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HIV?AIDS am i worrying too much, please help

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  • Posted By: Verystupidyoungman
  • March 13, 2007
  • 10:33 PM

Hi, I thought i would post here as i am very worried. Almost 2 yrs ago i had unprotected sex with a *********e when i was in Thailand. At the time i was going through a very bad period of my life as a very close family member was dying, possibly the worst period of my life so far and i was drunk and just did'nt care at the time, no point in saying it just happened. Ever since i have been really worried, although my whole life i have always worried about things as its my nature. About a month after i came home i was at work and remember feeling queezy, so i went home and i did have a fever and was vomiting quite a bit, although i had just eaten some greesy rolls and bacon and chips, as soon as i ate them thats when i really started to feel bad. I have had colds since, nothing major that i had to go to doctors about or anything, and i do live in an extremely cold country. i do get sweat patches under my arms a fair bit. And sometimes was waking in the morning with a lot of sweat although my room is small and the window always closed and the heater at full blast.

The girl i had sex with worked in someones bar that i knew and he had said everything would be fine. But now im always checking myself, if a spot appears i worry. Its hard to describe but on my arms my skin has white coming through even though i have tanned skin their not flaky just white coloured skin against the tanned of my other skin, my doctor says its a change of climate or anything as i travel a bit. Around my cheekbones i have little white spots, although i have had them before i even had this sex as i have had bad skin when i was young.

Recently i just came back from a 4 month trip, during my trip i had red blotches briefly appeared on my arms and stomach, but i had been severly bitten by mosquitos and they went away after a few days.

I havent ever really lost weight, if anything i have put weight on, i checked my weight regurarly and it roughly stayed the same. I eat like a horse and go to the gym 3 or 4 times a week and play 5's once or twice a week. Currently i have been unemployed for about 2 years and find when i come back from the gym although i think i should be feeling energized i feel like going to bed as i have nothing really to do until the next day when i may go to the gym again. I also noticed under my eye lid many months ago a little white spot, its never went away but then again i never checked my eyelids until after that, so dont know if its always been there, again my doctor said it could be a little cyst.

At the top of my kneck, at the back when i move my head it feels slightly sore but only when i stretch my kneck do i feel it or when im smoking.

I do have little white spots on my tongue from time to time but must admit until i read about symptoms of HIV/AIDS i never brushed my teeth and had very bad gums for a long time before i went away, but when i brush my teeth and use proper mouthwash i have no spots there really. For a while i was getting pains behind my eyes, i am supposed to wear glasses but never have. Around my cheekbones i have dry skin from time to time, as i write this now it is dry and feels hot, not feverish just hot, ii do keep my home warm and pick away at it a lot. i am fairly young and never realised you could contact STD from oral sex and whilst i was away i did have woman perform oral sex on me.

I feel like an idiot now as my family need the support during a difficult time and i feel so selfish for not protecting myself. I know the only real way to know is to have a test, i understand that, but i also know my nature and i dont know if i could handle the wait, and also my family have enough to deal with without the worry of wondering if i ave done something extremely stupid.

People i have spoken to have said that after all this time, and the amount of excerise and eating i do(cheeky buggers lol) that i should stop worrying and get on with my life, I have suffered from depression since i lost a close relative and also the doctor feels i have bad anxiety and im a natural worrier. When i was recently away travelling i was trekking and almost always doing something so never felt so tired or worried. Could anyone tell me their opinions on this, am i worrying too much, should i get on with my life.

I must stress i have never had sexual intercourse since this episode as the way i look at things if im so woried about it i would'nt do it to anyone else. And i also know the only sure way of knowing is a test which someday i will hopefully have the courage to take.

