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Normal? I think not...

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • May 4, 2010
  • 06:22 PM

(Not sure if it belongs in this section)


Hi, all. I have a daughter who is only 13 years old. She is teen, but she completely hates teens in general. She says that they are "Immature". We went to the park the other day and there were teens there just crowding the little kid area. First of all, we were at the park because my younger, 9-year old daughter wanted to go. I wanted to find another park, because I didn't wanna bother the teens, but before I had the chance, my 13-year old went over to the group of teens. Her face didn't show any emotion, except irritation. She had her hands in her in her pockets and she told them this
"Hey! In case you baka haven't noticed, you're not wanted here, so why don't you hurry up and get out?"
She had an argument with the teens, and eventually, she won. When we were in the car I asked her what 'baka' meant. She told me that it means idiot(s) in Japanese.
Yes, now here is one of the strange parts of her. She is an 'Otaku'. That's what she calls it. She's completely obsessed with anime, video games, and manga; No one in my family has ever been interested in that, and I don't know why she is. But, this isn't really the problem.

When I was younger, and my daughter was on a new born, I was walking to get somewhere, when one of those psychic readers pulled my up and looked at my child. The lady smiled and then looked at me she said 'You must talk alot with this one. I'm sure she'll have many things to say'.
I never understood what that lady meant. Throughout the years, my daughter has been very quiet. She doesn't ever talk to me about anything; in fact, she doesn't talk to anyone about anything. She is very calm. She doesn't get mad about almost anything, and she thinks things through.

My daughter is Abnormally mature for her age. She talks about things that I don't even understand very well. Another thing is, she is an Atheist. I don't know why, she just is. Now, my family always goes to church and I always bring her, even when she was a little girl. She grew up learning all about the bible and stuff, but she's an Atheist. I try to touch the subject of why she is, but she never talks about it. She just says that the bible will always just be another book to her, and that God will always be just another myth.

She is very blunt, also; but she is also extremely observant . Just recently, I moved in with a friend of mine, and we are now roomates. Now, Everyday, my roommate brings her boyfriend here and my daughter doesn't like it. My daughter is always saying how my roommate spends more time with her boyfriend, then with her own 2 daughters (she has two little girls). Now, I can't really argue with her, because it is true. I wouldn't say that my roommate is the best mother in the world, but it's none of my concern. One day, my daughter told me that my roommate puts her girls in the day care on her days off, and that she doesn't pick them up until 7:30 PM (which is the time that the day care closes); she told me that my roommate spends her days off, with her boyfriend. The reason that my daughter is mad at this, is because she doesn't believe in love. Or, rather, she believes in the love of a family, more then that love of a boyfriend that isn't going to last.
Everyday, when she walks by my roommate and her boyfriend in the kichten, she puts on a face that shows no emotion. She watches them, and waits. After a while, she stands on one leg, and slightly picks up the other (keep in mind she wears long jeans), and she uses her leg that is slightly lifted to rub against her leg that she is standing on (Like L, from Death Note). When she does this, it is a pure sign that she is completely sure of something. Then she tells my roommate and her boyfriend, that they are only going to last for 2 more weeks.
Exactly 12 days later, they broke up. On the day they broke up, my roommate came in that day crying because her boyfriend had cheated on her. My daughter watched her come in, she didn't say anything. Her face showed no emotion and then she walked into my room. She told me
"I was off by 2 days..."
She said it with such a bored voice tone, it almost scared me.

Her biggest problem is being able to tell her own emotions; another one, is trust.. She can read others' emotions very easily, and this way, she knows people very well. But she can never tell what she is feeling. Trust. She has serious trust issues. This started when her grandpa (my dad), promised her that they would always be together. 2 years after her promised this, he died of brain cancer. She was crushed (she was 6). I'm not all that sure about why she had such an attachment to my father; but whenever I had to go to work at night, she would be scared to sleep alone, so my dad always said that he would protect her from the monsters that she was afraid of. They also went to many places together while I was at work, and he also helped her with her homework when she didn't understand. Since her grandpa died, she just hasn't been the same. No matter how much time passes by, she eventually puts on an emotionless face some times; though I'm not completely sure why she does it.


I sleep in the same room as her, and recently, I was about to go to sleep (my daughter was already sleeping) and then I heard her muttering in her sleep. It sounded like she was saying 'Un-Stable'. I tried not to worry about and I went to sleep.




Any thoughts? Can you infer some stuff? Can you answer some of my doubts? Do I need to add more info? Please, help. And thank you.

