My GYN hasn't been a help with my issues. I don't have abnormal growths in my vagina, infection or cervix trauma. I am well lubricated also...
I think it's important to state that from the age of 5 to 15 I was regularly raped and sexually abused. I'm 31 now.
I have had consensual sex two times. The first time when I was 20, my boyfriend could not penetrate me in the missionary position saying I was too tight. Then on all fours he was able to penetrate and I no longer felt pain.
The second time was when I was 28. The man was able to penetrate but kept commenting on how tight I was. And I was in pain.
I've tried to not tense up. I felt no worry or concern during the sexual encounters. I knew I was safe and loved. Maybe someone can help me figure out what could be wrong. Is there a such thing as being "too tight"? What can I do?
---------------- The tightness is an issue as well when I had my boyfriends put their finger/fingers in me and thrusting. I bleed a lot and it's hard to get in there.
I thank anyone who has read all of that. Please help. It is almost leading to a possible break up because he fears he's hurting me and feels SO bad.