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  • why don't you just go get tested?
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • Yes, please just go get tested. Then you can clearly put this out of your mind! This is not just for yourself either, but for your family and any current relationships you have. Just do it! Best wishesDOM
    acuann 3080 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thanx guys for the replies, i will get myself tested. I was just wondering if i should be as worried as i am, do you think these are symptoms of hiv or just anxiety, and obviously i will get tested no matter.
    Verystupidyoungman 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • Thanx guys for the replies, i will get myself tested. I was just wondering if i should be as worried as i am, do you think these are symptoms of hiv or just anxiety, and obviously i will get tested no matter.We cannot say if your symptoms are HIV related. As far as I know, HIV only shows some time after contracting the virus ( within three to six weeks after exposure to the virus), an infected person suffers from flu-like symptoms that last for two weeks.After that, a person rarely gets any other symptoms until they get sick from AIDS. Of course, this warries from one person to another but other HIV related symptoms include:rapid weight loss, Dry cough, Recurring fever or profuse night sweats, profound and unexplained fatigue, Diarrhea that lasts for more than a week, White spots or unusual blemishes on the tongue, in the mouth, or in the throat, Pneumonia, Memory loss, depression, and other neurological disorders, etcNo question asked you should have it checked......should have done it long time ago to ease your mind but you said it yourself that worrying's in your nature and this is also why you could be noticing all the symptoms that you otherwise wouldn't have. Anyway, the point is that you need to get tested....but you already knew that! Good luck and let us know!!!
    KnowSUMthings 153 Replies Flag this Response
  • I'm sorry to hear about that. I hope that everything worked out for the best. Did you ever get tested, if so what were the results.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 29, 2007
    • 04:37 AM
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  • I have to ask a question on this forum about HIV.To start off, I should note that I think I may have anxiety problems.... I was worrying about HIV constantly when I was 10 years old because I kissed a girl.I've always worried about stuff out of my control, and usuall those worries are not justified.In this case, I am newly engaged and I am so worried that I passed something on to my new fiance that I just cant get tested yet. I know it sounds silly, but I am petrified of getting tested I start shaking thinking about it.Im just asking for an opinion of my chances that I got infected.I slept with 4 girls during a 1 year span about 2 years ago. 1 was an escort, 1 was a stranger and 2 were known to me. All of the encounters were 1 night stands, and all of them were vaginal only. 3 of them were with protection. The 1 that wasnt is known to me to this day, and as far as I know she isnt infected with anything.The 2 girls who were not the escort, I penetrated with fingers and gave oral sex to as well.Honestly, what are my chances that I picked something up? I dont think I have had any symptoms though my fiance often has a sore throat or a cold.I also experieced a very bad 24 hour flu during that 1 month period... but it lasted for only 1 night and I cant remember when I got it relation to when I slept with the girls.Just looking for some stats, as I dont know much about which methods of transmisiions are riskier than others.Thanks
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 7, 2008
    • 06:58 AM
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  • worrying gets us nowhere... testing is the only way 2 critically attack the problem 1st hand... i have enlarged lymph nodes thruout my body but i've been feeling them even before i lost my virginity(atleast 1 under my arm)... the only girl i ever had sex with was tested already so she told me i hav nothing to worry about... i wen2 the doctor and he told me that i shudnt worry becuz my lymph nodes arent 2 enlarged (under 1cm)... he said its becuz i'm a teen and i'm very small so thats why i can feel them... i've never had night sweats, fever or any other symptoms and my lymph nodes do not hurt... my blood work revealed that my white blood cells and other stuff is completely normal and i'm at a lost as to why i can feel my lymph nodes... i'm xtremely scared and i need reassurance... i had an hiv test and i'm awaiting the results... the only other encounters were oral sex i recieved from 2 females around my age about 3 yrs ago(one has a child now and the other goes 2 skool with me and looks perfectly healthy)... cud i hav contracted hiv?... plezzz help me put my heart and mind at ease
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 10, 2008
    • 07:29 PM
