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i got an iud and want to get pg but cant afford to have it remove

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • November 10, 2010
  • 06:12 AM

I am just turned 24 and i got 4 kids (all boys) 8, 6, 4, and gonna be 2 i got an iud back in '08 and now me and my husband of 2 years want another. a girl if possible but can't afford to have it removed of course none of my loved ones agree with me having another child due to the fact that i have 4 and recieving goverment assistance but i plan on giving my husband a second child since we will be spending the rest of lives together? wat should i do?

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  • You should listen to your family. They love you and want the best for you and your family. If you can't afford to have the Merena removed, what would make you think you can afford to have another child? I am offended that you would contemplate a planned pregnancy while you are collecting welfare. Put your time and energy into raising your four existing children, not trying to make more . You are only 24 and have many child bearing years ahead. Focus on yourself. Get a job, or a second job, or go back to school, so you can make more money to afford the children you already have and get off of welfare. Then you could afford to have your Merena removed and also afford to take care of any additional children that may result. If your husband is a sensible person, he will understand and be happy to wait until you all achieve some financial security. It is selfish for you to want to concieve another child, knowing you can't afford the children you already have. This type of thinking is the reason why so many people are angry at women on welfare and feel that they are lazy and irresponsible, and carelessly pop out babies because they do not have to pay for them. That type of selfich, irresponsible an childish thinking is the reason why so many hard working people people want to do away with welfare and other social programs. Please don't be one of those moms. Don't abuse the system. Keep your birth control in place until you are taking care of yourself and your children and can afford to have it removed and afford more children.
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    • November 10, 2011
    • 08:37 PM
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