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Talking Too Much

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  • Posted By: Wispywillow
  • February 1, 2007
  • 10:56 PM

Please help.
Can anyone please help me?
I'm 26 and for as early as i can remember i hav always been overly talkative. I was always known as chatterbox at school. Everyone who meets me when asked to describe e the very 1st thing they will say is she talks for britain. Everyone on first meeting tells me they have never met a person who talks as much as me. But recently id say in the last 4 years. It has gotr worse. I seem to have lost all social skills. I compulsively talk. If i feel nervous or uncomfortable ill constantly talk, if no one else is speaking and its quiet i feel compelled to rabbit on. But i dont have conversations anymore. Like if someone else starts talking i'll b listening, then it will spur on a memory or comment or thought in my head now i can see myself doin it like im watchin myself yet im unable to stop myself. The minute that thought or comment etc gets in my brain it comes out of my mouth even tho the other person hasnt finshed talking. i cant stop myself. It makes other ppl close up or just think im rude.
My brain is always on the go too even when just chilling out or unwinding etc thoughts are always goin through it.
I really need to sort this talking out now. Its been going on too long. Ive had so many problems with jobs because of my talking and have lost many over it.
Alo it is now affecting my personal life, Friends. loves. I justr feel like crying all the time. I cant control my mouth.
Can anyone help?

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  • Try taking Calcium and B complex. Do not drink any kind of pop what so ever. Nothing with caf. in it. NEVER EVER drink those horrible energy drinks, they will burn out your adrenal glands. Try to stay away from sugary products. You could be allergic to gluten, sugar and or dairy. Also you could find a good health food store, in the vitamin section there are always very reliable people there that can help you out. There is a good vitamin out called 'calms' I have a feeling that might really help you out. I hope you feel better soon,Stacy
    HappyHealthyGirl 26 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 01:37 AM
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  • Don't feel bad, I know several people like you. You should try the advice above, it sounds like maybe anxiety.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 01:50 AM
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  • Thank u. I'm not sure about allergies. But its not hyperactivity, as in it doesnt happen after caffiene etc its all the time 24/7 If i have caffiene im no different just may speak slightly faster. Not sure about anxiety either. Would that be if i was worried about something?As i have just said this is all the time not just when i have eaten a certain thing or have something on my mind. I may try and find out about the allergies though. Is talking a possible side affect of allergies then?Thanks for yr posts tho much appreciated.N
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 03:06 AM
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  • The only reason I said an allergic reaction to gluten, sugar and dairy is thats what most kids who have ADD are allergic too. But if its ALL the time, then I would lean more towards you have a serious vitamin deficency. Do you feel wired and jumpy or JUST talkative?How well do you sleep? Do you work out at all? Have you ever tried massage therapy. There are really good healing massage therapist out there. How much caffeine do you take in? Any and all stimulants are really bad for the nervous system.One time I do remember taking ephedra and WOW I was so talkative I would even talk to people I didn't like. That was years ago before I knew how bad it is to take stimulants.The best advice I can give is go to your closesthealth food store walk in and when someone asks 'can I help you' tell them your troubles and they will tell you what things you need to take. I do hope you feel better soon :)Stacy
    HappyHealthyGirl 26 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 03:49 AM
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  • Once again thank u for yr advice, i don't touch much caffiene anymore. And no stimulants. No i dont sleep well that often. I cant control my talking. I dont feel wired at all. If anything i feel tired most of the time. I dont work out.No i havent tried or heard much about massage therapy. I would think its more psychological. Do u really think it could b vitamin deficiency then?Thanks againN
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 03:34 PM
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  • this is a good fault to have!it means yuo want to share yourself with people!but to stop it,put a strong elastic band around your wrist and ping it onto yourself when you stop listening.torture is not required ,but it should hurt. do it surreptitiously.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 2, 2007
    • 07:20 PM
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  • Is that an actual healing method etc or just a suggsetion?Im not sure how successful it would be though. As id have to ping it after i have interrupted as i cant control my interrupting. So not sure how successful that would be as would almost be like i am punishing self afterwards each time but doing it anyway.
    Wispywillow 1 Replies
    • February 3, 2007
    • 00:20 AM
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  • Don't be worried loads of people are like that ie my sister never shuts up she over describes everything tells the same story a million times and a million different ways but she is a compulsive liar XD, it's not girls that do it i used to do it lol you just learn to speak when you're spoken too, lol :D.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 3, 2007
    • 10:06 AM
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  • set yourself the task of focussing on the other person in conversation with you.this is only polite!when you notice your attention drifting, then that is the time to ping it. for gods sake keep it in proportion!dont hurt yourself!and keep it to yourself.you are right about time delay .it will not be effective .dont think of it as punishment but as a self reminder ,also if you do manage to stay focussed on the other person,arrange a little reward for yourself ,like some m+ms in your pocket .share them of course!they will help keep your mouth shut too!i dont usually go for crude behaviourism ,but i think you may benefit in this case.it may help to do a basic counselling course too ,there are usually plenty available in even quite small towns .be straight with the teacher about why you have come .i have the feeling that some experience of real attention may be very helpful to you,inthe medium term,but the elastic band is your first aid!good luck and please report back.best wishes.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 3, 2007
    • 10:55 AM
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  • OMG---i have the same problem with my partner. Once he start to talk he never wants to stop. Repeating many times the same stuff again and again. Its really irritating---annoying and I almost want to scream at him.Too much talking is not good. You should have to find ways of controlling your mouth. Im in this page because i am searching how to stop my partner for talking too much,GGrrrrrr!!!!!!!I would suggest the No caf. avoid eating sugary product, no energy drinks, no stimulants--etc..all those I read above will be applied-(thanks to the author)what I am trying to find out is if there's a medical name for it (too much talking ) or is it a DESEASE?
