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Newly Married Honeymooning Please Help

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  • Posted By: betsyholmes
  • April 6, 2009
  • 05:18 PM

We got married... very very recently. In fact we are still on our honeymoon. Brad has been having some little problems. We have never been intimate before, I did not believe in sex before marriage, and Brad respects me, so he was ok with that.

I dont know if he is having some problems from his past or whatever, but he lasts exactly 30 seconds, I even counted. I 'borrowed' a pill of some kind of ED medicine from a couple in the next room, but that just made him all sweaty and dizzy, and scared the heck out of me.

We are travelling across the world, it is a big long honeymoon trip. We are having a great time, except that the sex part is causing a lot of heartache and frustration, at least for me, and i think it is bothering him too.

Two nights back I faked an orgasm, I didn't know what else to do, I don't want him to totally lose his confidence in himself.

One of my friends text messaged me this site http://zexiest.com She swears up and down that her boyfriend uses it and the Delayer Technique has helped him a lot. But I am scared , especially after that experience with the pill. I really freaked out when he started getting dizzy.

Have any of you tried it out? Also did I use the ED pill wrong on him? I have heard that penis pumps can help some men. But if so, which brand?

Please let me know your experience with ED pills and penis pumps and the delayer technique.

For right now, Brad is making up for all that with a lot of Australian kissing, if you know what I mean :) It is good, and he is so dedicated :) but I still want the real thing.....

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  • We got married... very very recently. In fact we are still on our honeymoon. Brad has been having some little problems. We have never been intimate before, I did not believe in sex before marriage, and Brad respects me, so he was ok with that. I dont know if he is having some problems from his past or whatever, but he lasts exactly 30 seconds, I even counted. I 'borrowed' a pill of some kind of ED medicine from a couple in the next room, but that just made him all sweaty and dizzy, and scared the heck out of me. We are travelling across the world, it is a big long honeymoon trip. We are having a great time, except that the sex part is causing a lot of heartache and frustration, at least for me, and i think it is bothering him too. Two nights back I faked an orgasm, I didn't know what else to do, I don't want him to totally lose his confidence in himself. One of my friends text messaged me this site http://zexiest.com She swears up and down that her boyfriend uses it and the Delayer Technique has helped him a lot. But I am scared , especially after that experience with the pill. I really freaked out when he started getting dizzy. Have any of you tried it out? Also did I use the ED pill wrong on him? I have heard that penis pumps can help some men. But if so, which brand? Please let me know your experience with ED pills and penis pumps and the delayer technique. For right now, Brad is making up for all that with a lot of Australian kissing, if you know what I mean :) It is good, and he is so dedicated :) but I still want the real thing.....I have been recently married and we had problems during our honeymoon. Infact, we had sex for very little time during a whole 15 day honeymoon.All the other couples were doing it and we were having problems.The Solution, just relax. Think of it as a Picnic and enjoy and let everything come naturally.For us, it helped when we did it in the mornings. I guess travelling and sight-seeing left me with very little energy to do it in the night. I would be sleepy. Mornings were always good. I could keep an erection for long.
    Spartan 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • Have him do oral sex for now. It might take a while for him to learn. Perhaps he is, like you, inexperienced. You could rent some porm movies when you get home so he could see how it's done :eek:.You can also try different positions. Try masterbating or something in front of him to show him what an orgasm looks like with you. Now, to base a life on "faking it" is not honest communication. Even if it hurts his feelings, he should have enough understanding that you are not being satisfied and until he learns to control his erection (if possible), that he needs to learn to satisfy you in other ways...whip out a ****o when he gives out and forge on until you get satisfied...that might not be the answer but it's better than a lie all your life.Look up EFT:www.emofree.comPractice it together with a positive affirmation, such as, "Even though I am new to sex, I can extend my errections by 30 seconds each time I have sex with my wife"..anything like that...
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • 2 suggestion:1. Try possitions where he is not "on top" I read this along time ago and it helped instantly. When he is on top, the blood pressure is the greatest on the bottom of the penis where the glands are he will go quicker. You be on top, on the side, or have him standing up, this will take away all the pressure and even it out 2. You did not mention your age which is OK. If he is fairly young, he can "recharge" fairly fast. You may try some hand/oral to get him off the first time, then is a perfect time for him to reciprocate. Then try regular sex(suggestion 1) when he is ready to go again. Usualy the second time around there is less sensation and he may last longer. I believe most men will attest to that.
    Mikey00 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • every mans first time it takes less than 30 secs and even if hes experienced he may just be so excited to have sex with you it goes quickly do what poster above said perform oral and then have sex it will deff work
    johnnywand 3 Replies Flag this Response
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