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questions on genital herpes

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  • Posted By: newgirl
  • October 26, 2013
  • 07:14 AM

I am a woman in my 50s. I have had a total of 6 sexual partners in my life. I have been divorced for 10 years. In September of 2012 I ended a 2 year relationship to a man I was engaged to. I had found him engaging in cybersex. During our relationship, he had several excuses as to why he and I were not intimate often. I reacquainted with a past male friend and we began a relationship in February of this year. We split up in June for most of the month of July. Shortly after we split up, I noticed extreme pain in my leg............it was tender to touch, like it was on fire. Headache also, and in general just didn't feel right. That pain lasted a couple weeks, and I noticed what I thought was an ingrown hair in the leg crease of my buttocks. It went away, so I thought no further of it. My boyfriend and I got back together near the end of July, In August, I got the same pain in my leg, and the sore was a little bigger.....no larger than a quarter. I went to urgent care and after describing what I felt and a visual exam, I was told I had shingles and given an antiviral medicine. I shared this with my boyfriend, being embarrassed to have shingles, but I covered it with a bandaid and wore pjs when we slept together until the sore and pain was gone. during that time we had no sex as we didn't know if he had had chickenpox as a child and didn't want to infect him, as shingles can do. In October, I visited my regular doctor, who asked me about the shingles episode upon reviewing my chart. She was uncomfortable with a visual diagnosis, so had me have a blood test in case it was HSV2. I received a letter 2 weeks later from her stating it was not shingles, but it was HSV2. I shared this with my boyfriend.....the most humiliating and degrading feeling for me. I thought I would never say those words. He kept saying maybe I got it from him. But he also said he had never had any symptoms at all. I am so confused. Is it possible that the herpes has been in me for years and never broke out? I should mention that before I entered my relationship with my fiancé, I had a full sexual testing done. I never went into a relationship not knowing and not being able to show that I was clean if there was the possibility of a sexual relationship. The only time I didn't, is when I ended it with him and entered into the relationship I am now in. It is killing me inside. My current boyfriend said I shouldn't worry, , that its a common disease, and that he will stick with me. He said I need to just deal with it and be happy, that Im so insecure when I tell him how I feel. He said he will get tested, but he has to figure out when and how as it is embarrassing for him.. I n the past he has admitted to me that he slept with many women........there was never a shortage, in his words. He is also bipolar if that matters. Is it really possible that I could be experiencing my first outbreak with the pain, headache, etc. after over a year and 1/2, or is it more likely that this is a new infection from my current boyfriend? Im so confused...........

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