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Re: Virgin women afraid of sex

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • December 1, 2007
  • 10:21 AM

I am a 27 year old virgin, and I feel like a freak, not a woman. I was in a 6 year relationship which recently ended mlostly because of my problem with sex. My boyfriend was the most understanding, loved me and said he would until I'm ready. The truth is I was sexually abused when i was a child by my step father, I have done yeas of counselling, even tried hypnotherapy, and couple therapy with my boyfriend (ex), nothing worked. Well i did improve over the years feeling comfortable being naked ad doing sexual things, but whenever we tried intercourse, my body andmind would freeze straight away and i'd back out. I had a real hope that after a couple of years with my boyfriend, I would eventually have sex, but it never happened. Although he said he understood my problem and would wait all his life, it broke us up after 6 years. It was more my descision, as Icouldn't hlp but feel abnormal and the reason for all our arguments, even if i tried not to, i felt pressured, by the relatonship by the society, by everything around me! Now, my ex wants me back, but i can't go back into a relationship without having solved this problem i have. Yo see, i have never even managed to insert a tampon inside, it' like a totally deny my vagina. I fee like my life is completely on standby. I'm scared of everything, I want t feel confident, but I know i'm not a womanyet... What is my problem? I cant stand this anymore!

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  • hey i just want you to know that i know where your coming from I was sexually abused starting when i was 4 and then when my parent found out we moved away from that and then my brother and his friends started and it was countless years till that ended.I am not afraid of sex but if i tell my boyfriend no then that means no and if he keeps trying to push it on me i will get very upset if you need some one to talk to you can email me at rachel1252006@hotmail.com xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
    rachel125 112 Replies
    • December 21, 2007
    • 10:01 AM
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  • Read this thread if you haven't already. http://forums.wrongdiagnosis.com/showthread.php?t=10111You are not alone in your struggles with this.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 4, 2008
    • 11:38 AM
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