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Consuming thoughts about having a baby

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • October 12, 2006
  • 10:54 PM

I have two small children. Lately, all I can think about is wanting another baby. I'm scared. It has been an adjustment with two in a number of ways. The practical side of me says no more babies. But, all I can think about is having a baby. I have worked out my ovulation cycle -- I desire a baby every time I see one. My thought are really getting out of control. It is like I can help it - that is all I think about. What is the deal with these obsessive thought about desiring another child.

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  • Sounds like you are obsessed!!! Mother nature , biological clock ? Prehaps that and some old fashioned OCD. I would not worry ....seems like nature to me.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 14, 2006
    • 10:21 PM
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  • I'm the same way!! The only difference is that I have been trying for the next one for a year now. I have 2 from previous marriage, and my husband has one from previous marriage. I thought the first time we slipped up I'd be pregnant, but oh no my friend! I've come to realize that I have subfertility, and it sucks. There are pregnancy test commercials on every channel every day, I know 6 people who are pregnant(one of them can't stop talking about how the coming baby interferes with their "plans"!!) and yet I'm not one of the lucky ones that get to have a big belly. I cannot bring myself to get rid of all the baby things in the house because that to me is admitting I can't get pregnant. That there won't be another one. Just can't do it. Anyway, I've went on too long without being much help to you. I wish I had answers for you. I too would like to stop obsessing. Every month I spend the first two weeks of my cycle planning for those perfect two days, then I have the dreded TWO WEEK WAIT wondering if THIS is the month it will happen. And then, one morning I'll test my temp, and know that it is indeed not THE month.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 25, 2006
    • 01:51 AM
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  • I'm in that boat. My husband and I have only been married for 7 months, and everything is great. He really wants a baby, and so do I most of the time. We were both married before, and I have 3 great girls from that marriage. Another baby would be great, but I am torn between wanting to give my husband that "son" he has always wanted and the changes I know it will bring to my life. I was done having babies long before he and I met, so I feel like a ping pong ball about the issue. I do but I don't. I'm sure this hasn't helped, but at least you know you are not alone in the baby search. I can't seem to get pregnant, and I am releaved when I am not each month. I think I sort of have reverse guilt compared to yours about wanting TO get pregnant. Best of luck. I really beleave you are having a hormone thing going on, too. It may very well pass. VOlunteer to keep one of your friend's new babies for a night or 2. You may lose that "baby need" pretty fast when you get no sleep and all.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 26, 2006
    • 01:26 PM
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  • Me too. It's like my family won't feel complete until I have had a third child. I have been wanting another child for a couple of years and only talked my husband round this year, we have been 'trying' for six months, I'm getting impatient. Each month when I get my period it's another disappiontment, I am becoming an emotional wreck.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 30, 2006
    • 02:52 AM
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  • It sounds like you already have made the decision that you should not have another child (atleast not now). Perhaps seeing a therapist would help. I know many people who have had consuming thoughts and when they went to a therapist it helped tremendously. It sounds like you have 2 beautiful children who want your undivided attention.
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  • i think thats just how our minds work, im in the same situation, i have a one year old, and all i can think about is having number 2! i cant wait, i agree maybe our biological time clocks are ticking away!
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  • I was that way too, now we have 4 sons! It is amazing how strong the desire to have more children was and now I am happy with the 4 I have and have no desire to have anymore! It truly amazed me, I was worried that I would always want more children, but that is not always the case.
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