete lack of sex-drive, no arousal, no sexual excitement and therefore no orgasm. In simple terms the plumbing was working again and I didn' t feel a thing. I described it to the medical people as being in a sexual vacuum. I could remember what sex was like but couldn't feel it. Further tests were done but nothing was found. I exhausted the facilities the UK's National Health Service could offer. I decided to explore what private medicine could offer as I assumed they would have a wider spectrum of tests available if I was prepared to pay. To cut a long story short, I had many advanced tests, tried various types of hormone substitution and boosting but no real improvement was found. I think this problem is more common than the medical people realise because not everyone comes forward. It seems that medical science has not yet isolated and identified the actual problem so no cure is on the horizon. I remain convinced that the cause is biochemical rather than physical and its certainly not down to depression !!! My current status is that I continue on testosterone supplementation using testosterone gel (which is excellent) and use a little Levitra to improve arousal. For me I have found Levitra works better than Viagra or Cialis. I would welcome any new ideas or positive comments. Dave, UK
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  • I've got the same problem and have some comments to add, no magic solution but hopefully we can all help each other by sharing our experiences. I'm 56, slim, fit, and have always taken care of myself and my body. I've never smoked and don't drink much. I exercise and have no health issues .... apart from this one. A little history, I've always had a high sex-drive and enjoyed sex, frequently. After my mid forties I began to notice a loss of virility - poorer erections, poorer arousal and less sexual pleasure. In what seemed a short time (probably less than a year) I became almost completely non-functional sexually. It was extremely diificult to obtain an erection and virtually impossible to reach orgasm. Moreover there was almost no sexual excitement or pleasure associated with orgasm. In short a major change had occurred, I had gone from being highly sexed to almost sexless in a year or so. A major disaster in personal terms. At first I put up with it and endured the frustrations of being non-functional, I suppose I hoped it would come back at some point. In the meantime I maintained by reasonably healthy lifestyle. Obviously my relationships suffered and life was more difficult. I cannot think of, or find, any factor to explain this sudden change. After several years I consulted my doctor, he was sympathetic and tried hard to assist me. After a series of blood tests it was found that my serum testosterone level was low, 6.2 nmol/L. This was very low for my age group (40-50's). All other blood factors tested normal and my doctor suggested testosterone replacement therapy. This did have some beneficial effects in that erections were easier and stronger (but not as good as prior to the problem) but did not seem a total solution.At that time I had assumed that my difficulties were primarily because of the difficulty in obtaining and maintaining a satisfactory erection, I suppose I assumed once that was fixed all would be well - how wrong I was !!! Once my testosterone level had been stabilised at a healthy level I came to realise that the fundamental problem was a complete lack of sex-drive, no arousal, no sexual excitement and therefore no orgasm. In simple terms the plumbing was working again and I didn' t feel a thing. I described it to the medical people as being in a sexual vacuum. I could remember what sex was like but couldn't feel it. Further tests were done but nothing was found. I exhausted the facilities the UK's National Health Service could offer. I decided to explore what private medicine could offer as I assumed they would have a wider spectrum of tests available if I was prepared to pay. To cut a long story short, I had many advanced tests, tried various types of hormone substitution and boosting but no real improvement was found. I think this problem is more common than the medical people realise because not everyone comes forward. It seems that medical science has not yet isolated and identified the actual problem so no cure is on the horizon. I remain convinced that the cause is biochemical rather than physical and its certainly not down to depression !!! My current status is that I continue on testosterone supplementation using testosterone gel (which is excellent) and use a little Levitra to improve arousal. For me I have found Levitra works better than Viagra or Cialis. I would welcome any new ideas or positive comments. Dave, UKThat is a very clarifying description of what low libido is. Did you feel any increase in sexual urges or in the number or spontaneus sexual thoughts or erections at all after T therapy? Can you ejaculate now? Does it feel like an orgasm at all?talk to a doctor about Clomid. It is a medicine that makes your pituitary secrete hormones that will make your testicles produce more T. There are less side effects than T replacement and it seems to increase your T levels in a more natural way. I've read that T replacement will make your T levels high i the blood but low at the testicles. That doesn't happen with clomid. Since there are T receptor at the testicles it may be that the action of T on these receptors are linked to pleasure and sex drive. I'll start on clomid in a few days and I'll let you know it feels.Also please answer me: Did you have other symptoms of low T such as: being moody, antisocial behaviour, lack of energy, lack of strengh, etc.?
