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sex problem....HELP!!!

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • September 18, 2006
  • 00:48 PM

My "hubby" and I have been together for a wee while now, and its all good...except for one thing....

When we met, he was very honest with me, and told me that it hurts him when he has sex.
The thing is, that in the few times we did get romantic and try to have sex, he groans, and its hard to tell if he's happy, or in pain....I dont want to hurt him.
I know its a delicate matter, and he doesnt like to talk about it (which is understandble). I was wondering if anyone could suggest why it hurts him, and if there is anything we could try to make it better for him.
We love each other so much, and want to have kids someday, but this seems impossable currently.....:(

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  • You should browse around the "wrong diagnosis" site. You'll find a ton of info onthe Symptoms, Disease, Diagnosis pages. They list causes for painful intercourseand lead you to help! I am searching for answers to why it hurts like ***l to havean orgasm! I tried all their suggestions...I still need an answer. I will be checking in to see if anyone posts new remedies. Good Luck, Tell your husband he's not alone!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 12, 2006
    • 05:33 AM
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  • Do you know anything about his problem? Does he feel the pain during sex or while ejaculating?There could be a very simple explanation.....that his foreskin cannot be retracted because it is stuck at the penis head and every retraction hurts or he may have a very short frenulum which again hurst when foreskin is forcefully retracted during sex.
    KnowSUMthings 153 Replies
    • December 29, 2006
    • 01:11 AM
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  • I once had a young friend approach me with the same problem he was having with his girlfriend (it hurting when he tried to have sex and he wanted to know what was wrong and what he could do about it). On questioning him further I found out that he'd never ever retracted his foreskin (even for washing) and hence was very very sensitive in that area.. too sensitive for sex. The area had never been touched. I suggested to him to each day.. try to gently start washing it, then once he could wash it and touch it without pain, to retract even if only a tiny bit, (just touching it with soap or in anyway hurt him at first due to its sensitivity, but within a week he could touch it without it hurting so much and within a couple of weeks.. his problem was solved. The extreme sensitivity had gone. I dont know if that is your husbands problem but Im sharing this just in case it is.
    taniaaust1 2267 Replies
    • January 3, 2007
    • 08:28 AM
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