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  • Posted By: willieonlyone
  • October 2, 2006
  • 02:25 AM

I have been diagnosed with genital herpes and I take flamavir for outbreaks. These outbreaks are about 3 months apart now and after a course of medication, the symptoms go away. I am afraid to date anyone and feel I am destined to a life alone because of this disease. I wouldn't want to give it to anyone else, not to mention it is embarrassing.
Will there ever be a cure for genital herpes? What can I do to prevent outbreaks?
How should I be managing this?
I would appreciate your response. Also, I am afraid of passing this on to anyone else, therefor, I have stopped dating and live a lonely life. I feel like I am in this alone and it is a
big, dark secret I must carry to my grave. Please help.
Thanking you in advance.
W. B.

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  • I just talked to my doc today. He said there will be a cure for herpes in a few years! To avoid having outbreaks, take your Famvir once a day, use it as a suppressant instead of only when outbreaks occur. Don't feel isolated or alone, 1 out of 4 sexually active adults have it ( I think 60 million) Look for websites on meeting people w/ herpes... I caught a story on a show (like 20/20) about a woman that wondered how people like us get dates and deal w/ the embarrassment of telling a potential partner what we have. She created a site for herpes people to meet... It's a huge success!
    remedy13 24 Replies
    • December 12, 2006
    • 08:02 AM
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  • i just wanted to let you know that my sister was diagnosed with genital herpes about 4 years ago. since then she's had two boyfriends and lived a happy healthy life. shes was really upset at first which is expected...but what can you do? she started working here (in cinci where i'm from) and actually just moved to new york city to a new job there and to see her boyfriend more:D. its okay...smile. everything will be fine, i promise!
    kels01 15 Replies
    • January 6, 2007
    • 00:11 AM
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  • Believe it or not, I was diagnosed and have lived with genital herpes for almost 25 years. I take a perscription drug called Valtrex...1 tablet daily. Although this does not cure herpes, over time it lessons the number of outbreaks and greatly reduces the pain and severity. When I first got herpes, my outbreaks were as frequent as 2-3 times a month. Now, I have an outbreak no more than once a year. And when I do get one, it is tolerable...not nearly so painful. A little bit of external ointment called Zovirax is also helpful with the pain. Your doctor can perscribe this for you.Anyway, I've been happily married for almost 20 years. When I feel an outbreak coming on I just tell my husband I'm off limits for a while. He has not contracted herpes in all these years.When I was first diagnosed, I thought it was the end of the world. Believe me it is not. You can still have a great sex life.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 06:41 PM
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  • First of all, genital herpes does not affect fertility, very rarely causes complications and is treatable and manageable. Moreover, it is extremely common.Herpes virus is most likely to be transmitted during outbreaks. Over time, recurrences of herpes outbreaks tend to decrease. Antiviral medications (like famvir, valtrex) can reduce viral shedding by about 80 - 90%. Valtrex 500 mg once a day can reduce transmission by about 50%.Myths & facts about herpes
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  • is it really a few years away??
    sk8er4life 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • I joined antopia.com to meet others, but I haven't, yet... We are waiting for that cure. What does your doctor know that my doctor doesn't know? I know they have a chicken pox vaccine, so they should have a herpes vaccine easily, but I think the drug manufacturers don't want to loose the business with all these millions infected...they'll hold off on that cure...
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
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