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  • I've got the same problem and have some comments to add, no magic solution but hopefully we can all help each other by sharing our experiences. I'm 56, slim, fit, and have always taken care of myself and my body. I've never smoked and don't drink much. I exercise and have no health issues .... apart from this one. A little history, I've always had a high sex-drive and enjoyed sex, frequently. After my mid forties I began to notice a loss of virility - poorer erections, poorer arousal and less sexual pleasure. In what seemed a short time (probably less than a year) I became almost completely non-functional sexually. It was extremely diificult to obtain an erection and virtually impossible to reach orgasm. Moreover there was almost no sexual excitement or pleasure associated with orgasm. In short a major change had occurred, I had gone from being highly sexed to almost sexless in a year or so. A major disaster in personal terms. At first I put up with it and endured the frustrations of being non-functional, I suppose I hoped it would come back at some point. In the meantime I maintained by reasonably healthy lifestyle. Obviously my relationships suffered and life was more difficult. I cannot think of, or find, any factor to explain this sudden change. After several years I consulted my doctor, he was sympathetic and tried hard to assist me. After a series of blood tests it was found that my serum testosterone level was low, 6.2 nmol/L. This was very low for my age group (40-50's). All other blood factors tested normal and my doctor suggested testosterone replacement therapy. This did have some beneficial effects in that erections were easier and stronger (but not as good as prior to the problem) but did not seem a total solution.At that time I had assumed that my difficulties were primarily because of the difficulty in obtaining and maintaining a satisfactory erection, I suppose I assumed once that was fixed all would be well - how wrong I was !!! Once my testosterone level had been stabilised at a healthy level I came to realise that the fundamental problem was a complete lack of sex-drive, no arousal, no sexual excitement and therefore no orgasm. In simple terms the plumbing was working again and I didn' t feel a thing. I described it to the medical people as being in a sexual vacuum. I could remember what sex was like but couldn't feel it. Further tests were done but nothing was found. I exhausted the facilities the UK's National Health Service could offer. I decided to explore what private medicine could offer as I assumed they would have a wider spectrum of tests available if I was prepared to pay. To cut a long story short, I had many advanced tests, tried various types of hormone substitution and boosting but no real improvement was found. I think this problem is more common than the medical people realise because not everyone comes forward. It seems that medical science has not yet isolated and identified the actual problem so no cure is on the horizon. I remain convinced that the cause is biochemical rather than physical and its certainly not down to depression !!! My current status is that I continue on testosterone supplementation using testosterone gel (which is excellent) and use a little Levitra to improve arousal. For me I have found Levitra works better than Viagra or Cialis. I would welcome any new ideas or positive comments. Dave, UKThat is a very clarifying description of what low libido is. Did you feel any increase in sexual urges or in the number or spontaneus sexual thoughts or erections at all after T therapy? Can you ejaculate now? Does it feel like an orgasm at all?talk to a doctor about Clomid. It is a medicine that makes your pituitary secrete hormones that will make your testicles produce more T. There are less side effects than T replacement and it seems to increase your T levels in a more natural way. I've read that T replacement will make your T levels high i the blood but low at the testicles. That doesn't happen with clomid. Since there are T receptor at the testicles it may be that the action of T on these receptors are linked to pleasure and sex drive. I'll start on clomid in a few days and I'll let you know it feels.Also please answer me: Did you have other symptoms of low T such as: being moody, antisocial behaviour, lack of energy, lack of strengh, etc.?
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  • I've got the same problem and have some comments to add, no magic solution but hopefully we can all help each other by sharing our experiences. I'm 56, slim, fit, and have always taken care of myself and my body. I've never smoked and don't drink much. I exercise and have no health issues .... apart from this one. A little history, I've always had a high sex-drive and enjoyed sex, frequently. After my mid forties I began to notice a loss of virility - poorer erections, poorer arousal and less sexual pleasure. In what seemed a short time (probably less than a year) I became almost completely non-functional sexually. It was extremely diificult to obtain an erection and virtually impossible to reach orgasm. Moreover there was almost no sexual excitement or pleasure associated with orgasm. In short a major change had occurred, I had gone from being highly sexed to almost sexless in a year or so. A major disaster in personal terms. At first I put up with it and endured the frustrations of being non-functional, I suppose I hoped it would come back at some point. In the meantime I maintained by reasonably healthy lifestyle. Obviously my relationships suffered and life was more difficult. I cannot think of, or find, any factor to explain this sudden change. After several years I consulted my doctor, he was sympathetic and tried hard to assist me. After a series of blood tests it was found that my serum testosterone level was low, 6.2 nmol/L. This was very low for my age group (40-50's). All other blood factors tested normal and my doctor suggested testosterone replacement therapy. This did have some beneficial effects in that erections were easier and stronger (but not as good as prior to the problem) but did not seem a total solution.At that time I had assumed that my difficulties were primarily because of the difficulty in obtaining and maintaining a satisfactory erection, I suppose I assumed once that was fixed all would be well - how wrong I was !!! Once my testosterone level had been stabilised at a healthy level I came to realise that the fundamental problem was a complete lack of sex-drive, no arousal, no sexual excitement and therefore no orgasm. In simple terms the plumbing was working again and I didn' t feel a thing. I described it to the medical people as being in a sexual vacuum. I could remember what sex was like but couldn't feel it. Further tests were done but nothing was found. I exhausted the facilities the UK's National Health Service could offer. I decided to explore what private medicine could offer as I assumed they would have a wider spectrum of tests available if I was prepared to pay. To cut a long story short, I had many advanced tests, tried various types of hormone substitution and boosting but no real improvement was found. I think this problem is more common than the medical people realise because not everyone comes forward. It seems that medical science has not yet isolated and identified the actual problem so no cure is on the horizon. I remain convinced that the cause is biochemical rather than physical and its certainly not down to depression !!! My current status is that I continue on testosterone supplementation using testosterone gel (which is excellent) and use a little Levitra to improve arousal. For me I have found Levitra works better than Viagra or Cialis. I would welcome any new ideas or positive comments. Dave, UKHey DaveUK,You should check and answer this http://lowlibidoyoungmen.blogspot.com/ I heard this guy is making some good discoveries and I think you can help him since you did a bunch of exams.
