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issue with sex, need help

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  • Posted By: My quivers full
  • October 17, 2006
  • 04:10 AM

I have an issue which continues to cause my wife and I to have some major fights. I need your opinions and any help you may suggest.

I do not have a problem having sex with my wife, so no drugs needed for E.D. The issue is that my wife wants to have sex far more than I do. I am happy with maybe 1 or 2 times per week. She wants it a minimal of 3 times per week. Although I could gather up enough for one more go around, sex is not the focus of my life right now. I am out of work and am looking for a good job. I can't keep up a pace which I feel is not normal. A few weeks maybe but it is simply not in my desire for so much sex. She feels like I don't care for her, which I have said is not even close to the truth. She has told me that she has seen a doctor and that her hormonal levels are normal. I guess this must mean I'm the problem. I havn't been to a doctor to see if it's my hormones. Is sex a couple of times per week lower than normal? Do I need to be concerned? My wife doesn't have a problem with pornograghy, but is this some form of sex addiction?

I am trying to work out a solution that can satisfy the both of us and make us both feel fulfilled, but i feel like I'm the one expected to be something I'm not. any help would be appreciated.

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  • I have done a lot of research on sexual issues. I too seem to want it more than "normal". The key word though is NORMAL. I would think that you both will turn out to have normal hormone levels. It may be that she just has a higher sex drive than you. Ask yourselves this, has she always had this higher sex drive? Is this "normal" for her? You too, has your sex drive been about where it is now? unless there has been no significant changes to either of your sex drives then I would say you two are medically fine. However, if there has been drastic changes to the desire and want for sex, I'd get it checked out. You mention ***n. I'd be curious to know if that meant that she liked it or not. If so, then that may be part of your "compromise". Unless you two feel otherwise, then maybe she could find release by masturbation. With or without ***n, toys. And hey, you two may find that it brings spice to your life. you may enjoy taking the night off, and she may enjoy being watched!! You may find that you suddenly WANT IT even more!! Knowing you don't HAVE to helps ease tension. I'd have to guess that there are some issues with tension and guilt at the same time you two want to please eachother . Here-we-go-again- and hating-to-ask-for-it-again- puts strain and tension in the last place we need it in our lives. Good luck!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 25, 2006
    • 01:31 AM
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  • You Sound Like My Husbund, We Were Having The Same Problem I Was Wanting Sex Everyday. He Was Out Of Work When It Started It Was A Constant Issue That For Me To Became A Question Of Does My Husbund Love Me Still, Is He Attracted To Me Sexually, Is He Cheating? All These Questions Came Up And After Time He Got A Job And I Came To Realize That Most Of The Need Was In My Head I Felt Like I Needed Him To I Guess Be More Of A Man And Take Care Of Me Since He Had No Job, Not Realizing It But Was Substatuting Sex And His Domination In Bed For Him Being The Provider. Im Not Saying That It Completly Stoped After That It Was Still An Issue Even Though It Wasnt Everyday It Was Much More Often Then Him, So I Looked Into Differnt Options. I Took My Husbund To An "adult Book Store" And Told Him To Pick Something Out That He Liked And I Would Do The Same, Didnt Matter What It Was I Wouldnt Hold Anything Against Him And Would Consider Anything That He Wanted. Come To Find Out We Are Both Alot Kinkyer Then We Thought We Have Lots Of Toys And Our Sex Life Is Ohhh So Much Better, No Its A Matter Of Getting Him Off Me We Seriously Feel Like Were In Highschool And Dating Again. Be Daring Ya Never Know What Will HappenLots Of Luck,Satisfied
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 2, 2006
    • 09:16 PM
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  • I have an issue which continues to cause my wife and I to have some major fights. I need your opinions and any help you may suggest.I do not have a problem having sex with my wife, so no drugs needed for E.D. The issue is that my wife wants to have sex far more than I do. I am happy with maybe 1 or 2 times per week. She wants it a minimal of 3 times per week. Although I could gather up enough for one more go around, sex is not the focus of my life right now. I am out of work and am looking for a good job. I can't keep up a pace which I feel is not normal. A few weeks maybe but it is simply not in my desire for so much sex. She feels like I don't care for her, which I have said is not even close to the truth. She has told me that she has seen a doctor and that her hormonal levels are normal. I guess this must mean I'm the problem. I havn't been to a doctor to see if it's my hormones. Is sex a couple of times per week lower than normal? Do I need to be concerned? My wife doesn't have a problem with pornograghy, but is this some form of sex addiction?I am trying to work out a solution that can satisfy the both of us and make us both feel fulfilled, but i feel like I'm the one expected to be something I'm not. any help would be appreciated.I would also be upset with just two times a week. It is not sexual addiction it is called a need, or just enjoyment. You too need to figure this out because she may feel left out and not wanted even though you say that is not true. For me, two times per week is also little.
    KnowSUMthings 153 Replies
    • December 4, 2006
    • 01:25 PM
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