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16 and desperately want a baby !

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • September 28, 2010
  • 05:53 PM

yes i am 16 but really mature for my age, ive been through so much in my short years on this earth and i think i deserve to be happy me and my fiance have been together since we were little and we both want to make this life changing decision. any tips or advice for me ?

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  • yes i am 16 but really mature for my age, ive been through so much in my short years on this earth and i think i deserve to be happy me and my fiance have been together since we were little and we both want to make this life changing decision. any tips or advice for me ?Becoming a parent is an extremely adult decision. I am 31 years old and don't recommend having a child till you are least in your late 20's which is ideal. One of the most important factors in raising a child (other than love and nurturing) is stability. To provide a financially stable home one needs to have an education of some sort to even be offered a decent paying job especially in this economy. I am not saying young love is bad, but you are just an adolescent yourself. A child is a full time commitment. You can't turn around and choose to do something else once you have had a baby. If you are still bent on having a child early at least wait until you have graduated high school and are married and at least have some type of income and can make it on your own first.Typically I mean the basics of being responsible , education, job/career,home, vehicle....things of that nature. The joy a child brings is immeasurable. When you are truly ready.
    mary1979 1 Replies
    • October 3, 2010
    • 11:56 AM
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  • I can understand your desperateness... but believe me.. this is not an age to be the parent.. You need to take care of yourself first, need to grow up first.. work hard.. and be something you like to be first.. parenting at this early stage may be fetish for you and its not a better decision..
    mantishd 2 Replies
    • October 5, 2010
    • 06:55 AM
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  • I promise you will regret the decision severely if you become a mom at this age. There are some things you just can't understand until it happens to you. Having a baby will likely end your romantic relationship. It's bonding at first, but once the baby get here it is hard to stay together even for the strongest of couples. You are not financially capable of caring for a child and I do not want to pay your welfare. You are talking about a selfish, romantic fantasy and not about what is best for a child. And that is what will tell you when you are ready to be a mother. When you are willing to stop being selfish and put a child's needs before your own. You clearly are not. If you want to be happy, having a baby is not the way to do it. It is scientifically proven that people with young children are less happy than people without kids. Look it up. You won't be the exception.
    Misdiagnosed23 2 Replies Flag this Response
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