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  • That is a very clarifying description of what low libido is. Did you feel any increase in sexual urges or in the number or spontaneus sexual thoughts or erections at all after T therapy? Can you ejaculate now? Does it feel like an orgasm at all? talk to a doctor about Clomid. It is a medicine that makes your pituitary secrete hormones that will make your testicles produce more T. There are less side effects than T replacement and it seems to increase your T levels in a more natural way. I've read that T replacement will make your T levels high i the blood but low at the testicles. That doesn't happen with clomid. Since there are T receptor at the testicles it may be that the action of T on these receptors are linked to pleasure and sex drive. I'll start on clomid in a few days and I'll let you know it feels. Also please answer me: Did you have other symptoms of low T such as: being moody, antisocial behaviour, lack of energy, lack of strengh, etc.? Hi, No, I can't say that T replacement gave me back my previously frequent spontaneous erections, but I believe this is because my whole arousal mechanism is shot. After all when you think about it if you don't feel or sense the trigger than nothing much is going to happen. Basically more direct physical stimulus is now required - I can't think myself into an erection. Gentle touch of a partner does start the process and I've noticed it takes longer too. I used to go from non-aroused to fully erect and very erect at that in a few seconds (like the proverbial rocket), now it takes a minute or more. That would be nothing much to complain about if the rest of the process then functioned smoothly !! Yes, I can ejaculate and in fact strongly - If I manage to reach orgasm, which as I've said is a long, slow hit and miss affair. Its very wierd, I can see that I've ejaculated, I feel a general sense of relief but no pleasure during the build-up or at the point of orgasm. So no it doesn't feel like anything at all - unfortunately. As if i'm totally disconnected from pleasureable feelings. I have discussed other hormonal stimulators such as clomiphene (clomid) but they don't seem keen to even try an experiment. I'm not sure whether its licensed for general UK use. I have had pituitrary stimulation tests which apparently show that is functioning acceptably. There are lots of issues with T replacement I can mention, the blood test measures total serum testosterone, not the much smaller biologically-active proportion. Using external T in a meaningful dose completely shuts down your own production, the testicles then shrink and take a while to recover. Also the body modulates the T level during the 24 hour cycle and when sexually aroused - which is what you feel when you are "****y". So constant T is unnatural and probably does affect the psychosexual side. I didn't notice any other non-sexual symptoms which you mention, mood ok, strength and activity levels unaffected. I will be very interested to hear your story and clomid experiences. I do hope it works for you. Could you also tell us your approximate age and which country you are in ? David, UK
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  • If you are on the pill, try changing brands. When my wife started taking the pill, it killed her sex drive until she changed to a different birth control pill.I'm on the opposite side of the spectrum, here. A 26 year old female.I used to have the highest sex drive of everyone I knew. My boyfriends always loved me because I was always up for anything and never 'had a headache' or didn't feel like it, or whatever.But now? I just don't feel it anymore, and for someone who used to love sex, it's really frightening. I never, ever want to have sex. I don't want to make out...I barely even want to be touched. I don't feel sexy, I don't find other people sexy...I just don't get turned on.I don't understand what the problem is. I went to a doctor and she completely blew me off.I was abused sexually as a child but I'm not sure if that has anything to do with it. If so, WHY is it bothering me NOW?This is ruining my relationship (I'm dating a guy who, of course, loves sex) and really diminishing how happy I am in life.
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