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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • June 4, 2007
  • 07:33 PM


I've been dating my girlfriend for 6 months now and we are thinking about having sex shortly. We are both 18 years old and both going to university next year. She is going to live on res and I am living at home.

She is against the pill and any type of Contraception (Besides a condom because she isn't using it, I am.) and I am unsure if this is a good idea. I am in no situation to have a child. I don't know what to do.

We have been somewhat-sexually active. I do give her hand jobs (I guess?) and she gives them to me. However.. I just cant get into it. I dont know if she's doing it wrong or if I am just not into it. I have abit of a bdsm / latex fetish and I have no problems when I see that stuff (Magazines or computer)
In my opinion its a really strange fetish and I dont want to tell her about it, if I could I wish I could just get rid of it.

Any advice? I don't know what to do.

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  • The pill is very bad for her health, especially if she was born in 1989, a Chinese year of the Snake. I think penetration is too ordinary, dangerous and overrated. You should kindly train her in doing a hand job right, saying that at least it will help her with the next boyfriend. At your age, never mind being so officially involved, just be friends exploring together. I also think you ought to share your bdsm fetish, making it clear that you don't expect anything of the sort, however that is who you are. You don't need to share everything in practice, love and ***t may be separate things. But if you can't at least be honest at this stage, your future together doesn't look good. Believe me, there are talented girls who enjoy bdsm as an art form. It is a strange fetish, but it acts as a carrier for something spiritual. Never repress what turns you on, rather specialize until it has worked itself out, that is the healthy way. If this means you have to part, then leave her better educated than before (if possible) and feeling good about knowing an honest guy. Then get used to admitting your fetish early in company, so that you meet up with the right girls. They too are disappointed and don't know what to do.
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