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  • don't worry i am just like you. Unfortunetely, we are natural worriers! i read your article and right away i recognized how u feel because i feel the same way. We have the same worriful thoughts. I understand how u dont want to get a reply like "you should get tested right away!" This makes you feel even more uncomfortable! Like you probably have it already. It is not that easy to get aids even though we think it is. Your article helped me realize its not just me that feels like this. You dont have to wait two weeks for the result. There are places that can do it in 20 min, all they do is only take a drop of your blood After i was tested i was extremely releived, then about a month later i started having doubts again even though i was sleeping with the same girl i had for 4 years. I also am scared to even sleep with anybody new because the nagging worry in my head of "what if they have aids" will not stop. I understand how painful this chronic fear is !!!! lets hope we can overcome it. GOOD LUCK, I mean it!!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • I really don't know how to write this story as I feel so fraught with worry. I live in Bangkok Thailand and went out with many girls throwing caution to the wind having unprotected sex. I ended up getting Gonorrhea and had an HIV test and was given the all clear. About a month later done the SAME AGAIN, this time just got a test for Gonorrhea, but’ no test for HIV as I was too worried. I never got any symptoms whatsoever like flue, diarrhea, nausea or anything else, this being more than a year ago. I met a beautiful girl who had never ever 100% had sex before, and was the happiest man on the Planet. One day I noticed these itchy rashes on my lower back and buttocks. They started to get worse and made a visit to a local Dr who told me it was herpes. I was horrified as my girlfriend was heavily pregnant and never wanted to tell her incase she miscarried or something. She had to have blood tests during the pregnancy for allsorts, the results showed she never had any infections. She went back to her country to have the baby which was born just over 2 months ago. My problems just started then - I noticed a few more outbreaks of herpes and noticed little spots all over my arms and back ( I took this for prickly heat since it is a very hot country) that never itched and disappeared again. Just five days ago I lost my appetite completely; know I need to be tested again. I have told nobody as the pain this will cause will be tremendous to family and friends. I'm smoking like a trooper and drinking heavily which just adds to my agony. I feel suicidal and pray to God to help me, but dreading the results. I feel awful writing this story, and would love some reply that may give me some hope that I maybe okay and need not worry.
    Total Idiot 1 Replies Flag this Response
  • Good name for yourself; like someone said, "Why don't you get tested?" That's nice that you exposed a virgin to herpes and anything else you don't get tested for, along with getting her pregnant. You're not even thinking about your child; you're just thinking selfish suicide thoughts right now and you don't do anything about your worries.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies Flag this Response
  • I really don't know how to write this story as I feel so fraught with worry. I live in Bangkok Thailand and went out with many girls throwing caution to the wind having unprotected sex. I ended up getting Gonorrhea and had an HIV test and was given the all clear. About a month later done the SAME AGAIN, this time just got a test for Gonorrhea, but’ no test for HIV as I was too worried. I never got any symptoms whatsoever like flue, diarrhea, nausea or anything else, this being more than a year ago. I met a beautiful girl who had never ever 100% had sex before, and was the happiest man on the Planet. One day I noticed these itchy rashes on my lower back and buttocks. They started to get worse and made a visit to a local Dr who told me it was herpes. I was horrified as my girlfriend was heavily pregnant and never wanted to tell her incase she miscarried or something. She had to have blood tests during the pregnancy for allsorts, the results showed she never had any infections. She went back to her country to have the baby which was born just over 2 months ago. My problems just started then - I noticed a few more outbreaks of herpes and noticed little spots all over my arms and back ( I took this for prickly heat since it is a very hot country) that never itched and disappeared again. Just five days ago I lost my appetite completely; know I need to be tested again. I have told nobody as the pain this will cause will be tremendous to family and friends. I'm smoking like a trooper and drinking heavily which just adds to my agony. I feel suicidal and pray to God to help me, but dreading the results. I feel awful writing this story, and would love some reply that may give me some hope that I maybe okay and need not worry. Get yourself some good therapy to see why you have such destructive tendancies. DOM
    acuann 3080 Replies Flag this Response
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  • I know exactly how yall feel. I think i might be a hyperchandriac(I hope I spelled that right).With so many diseases out there Im scared to have sex. I usually have sex like 3 times a year and just watch ***n; it's safer. But I had sex a while back with a couple and the husband sat on my ***k. while I was doing other things with the wife. It felt nice at first for a few seconds b4 I said no. I am very worried. They say he has never done that before and showed me their negative results from 2mths prior. I felt if he had done that with me than he has done it b4. What was so spectacular about me that would make him do that.... Well I went to go get tested but haven't received my negative results( I pray) but during the meantime a male friend and I met a runner(Female) and she jacked both of penis together (rubbing against each other) when he came he shot everywhere and some of it landed on my stomach. she rubbed his ***z on my penis and gave oral to both of us likced it off. We all showered afterwards and went our own ways. The next day where the guy shot ***z on me was a rash in the same exact location. 5 days later I had a rash on the head of my penis. Does anyone know what this could be? Could I have been allergic to the guys semen? I mean I referenced him as a friend, but I don't know him like that. I see him at at the club often when I go and we talk and have drinks and talk to other females.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 10, 2008
