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Did I unintentionally cause a miscarriage?? =[

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • March 12, 2009
  • 05:48 AM

Please Read. It may look like alot but I NEED YOUR HELP!

Hi everyone--

Recently, my best friend of all my life has become extremely sexually active, and she is only 15 years old! And on the past January 27th she had missed her period, and was very sexually active! During this time she experienced lots of flu like symptons, was not eating well, and was on prescription medication..all of which were reasons she claimed for missing her period. I didnt think so. I became very concerned for her and began saving up money for a test and researched like crazy online! What a crazy concerned friend I was, huh? Around the 15th of February, still being late, my anxiety for her took a turn for the worse....
She was hanging out at my house and we began to joke around, pretending to wrestle each other, when unknowingly I squeezed her stomach slightly hard enough for her to say "ouch" but not super hard, and it only lasted about 3 or 4 seconds.Jokingly, she said"i bet you killed the baby". Right then, I freaked out! I felt like I was gonna lose my mind and for days couldnt sleep because I thought I killed this possible baby.
Now, being a guy and all I dont know much about pregnancy and whatnot so I did research on miscarriages. For the next week and a half she showed no symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding, back ache, or cramps(she did have some, due to her flu).I began to question whether or not I did hurt the "baby".Then the 27th of February rolled around, one month TO THE DAY that she was supposed to get her period last(Jan.27) and she gets her period!(or is it?) After this, many people have told me to relax, I did nothing wrong that shes just young and had an irregular period,or that i didnt use enough force to hurt a baby that wouldve been inside her, or that maybe her illness or medication threw off her period.The bleeding she said seemed to be a normal period..it last 5 days..she had her usual PMSing(lol),cramping,etc.So my question to you is does this seem like an irregular period story to you guys or a miscarriage?Im still freaking out! And I also read that it takes 4 to 6 weeks for periodto return after a miscarriage, so it wouldve been to early (1 1/2 weeks) for her to get her period even if i did give her a miscarriage? Do all signs point to me being ok?
If it was a miscarriage,was it my fault, and if it wasnt..does it seem to have occured after the whole stomach squeezing? My fear is that I squeezed her stomach, and a freak accident happened and she didnt show any symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding..and then got her period 2 weeks later because the fetus was gone and the miscarriage was over. But that just seems impossible right, and im just freaking out?

PLEASE HELP!

Thank you so much in advance!
-Jared

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  • She's 15--does she really need a baby right now? It's extremely unlikely that you could end a pregnancy through a gentle touch on the outside like that--natural miscarriages in the first weeks of pregnancy are very common. Since your friend obviously trusts you, get her to start using condoms every single time, and if she can manage it, the Pill as well.
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  • I think that your friend was not pregnant at all. There are many reasons why some girls (especially young like that) may skip a period- I think that that is what happened here!The chances of a physical outside force damaging a fetus in such an early stage of pregnancy is very slim and would have to be a strong force (She would have said more than just "Owch!") If there had been a fetus inside her, it would have been very well protected within the amniotic sac, floating in a cushion of amniotic fluids. (I just delivered my first baby, and when I was 35 weeks along, I fell down the stairs and the baby was so well protected in there that she was absolutely fine!)However, if there HAD been a fetus, and you HAD caused her to miscarry by hurting her stomach, she would have bled almost immediately following the incident- maybe a day or two at MOST later. Not two weeks! It sounds to me like she skipped a period! And you have nothing to worry about! Though I do agree that you should urge her to use reliable birth control methods- and if a scare like this happens again, there are many resources for girls to take pregnancy tests who cannot afford them. Thank you for being such a good friend to this girl! And so supportive! Good luck in the future!
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  • Please Read. It may look like alot but I NEED YOUR HELP! Hi everyone-- Recently, my best friend of all my life has become extremely sexually active, and she is only 15 years old! And on the past January 27th she had missed her period, and was very sexually active! During this time she experienced lots of flu like symptons, was not eating well, and was on prescription medication..all of which were reasons she claimed for missing her period. I didnt think so. I became very concerned for her and began saving up money for a test and researched like crazy online! What a crazy concerned friend I was, huh? Around the 15th of February, still being late, my anxiety for her took a turn for the worse.... She was hanging out at my house and we began to joke around, pretending to wrestle each other, when unknowingly I squeezed her stomach slightly hard enough for her to say "ouch" but not super hard, and it only lasted about 3 or 4 seconds.Jokingly, she said"i bet you killed the baby". Right then, I freaked out! I felt like I was gonna lose my mind and for days couldnt sleep because I thought I killed this possible baby. Now, being a guy and all I dont know much about pregnancy and whatnot so I did research on miscarriages. For the next week and a half she showed no symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding, back ache, or cramps(she did have some, due to her flu).I began to question whether or not I did hurt the "baby".Then the 27th of February rolled around, one month TO THE DAY that she was supposed to get her period last(Jan.27) and she gets her period!(or is it?) After this, many people have told me to relax, I did nothing wrong that shes just young and had an irregular period,or that i didnt use enough force to hurt a baby that wouldve been inside her, or that maybe her illness or medication threw off her period.The bleeding she said seemed to be a normal period..it last 5 days..she had her usual PMSing(lol),cramping,etc.So my question to you is does this seem like an irregular period story to you guys or a miscarriage?Im still freaking out! And I also read that it takes 4 to 6 weeks for periodto return after a miscarriage, so it wouldve been to early (1 1/2 weeks) for her to get her period even if i did give her a miscarriage? Do all signs point to me being ok? If it was a miscarriage,was it my fault, and if it wasnt..does it seem to have occured after the whole stomach squeezing? My fear is that I squeezed her stomach, and a freak accident happened and she didnt show any symptons of a miscarriage like bleeding..and then got her period 2 weeks later because the fetus was gone and the miscarriage was over. But that just seems impossible right, and im just freaking out? PLEASE HELP! Thank you so much in advance! -Jared Think of this way, especially early on. A fetus is enveloped in so much protected. Like a football helmet. Now think hun, could you have squeezed a football helmet and done any harm. A women was pregnant, and landed on her stomach after a sky dive, that child is healthy and surviving to this day. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. And at 15 her body probably could not hold that child. She would have lost it anyways. A women's body or in this case a girl, will only hold a fetus as long as their bodies allow. She just wasn't ready. Not your faullt.... k? Im 23 and not some old person.
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