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anus throbing pain after orgasm??

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • December 3, 2006
  • 06:50 AM

My husband has complainted about this bad throbbing pain in the anus after we had sex, he belives that the orgasm was so intense that the pressure caused it. the pain is so strong he can't sleep after that and when he does, the pain wakes him up. I told him he needed to get check but he doesn't belive is something. A few nights ago he told me he felt it again and couldn't sleep , I don't recall having sex that day w/ him.
can anybody give me an advice?, he is a healthy 31 yr old, physically active millitary guy that eats healthy too.

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  • My first guess is prostate cancer, but he does seem young for that.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • December 3, 2006
    • 08:05 AM
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  • Thanks for your suggestion I know this are some the simptoms and I don't think he has any of this below:A need to urinate frequently, especially at night;Difficulty starting urination or holding back urine;Weak or interrupted flow of urine;Painful or burning urination;Difficulty in having an erection;Painful ejaculation;Blood in urine or semen; orFrequent pain or stiffness in the lower back, hips, or upper thighs. Is just that pain, even thought I have noticed that if we drink the same amount of water he can go to the bathroom more often that me, I just tought he had a smaller bladder than me since he doesnt have pain during urination.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • December 3, 2006
    • 08:17 AM
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  • You could get some medical diagrams of the male interior anatomy to try and figure out which internal part of the body the pain is located in.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • December 3, 2006
    • 10:00 AM
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  • Rectal spasm? see if a medication such as a smooth muscle relaxor corrects it.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • December 3, 2006
    • 06:11 PM
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  • I had the same problem. tell him to go the doctor and get checked for Prostatitis. an infection of the prostate. 2 weeks of antibiotics will solve the problem. I am 27. ask him if he has ever jumped off of something and had a cramp like that after he landed. if so, that's more than likely what it is.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • December 9, 2006
    • 04:14 PM
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  • This is almost definitely prostatitis.
    Irradiated 23 Replies
    • December 15, 2006
    • 04:28 PM
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  • Could be a condition known as "proctalgia fugax", or possibly "levator ani", both harmless in themselves, but annoying. I've had this for decades, though it's gottenbetter as I've gotten older. There is no treatment as far as I'm aware.Your best bet is to have him consult his doctor to make sure there's nothing elseis going on e.g. prostatitis (no need to be shy about this with a doctor,they've seen it all and then some).For what it's worth, I've found that squatting down on my heels by the side of the bed helps the pain to subside. When partners ask what I'm doing,I explain that I have a cramp in my **s, which is exactly how it feels. Since I live inSan Francisco, they tell me this isn't even close to the weirdest thing they've everheard of....Best of luck...
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 7, 2007
    • 05:26 PM
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  • Everything I see about this is related to men, but I get the same issue (I'm a 24 year old female). Any ideas?
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 9, 2007
    • 07:41 PM
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  • To the women with the question...I have gotten this also ocassionally....I also get sharp pain in the rectum at times like a stabbing along with ocassional mucus...I am awaiting a colonscopy to rule outother things but was told it could be proctitis...not proctatitis...it is an inflammation of the lower part of the rectum. We'll see. Seems to go away when I walk around or sit up. Horrible feeling though while it lasts.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 17, 2007
    • 04:37 PM
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  • Hello I am a female and I also get this sometimes after sex or after a bowel movement. I find I have to walk around or just patiently wait for it to subside. It has brought me to tears at times. I've been paranoid it cancer or something. I just feel better knowing other people have this as well - I just wish I knew what it was.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies Flag this Response
  • I hope you are able to see this reply (i.e. email notification). I have had this for years.....no real way of determining how it is brought about. It used to happen to me whenever I would sleep with my right leg resting on my left leg, curled up. The only way I have been able to stop the pain almost instantly without waiting for it to subside is by putting direct pressure on it like sitting on a hard surface. Almost like squeezing the blood out of it which has led me to believe it is some sort of internal hemmrhoid. That is all I can think of. I have no cancer and have had a clean colonoscopy recently. I had a couple of polyps but I do not know if they caused any pain. I would say that when you experience it, sit on something really hard like the edge of the toilet seat and after it stops for at least a few minutes then get up. I have gotten up too quickly and it comes back.
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  • I had an anal fissure (tear in rectum because I went on a high fiber diet) There are 2 muscles in the rectum. 1 that you can control (outer) and one that is involuntary (inner). This muscle can cramp and spazm due to pain of go into a cramp and it makes going to the toilet painful while it is cramped due to the fact that it is closed tightly. I was given a compound that when applied allows the muscle to relaxe and the pain goes away. Over time it sorted itself out. When it is cramped, go for an exam and the doc will know if it is that or something else that is the problem.Hope that helps
    happyboy777 1 Replies
    • September 27, 2007
    • 03:06 AM