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  • Hi. I'm a father of a little girl, she sounds pretty different from yours, but maybe it'll help me understand a little.I wouldn't worry about the Japanese anime, kids all go through phases. And it's not really destructive, to my knowledge. As for atheism, well, many bright kids come to that conclusion at some point and have a hard time reconciling the concept of "God" with the "scientific" knowledge and logical approach they learn in school. I thought I was an atheist as a kid until I realized that there was NO way to prove God's inexistence any more than it is possible to PROVE God's existence. So I became an agnostic. As life went on, I had a nagging feeling that there were too many "coincidences" in my life I couldn't explain and it started me thinking that there might be something else out there I don't understand, which further opened my eyes. No conversation with any priest or parent would have convinced me in God's existence, but some good conversations DID convince me that I could not reasonably assert God's inexistence.By the way, there is a fantastic book called "Life After Death: The Evidence" by Dinesh D'Souza. He's a Christian from India but wrote the book from an analytical perspective, focusing on scientific evidence and philosophical considerations that counter many of the atheist perspectives. She might find that interesting. As an intellectual challenge, she may want to know what the very best arguments against atheism are, and D'Souza is pretty much recognized as one of the best at countering atheist arguments without resorting to that tired old "it says in the Bible".I don't see much in your story that strikes me as "abnormal". I think she definitely sounds like she has some unresolved problems with the loss of her grandfather, and maybe you should take her to a counselor. From your description, I don't see anything that ties back to obsessive compulsive disorders. Look it up and you'll find repetitive behaviors (did you ever see the film "As Good as it Gets" with Jack Nicolson? His character was a classic OCD...).As for her powers of observation bordering on prescience, it sounds like a bit of a gift, although having that kind of mental alacrity will cause her some difficulty with most peers, who will appear quite shallow and dull. That's pretty normal, I can't imagine that most child prodigies feel comfortable with other kids their age, for obvious reasons. Is she also very bright at school? Why are you worried? Do you think she's depressed?I'd say keep being a great parent, ask her if she'd like to find someone to talk to, there are experts in just about every problem you can think of, especially with child psychology and how to deal with gifted children.
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  • No, your daughter is not normal. She sounds like a brilliant young girl, I think you have the honour of bringing up a genius. Save for college, you are going to need it!
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  • I cant figure out why you were thinking she may have obsessive compulsive disorder. One thought I had thou is wondering if she could have something like Asperger's. For the following reasons. 1/ "I have a daughter who is only 13 years old. She is teen, but she completely hates teens in general." Inability to fit in with peers. I myself have Asperger's and often thought of other teens as being immature (hence I never dated anyone at school but went for guys who'd left school years before). I was always so wound up in my own thoughts of the world and thought completely different to those about me. 2/ "my 13-year old went over to the group of teens. Her face didn't show any emotion, except irritation. She had her hands in her in her pockets and she told them this "Hey! In case you baka haven't noticed, you're not wanted here, so why don't you hurry up and get out?" Abnormal confrontation. Most would never go and approach a group of peers and do that... to further my thought of possibly asperger's.. you say she didnt show much emotion. Many with Asperger's dont show emotions much in their expressions or may lack emotion at times. 3/ "She's completely obsessed with anime, video games, and manga; No one in my family has ever been interested in that, and I don't know why she is. " Now this is what really got me thinking she could have Asperger's. Those with Asperger's have "special interests" and anime and manga are VERY COMMON Aspie special interests among the kids of nowdays. I dont know why that is so but it just is. 4/ "Throughout the years, my daughter has been very quiet. She doesn't ever talk to me about anything; in fact, she doesn't talk to anyone about anything" Some with Asperger's just dont shut up.. they excessive talk.. with others with Aspergers or Autism... may be quite introverted and keep to themselves and may rarely speak to people. They keep their own inner worlds and dont feel like others fit into them so may not share things. 5/ " She talks about things that I don't even understand very well." Not uncommon for Asperger's people to do that. Others may have trouble following them as they may think quite differently to most or they may think in depth about subjects others think little about. An Asperger's brain is so often on the go.. thinking, thinking, thinking.. all this internal stuff inside going on with thoughts. 6/ " Another thing is, she is an Atheist. I don't know why, she just is. Now, my family always goes to church and I always bring her, even when she was a little girl. She grew up learning all about the bible and stuff, but she's an Atheist. I try to touch the subject of why she is, but she never talks about it. She just says that the bible will always just be another book to her, and that God will always be just another myth. " Asperger's people dont tend to like "follow the herd" one could say. Everything is reasoned out in their head and if something dont make sense to them.. they wont believe it. My whole family is Christian too (I actually have two family members which were priests) ... Im the only Atheist in the family... I was made to go to sunday school but never could believe in that religion as it didnt make sense to me. Asperger's wont believe anything for the sake of believing it. Aspergers people think in "black and white" and logical. The bible talks in symbolics so is very confusing to anyone who has Asperger's. 7/ "She is very blunt, also; but she is also extremely observant " Asperger's people often constantly "watch" or "observe" others. (they need to do that just to fit in and be like "normal", they also do that to feel safe in our world as there is a need to understand everything about one).Asperger's people are often blunt to the point of they can emotionally upset others by their bluntness. They are usually right to the point and will hit one with the truth of what they think. 8/ "My daughter is always saying how my roommate spends more time with her boyfriend, then with her own 2 daughters (she has two little girls). Now, I can't really argue with her, because it is true." Asperger's people are often very moralistic. They have very strong morals of what is right and what is wrong and are bothered by others not doing what they believe is right. (They can be so moralistic that this may get an Asperger's in trouble at times as its hard for them to just let go of what they think is wrong). 9/ " She has serious trust issues. This started when her grandpa (my dad), promised her that they would always be together. 2 years after her promised this, he died of brain cancer. She was crushed (she was 6). " Thou this could affect any child.. but being told something which isnt right really affects an Aspie person a lot. I have this issue a lot with my partner.. even when its something he cant help which has changed.. I loose a lot of trust at a broken promise even if its not his fault it was broken. .............. With this all together and a couple of things which are strongly Asperger's things.. I do think you should look into Asperger's traits and see how many others she has. Be aware that females with Asperger's are very good at hiding their differences, they observe others and learn how to act.. females with Asperger's often go undiagnosed. They are thou very different in what is going on inside their heads and how they think. Those with Asperger's are often highly intellegent and become experts in the areas of their own interests.
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