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 23, 2008
    • 01:16 AM
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  • I am suffering for the same reason. I know I want to stop. I know I do not want to hurt him or her with something that must not be said. I began having a slight glimpse of it. The reason why I talk too much is I am afraid of losing my speakers. I was socially unwelcomed when I was young. I became naturally too careful about satisfying other people with my worth, whether I was a interesing person to have deep realationship with them.I expect always the people to act as I expect, to respond as I expect. When I see them not so, I begin being afraid of them. I begin being afraid of failures again. I get nesscessity to add unnessarty things again. What a hard disease to be cured....Remember, there is God who can love you as you are. Just remember you are lovable. Unless your center of life is "person" you can get never free of the fear of "person" and you can not stop yourself talking in your fear of losing them. That's what I believe. I am praying for the same reason. Please help.Can anyone please help me?I'm 26 and for as early as i can remember i hav always been overly talkative. I was always known as chatterbox at school. Everyone who meets me when asked to describe e the very 1st thing they will say is she talks for britain. Everyone on first meeting tells me they have never met a person who talks as much as me. But recently id say in the last 4 years. It has gotr worse. I seem to have lost all social skills. I compulsively talk. If i feel nervous or uncomfortable ill constantly talk, if no one else is speaking and its quiet i feel compelled to rabbit on. But i dont have conversations anymore. Like if someone else starts talking i'll b listening, then it will spur on a memory or comment or thought in my head now i can see myself doin it like im watchin myself yet im unable to stop myself. The minute that thought or comment etc gets in my brain it comes out of my mouth even tho the other person hasnt finshed talking. i cant stop myself. It makes other ppl close up or just think im rude.My brain is always on the go too even when just chilling out or unwinding etc thoughts are always goin through it.I really need to sort this talking out now. Its been going on too long. Ive had so many problems with jobs because of my talking and have lost many over it.Alo it is now affecting my personal life, Friends. loves. I justr feel like crying all the time. I cant control my mouth.Can anyone help?
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • August 24, 2008
    • 01:46 AM
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  • I would suggest writing. write your thoughts out immediately when you wake up and before you go to bed or whenever. (don't think too hard, just write whatever comes to mind, but make this a habit) I understand you're talking about talking too much during conversation, but the writing will help you to speak quietly and to yourself, so you can hear your voice without the expectation of someone listening, just yourself. It sounds like you are an extrovert, social, which isn't so bad, but can become draining to someone who is more an introvert (these are the people who may be irritated by your incessant talking). Try doing things in solitude: writing, reading, bathing, spending time with only you. This should help you to listen to your self and then you'll be on your way to being in a place where you can listen to others without the "need" to be heard. Take care :)
    ojaimargarite 4 Replies
    • August 27, 2008
    • 02:15 AM
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  • This discussion above is the true voice of my own. I have been going through a lot in my mind how should i stop talking and start listening to others; as they are loved ones and don't want to loose all of them because of my interruption habit and pretending I am the best to be around. pretending i am funny but unconsciously hurting others. I happen to be writer in the past but in a different language other then English. The suggestion mentioned above are great i'll try them my self, but having three kids and no real time for my self i just feel like talking to others without thinking that what i am talking about. another bad habit while I'm talking i pretend i am giving all the attention to kids but in my heart i know i am talking to others and not doing what i am suppose to do. some time it is just to keep my mind busy as with kids its 24/7 job for me. one last thing the writer mentioned about some counseling courses, I have no idea where and how to get information about them.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 6, 2009
    • 00:14 AM
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  • Hi, you remind me so much of a friend of mine, she always talked too much sometimes going on and on and never knowing when to stop and butting in on everyone's conversation, couldn't help herself, but she's a lovely intelligent person in every other way, and knowing she had a problem talking too much went to see her doctor who put her in touch with a counsellor. She told her she had a mild form of personality disorder and gave her cognitive therapy. She's been going for 2 months now and is like a new person the therapy has really helped her a lot she's much happier in herself and says she feels as if she's taken control over her life. You could do the same talk to your doctor and get some help from a counsellor, good luck. Sending you a link http://www.rcpsych.ac.uk/mentalhealthinfo/problems/personalitydisorders/pd.aspx
    maggiemay 68 Replies
    • November 7, 2009
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  • Thanks for the great suggestion, It will be my first priority to see a doctor and get a referral for counseling. You know from the time i posted my first note on net last week I am feeling great that at least there is someone i can ask without even knowing them as the people around me; well I am too shy or embrace to talk to them.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 11, 2009
    • 10:37 AM
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  • I would recommend you see an allergy doctor and get tested for food allergies. Food allerigies are amazing and the simptoms are unbelieveable. Scratch testing and blood testing are okay but I think injection testing ( a small amount is injected in the skin ) is superior.If that does not work see a psychologist. If that does not work see a psychiatrist or an MD. Anti-depressants can work to slow you down and bring about calm.Best wishes.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 28, 2010
    • 03:46 AM
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  • Try taking Calcium and B complex. Do not drink any kind of pop what so ever. Nothing with caf. in it. NEVER EVER drink those horrible energy drinks, they will burn out your adrenal glands. Try to stay away from sugary products. You could be allergic to gluten, sugar and or dairy. Also you could find a good health food store, in the vitamin section there are always very reliable people there that can help you out. There is a good vitamin out called 'calms' I have a feeling that might really help you out. I hope you feel better soon,StacyI've never heard such thing of energy drinks. I've been drinking one energy drink a day since 2004 and my 'adrenal glands' have not yet been burnt out. Sources?