    • 03:08 PM
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  • No, NO, NO!! Stop worrying. Herpes does NOT mean you have HIV. I have had herpes for 11 years now and I am fine. Please go to TheBody.com. There is a lot of info on that website and lots of questions and answers geared towards individuals with HIV anxiety.God Bless. (praying always works for me :))
    Anonymous 42789 Replies Flag this Response
  • I really don't know how to write this story as I feel so fraught with worry. I live in Bangkok Thailand and went out with many girls throwing caution to the wind having unprotected sex. I ended up getting Gonorrhea and had an HIV test and was given the all clear. About a month later done the SAME AGAIN, this time just got a test for Gonorrhea, but’ no test for HIV as I was too worried. I never got any symptoms whatsoever like flue, diarrhea, nausea or anything else, this being more than a year ago. I met a beautiful girl who had never ever 100% had sex before, and was the happiest man on the Planet. One day I noticed these itchy rashes on my lower back and buttocks. They started to get worse and made a visit to a local Dr who told me it was herpes. I was horrified as my girlfriend was heavily pregnant and never wanted to tell her incase she miscarried or something. She had to have blood tests during the pregnancy for allsorts, the results showed she never had any infections. She went back to her country to have the baby which was born just over 2 months ago. My problems just started then - I noticed a few more outbreaks of herpes and noticed little spots all over my arms and back ( I took this for prickly heat since it is a very hot country) that never itched and disappeared again. Just five days ago I lost my appetite completely; know I need to be tested again. I have told nobody as the pain this will cause will be tremendous to family and friends. I'm smoking like a trooper and drinking heavily which just adds to my agony. I feel suicidal and pray to God to help me, but dreading the results. I feel awful writing this story, and would love some reply that may give me some hope that I maybe okay and need not worry.I kinda no what your going through and feel empathy for you. I was in amsterdam and went with one of the prostitutes there. I used protection but am stilled worried i might have contracted something. I would say get yourself tested and stop living recklessly with alcohol, sex, and smoking because ****s loves you very much and your body is a temple of the holy spirit. By getting tested you would have a clearer path about what direction your life would need to go in. Your main priority is the beautiful family you have which god has blessed you with. God can heal you through your brokeness taste and see the goodness of the lord. 3 0' clock is the hour of mercy when our lord died on the cross for the salvation of mankind there is a prayer called the divine mercy chaplet if you say this prayer at three o'clock god will pour his healing grace on you and heal you of your pain. Dont listen to the devil he wnats to make you fell horrible and despair. Hope in God. ****s,Mary,Joseph
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 24, 2009
    • 08:21 PM
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  • Hi, I thought i would post here as i am very worried. Almost 2 yrs ago i had unprotected sex with a *********e when i was in Thailand. At the time i was going through a very bad period of my life as a very close family member was dying, possibly the worst period of my life so far and i was drunk and just did'nt care at the time, no point in saying it just happened. Ever since i have been really worried, although my whole life i have always worried about things as its my nature. About a month after i came home i was at work and remember feeling queezy, so i went home and i did have a fever and was vomiting quite a bit, although i had just eaten some greesy rolls and bacon and chips, as soon as i ate them thats when i really started to feel bad. I have had colds since, nothing major that i had to go to doctors about or anything, and i do live in an extremely cold country. i do get sweat patches under my arms a fair bit. And sometimes was waking in the morning with a lot of sweat although my room is small and the window always closed and the heater at full blast. The girl i had sex with worked in someones bar that i knew and he had said everything would be fine. But now im always checking myself, if a spot appears i worry. Its hard to describe but on my arms my skin has white coming through even though i have tanned skin their not flaky just white coloured skin against the tanned of my other skin, my doctor says its a change of climate or anything as i travel a bit. Around my cheekbones i have little white spots, although