Since age 2, our 8 year old still is having serious problems regulating his emotions. In the past, it was limited to daily uncontrolled crying/profound sadness but recently it has branched out in to an inability to control laughing as well (his laughing seems to be an uncontrolled maniacal laughing that continues on for minutes. Kids put their hand over his mouth in an effort to get him to stop laugh and I've talked to him while he was laughing, but he says that he cannot stop.)
His crying seems related to any thing with competition. It isn't the typical poor sportsmanship and it is very hard to convey to others as to what it is. For example, during any game/competition, etc., at every moment is a chance that you will not be in the lead. Rather than the won/loss outcome of the game/completion being the trigger for uncontrollable tears and profound sadness, each moment he is not in the lead -- each roll of the dice -- can trigger his crying and end his participation. When he was younger, I remember flipping a coin to have him guess heads or tails. He got it wrong, insisted I keep flipping it until he gets it right each time, and after the fourth coin flip, burst into tears. His crying prevents him from participating in most things with people, even his family, because his mind quantifies everything and turns everything into a win-lose situation. It has gotten to the point where he recently started banging his head against the tree "because I wanted to stop the muddy water in my eyes" and also said he wanted to kill himself to make the world a better place.
We want a medication to help him regulate his emotions, but have no idea as to even the class of meds that might work. If he had ADHD, we could easily look up the medication choices http://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/adhd-medication-chart and take him to any doctor to discuss medication options. He is on the PDD spectrum.
Please suggest a drugs/class of drugs that would be directed towards helping him with his emotional regulation problem. I will review that info and us it when we go see a doctor/psychiatrist. Thanks.