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  • about the pain close to the anus, i've been getting the same pain for about 1 year now, but i dont get it right after my first orgasm, it comes around between my second and third orgasm and really intensifies after having my forth orgasm. i have been reading on varoius forums and most responss inculde ED or an infection of the prostate. but the real problem is i'm only 25! can this be a seroius health issue since i'm so young or is sexual activities between my wife and i is too intense? my wife says that it might be a symptom of prostate cancer.. can anyone help me?a doctor also told me that a 19 year old also had the same pain. can anyone give some advice?rchsletter@yahoo.comthankx
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  • hi,good to hear i'm not alone. just thought i would add to what most of you are saying with what normally works to get rid of it. try 600-800mg of ibuprofein, sit in a hot (HOT) bath for 20 minutes. not totally convenient, but it beats laying awake in bed sweating and squirming (and worrying about cancer).good luck
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  • Has anyone figured this out?.. I have a very similar problem.. I tend to notice it when I orgasm more than once in a day, or one night after another. About 10 minutes after ejaculation, I can feel a slow growing pain near my rectum.. almost like I have to go number 2. The pain usually grows to be pretty instense. To a point where I'm really unable to take it and sometimes can't do anything but lay there in pain. When this first started happening, I would sit on the toilet thinking I had to crap, but nothing would happen. The pain usually lasts for about 15 minutes, and then just goes away pretty quickly. It seems to help if I hold a warm wash cloth between by rectum and balls. Or if I massage that area, that also helps a bit. But I want to know if this is just going to continue forever? or if there's a way to stop this from happening? I haven't asked my doctor about it yet. guess I have just been embarrassed. I'm only 31, so I'm hoping there isn't some kind of prostate cancer already developing.. blah!.. aging kind of sucks!
    kermit2paris 1 Replies
    • September 16, 2008
    • 03:12 AM
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  • I have he same problem. I reported to my doctor and he didn't think it was a serious problem. I received colon exams and check and everything came back normal. I found out that by putting pressure on the area it relive the pain. I decided to purchase a butt plug and use it. It was a great help, no pain while using it. No, I am not gay. This may help your husband. You can insert it for him or let him insert it during foreplay. Hopes this helps.
    Safezero 1 Replies
    • January 6, 2009
    • 07:22 PM
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  • I'm a 37 year old man and have been suffering from many of the same symptoms as all the men and women since I was 19 years old. It stopped for about 8 months after seeing Dr's at UCSF in SanFrancisco (Dr. Turek specifically). In the beginning I saw a specialist to thoroughly check my prostrate and everything came back normal. Dr. Turek explained that he see's many males in his office for the same issue's as all of us, but has a explanation for a cure. We finally came to the conclusion that this problem is more than likely a muscle spasm or a nerve issue. I know he was right. He started me on a 12 month study of a very minor anti-depressant to control the muscle and nerves. 6 months later I had no more symptoms. I decided to start weaning myself off the medication. It took another several months until I was pain free. I was prescribed Citalopram.I weaned myself off of the medicine and haven't taken it for about a year, however the pain has slowly started to return. I will go back on the medicine today and see if it works again.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 22, 2009
    • 05:09 AM
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  • Has anyone figured this out?.. I have a very similar problem.. I tend to notice it when I orgasm more than once in a day, or one night after another. About 10 minutes after ejaculation, I can feel a slow growing pain near my rectum.. almost like I have to go number 2. The pain usually grows to be pretty instense. To a point where I'm really unable to take it and sometimes can't do anything but lay there in pain. When this first started happening, I would sit on the toilet thinking I had to crap, but nothing would happen. The pain usually lasts for about 15 minutes, and then just goes away pretty quickly. It seems to help if I hold a warm wash cloth between by rectum and balls. Or if I massage that area, that also helps a bit. But I want to know if this is just going to continue forever? or if there's a way to stop this from happening? I haven't asked my doctor about it yet. guess I have just been embarrassed. I'm only 31, so I'm hoping there isn't some kind of prostate cancer already developing.. blah!.. aging kind of sucks!Read my posting 1-22-09
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • January 23, 2009
    • 05:22 AM
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  • I am a girl (wasn't always) and have the same problem. It started when I was 44, am now 47. I have "quit" sex all together as the result after is too unbearable. Not woth it. I believe it is a muscle spasm, and mentioned it to my chiropractor. He seemed uncomfortable about it and attributed it to my lower back problems. It does seem connected sensation-wise. I just tried again today and same thing, although not as severe, even though my back is fixed. I tried an enema but only temporary relief. I also considered that the spasms were caused by over working a muscle that, lets face it at my age, doesn't get very used.My partner misses sex, and so do I. Oh, well, back to abstainance I guess.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 15, 2009
    • 06:25 PM
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  • Ok, I am not a doctor but have seen one for this same problem, since I started getting the same pains. He said it was the contraction or tensing or the rectal muscles. Some night I would be sound asleep and the pain would wake me up. I would try different things to calm the pain even tylenol and nothing until I said, since it is a muscle and it is tense so I need to relax the muscle and I tries a piece of ice, I know it sound weird, but it worked and I would do the same every tiem I got the pain but it was unconfortable since the ice would melt and wet the bed so one day I tried rubbing vicks and Ureka!! it worked perfectly now when I have more than 2 orgasms adn before going to ben I apply the rubbing vicks in the anal inside you don;t need to go to deep, you just need to relax the muscle, It feels nice and cool. try it. I believe you may also try other ointments that relax muscles but I have sticked to Vicks. Hope this helps you as it has helped me and stop the sleepness nights.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • February 23, 2009
    • 02:50 AM
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