i have had them before i even had this sex as i have had bad skin when i was young. Recently i just came back from a 4 month trip, during my trip i had red blotches briefly appeared on my arms and stomach, but i had been severly bitten by mosquitos and they went away after a few days. I havent ever really lost weight, if anything i have put weight on, i checked my weight regurarly and it roughly stayed the same. I eat like a horse and go to the gym 3 or 4 times a week and play 5's once or twice a week. Currently i have been unemployed for about 2 years and find when i come back from the gym although i think i should be feeling energized i feel like going to bed as i have nothing really to do until the next day when i may go to the gym again. I also noticed under my eye lid many months ago a little white spot, its never went away but then again i never checked my eyelids until after that, so dont know if its always been there, again my doctor said it could be a little cyst. At the top of my kneck, at the back when i move my head it feels slightly sore but only when i stretch my kneck do i feel it or when im smoking. I do have little white spots on my tongue from time to time but must admit until i read about symptoms of HIV/AIDS i never brushed my teeth and had very bad gums for a long time before i went away, but when i brush my teeth and use proper mouthwash i have no spots there really. For a while i was getting pains behind my eyes, i am supposed to wear glasses but never have. Around my cheekbones i have dry skin from time to time, as i write this now it is dry and feels hot, not feverish just hot, ii do keep my home warm and pick away at it a lot. i am fairly young and never realised you could contact STD from oral sex and whilst i was away i did have woman perform oral sex on me. I feel like an idiot now as my family need the support during a difficult time and i feel so selfish for not protecting myself. I know the only real way to know is to have a test, i understand that, but i also know my nature and i dont know if i could handle the wait, and also my family have enough to deal with without the worry of wondering if i ave done something extremely stupid. People i have spoken to have said that after all this time, and the amount of excerise and eating i do(cheeky buggers lol) that i should stop worrying and get on with my life, I have suffered from depression since i lost a close relative and also the doctor feels i have bad anxiety and im a natural worrier. When i was recently away travelling i was trekking and almost always doing something so never felt so tired or worried. Could anyone tell me their opinions on this, am i worrying too much, should i get on with my life. I must stress i have never had sexual intercourse since this episode as the way i look at things if im so woried about it i would'nt do it to anyone else. And i also know the only sure way of knowing is a test which someday i will hopefully have the courage to take.Hey man what were the results of your testing cause i have that same sore spot on the back of my head right above my neck and a sore throat i just had unprotected sex on new years and was hoping u could let me know since i got the same symptoms
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 5, 2010
    • 06:46 AM
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  • Yeah..Well Precaution is always better than cure, so it's always better to take precaution..
    jamesprx 14 Replies
    • January 5, 2010
    • 11:00 AM
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  • I just had my first HIV test yesterday. in my college years I'd been stupid and nights of partying led to years of regret for my actions. I was never in the typical risk group but point of fact was I didn't know my partners pasts. I managed to push off the test for years, about 11 to be exact. every year I'd see a lifetime movie on HIV, or a 48 hrs mystery, I went through times when all I heard on the radio was ads for HIV testing. I'd freak out for a day or so then go back to my life. but I never knew my status. I didn't want to be paralyzed in fear so I finally wnt to have it done. I was scared, I was quiet, I couldn't help but kick myself for my stupid mistakes!! but my misakes I was going to have to take responsibility. 20 min later I was negative!!!! people thought I was overreacting and that's fine, but take a minute and go volunteer at an HIV function there are boys and girls thy look like you, like someone you would like to date. people who recieved this disease from one night! it's your health, please go get tested!! it's an 11 yr weight off my shoulders and makes me realize how important it is! never again will I sleep with another person until they too are tested. it's not embarassing it must be done! please if anyone out tere is scared don't be. just go get tested don't let your anexiety paralyze you in fear. life will go on either way but it is important for you to know!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 31, 2010
    • 06:09 PM
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  • Hey Guys,I want to know , If we do sex with a gal with out protection, who is healthy and dont have HIV/AIDS, is it possible to get HIV from her. i did it last week ( 2 times i did it with out protection and 2 times i did it with protection.) Guys i little worried ? Could you please help me out ?
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 20, 2010
    • 10:37 AM
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