Hope someone out there can help me. I'm at a loss trying to figure out my 24 year old son.
From the age of three he was very "headstrong" would have daily tantrums and as he got older became very resistant to any kind of control. If he was told NO he'd do it anyway. He had no trouble making friends, but would burn them out because it was always "his way or the highway." He has an older and younger brother and they never displayed any of the same behavior. I chalked it up to "middle child syndrome" but I here he is an adult and he still is behaving the same way. He didn't finish highschool, but did manage to get a pre apprenticeship for carpentry, but has trouble keeping a job. If a girl breaks up with him, he harasses them, cries, and is distraught over the breakup. He genuinely is broken hearted over it, but his response is destructive. He's had a couple of restraining orders placed on him. It seems that once his emotions get a hold of him he is blinded to any kind of reasoning or consequences for his actions. He starting smoking pot at around 15 and still uses it daily. Although I don't think the drugs have caused the behavior, since he has been like this since he was three, but they haven't help him any. I'm at a loss for his behavior. I know he doesn't like himself. When he is in a downward spiral he talks about suicide, but usually as a ultimatum to me, "I have to move back home or maybe just kill myself". This of course keeps his father and me enabling him. So, could this be a mental disorder? Any suggestions? I live in a small town with limited resources.