    Plastikfear 64 Replies
    • December 18, 2010
    • 08:03 PM
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  • set yourself the task of focussing on the other person in conversation with you.this is only polite!when you notice your attention drifting, then that is the time to ping it. for gods sake keep it in proportion!dont hurt yourself!and keep it to yourself.you are right about time delay .it will not be effective .dont think of it as punishment but as a self reminder ,also if you do manage to stay focussed on the other person,arrange a little reward for yourself ,like some m+ms in your pocket .share them of course!they will help keep your mouth shut too!i dont usually go for crude behaviourism ,but i think you may benefit in this case.it may help to do a basic counselling course too ,there are usually plenty available in even quite small towns .be straight with the teacher about why you have come .i have the feeling that some experience of real attention may be very helpful to you,inthe medium term,but the elastic band is your first aid!good luck and please report back.best wishes.Please learn how to use punctuation marks :/ Also the time delay is completely irrelevant, and it's not a vitamin deficiency. Being talkative is a polygenic trait just like height, weight, or skin color. Basically it just means that some people are more and less talkative just like some people are shorter or taller. You sound like you're about seven feet tall, but lukily you can actually do something about it. I used to have the same problem, and I actually fixed it very effectively with a simple but difficult trick. Stay completely and totally silent. Try for ten days. Take a vacation if you need to, or just tell the people around you. It's important that it's not just not talking, but also no charades, no writing messages, if you can help it try not to interact with people at all. After you stop talking for a long while, even just a couple days it's harder to start talking again than you could really imagine.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 6, 2011
    • 03:32 AM
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  • My boyfriend is the same, so I have researched it. Seems to just be a lack of awareness. If you practice, and practice hard, the art of LISTENING instead of selfishly talking, it might help. If you prattle on for apparently more that 60 seconds, you're talking too much. You may be very insecure, and talking is your security blanket; don't know. Get out of yourself and look at the signs of boredom in the people you're speaking to. There are many very good self-help articles on the Web about this, but the bottom line seems to be that you need to "practice" listening and interacting. Good luck!Please help.Can anyone please help me?I'm 26 and for as early as i can remember i hav always been overly talkative. I was always known as chatterbox at school. Everyone who meets me when asked to describe e the very 1st thing they will say is she talks for britain. Everyone on first meeting tells me they have never met a person who talks as much as me. But recently id say in the last 4 years. It has gotr worse. I seem to have lost all social skills. I compulsively talk. If i feel nervous or uncomfortable ill constantly talk, if no one else is speaking and its quiet i feel compelled to rabbit on. But i dont have conversations anymore. Like if someone else starts talking i'll b listening, then it will spur on a memory or comment or thought in my head now i can see myself doin it like im watchin myself yet im unable to stop myself. The minute that thought or comment etc gets in my brain it comes out of my mouth even tho the other person hasnt finshed talking. i cant stop myself. It makes other ppl close up or just think im rude.My brain is always on the go too even when just chilling out or unwinding etc thoughts are always goin through it.I really need to sort this talking out now. Its been going on too long. Ive had so many problems with jobs because of my talking and have lost many over it.Alo it is now affecting my personal life, Friends. loves. I justr feel like crying all the time. I cant control my mouth.Can anyone help?
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  • Take heart! Thank goodness you don't have a life-threatening disease. It looks, from a lay person's perspective, that your case is something like a Tourette's Syndrome minus the tics, combined with hyperactivity disorder (ADHD minus inattention) where you cannot keep your mouth shut. Some people find relieve to this socially disablling problem by attending sessions with a counselor who specializes in 'Cognitive-Behavioral' Therapy and "Hypnotism". You may also help yourself by doing what others in your situation have successfully done: Silence. Learn to be unselfish and listen, and open your mouth only when asked, and control the flow. Medicine such as Ritalin may laso help control your vocal impulses. Find other outlets such as art and acting.
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