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Fustrated Woman. :(

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • July 3, 2007
  • 05:25 AM

im a 23 year old woman married to a 25 years old man and we encounter problem during our contact.

-never experience G-spot using his penis
-my husband is always the first to ejaculate ( i was fustrate)
-never erect on the next round.
-my husband was very fast to ejaculate.
-we never done sex in the morning or in the middle of the nyt. (every night only, if he is not tired.

25 yrs. old
never drink alcohol
big tummy

WIFE (sender)
23 yrs.old
120 lbs.
drink moderately
non smoker

i experienced g-spot using his tough but i want to experience it using his pennis. please help us. he tried to drink herbal tea but it doesn't work.
What we gonna do? please help us. give us an advice and tips to become a happy couple.
we discuss these problem already but he doesn't know the answer to our problem.

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  • Hi, Let's start with your husband. Smoking causes blood vessel changes and can cause erection problems but that doesn't sound like the problem here. From your telling he is ejaculating too quickly and then can't get erect for another round. There are a number of causes of premature ejaculation. You can help retrain your husband. If he is like a lot of guys he learned to ejaculate quickly when he was masturbating. This isn't helpful for intercourse if the woman is to be satisifed. For instance, you can stimulate him manually and then pull back when you are aware of a ejaculation is building up. See if you can bring him to the edge and back off, over and over. He can retrain himself to reach higher arousal states and ejaculate. Then there are positional possiblities. The g-spot is on the front wall of the vagina. In the missionary position a penis doesn't touch this area. One position that can stimulate the g-spot is rear entry. This works well . Perhaps he can lie on the bed and you sit astraddle, facing forwards or backwards and then you can find the g-spot really well. When you are doing this use the minimum amount of movement to stimulate yourself. Long strokes stimulate him more than you. Just little movements rubing your g-spot on his penis will be very arousing to you, and him, but might not hit his orgasmic trigger areas. Another position that is good for this is face to face sitting. He can be stroking your ***t at the same time you are contracting your muscles a little or again rubbing with as small movements do the trick for you but don't send him over. With a little practice you two could learn to keep going for an hour or more face to face. It can be very arousing for him and yet maybe unable to ejaculate without a change of stimulation on his trigger points. This can lead to extrordinary closeness and incredible sexual experiences. A book I would suggest is called ESO - Extended Sexual Orgasm. It will walk you through retraining your husbands ejaculatory response and show him how to give you hour long orgasms. A sex therapist could do this but so can you. It's sad that so many know so little about sex. You might find some books on tantra or even both of you attend a good tantric workshop and learn about the energies of your body and how they relate to sex. You don't sound like you are having fun and that is a real shame. A good couples session could be very helpful.
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