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missing piece

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • January 13, 2009
  • 03:59 AM

Ever since I was in high school all I wanted to do was be a stay at home mom. When I found out I was going to graduate second in my class I thought to myself it would be a waste of talent if I didn't go to college. So, I decided to got o school to become an obstetrician. I worked very hard in college and graduated with a B.S. in Biology and Chemistry and am currently pursuing a M.S. degree in genetics and developmental biology. My boyfriend of 7 years, now husband, and I got married this last fall and he and I have discussed starting a family, but I have been having so much success in my career (i.e. research awards, internships, jobs, M.S. degree, and assistantships) that I didn't want to waste it, you know. But its like all of the success is just distracting me from what I really want, a family. I have my entire life to continue my career, I am only 23... but with infertility running strong in both mine and my husbands family... I feel like I might miss the boat and I am terrified of that! He and I are both financially ready, and though we are renting we have the room and the time to start a family.... I just am so scared that if I wait and continue on the path I am on now, that I won't be able to have a baby, or even worse I will be so successful in my career I won't ever be home... It would absolutely kill me if I was not able to have the same close relationship with my children that my parents and I have........ I don't know what to do or what is the right thing to do :( I just feel like something is missing.

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  • First off, be sure that both you and your husband are in agreement about having a baby and both of you be emotionally ready. Its scary when there is infertility in the family but there are tests you can have done beforehand to check and be sure both you and your husband are compatible...his sperm...your reproductive organs are functioning etc Practice,practice,practice! I found after 3 children how fertile I was and its when you are really trying is when you are stressing out cus you really want to have a baby, its best to just let it happen naturally. You are right about the staying @ home mom thing, if its what you want, your career can take a back seat for awhile. With my first two children, I was back to work before they started walking. With my last child I stayed @ home for 12 yrs, my career was more important for the first two children and I regret it now cus I missed so much in their developments. I say, if you are feeling strongly about starting a family to do it while you are young Good Luck Hon As EvErCat
    kitcat50 8 Replies
    • January 13, 2009
    • 10:44 PM
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  • I think it is too, since you are posting online I can only duduce that you aren't ready.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • January 14, 2009
    • 00:29 AM
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