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Suffering from depression for last 8 years

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • March 21, 2007
  • 07:20 AM

Hi I’m new here and looking to make friends. I have had depression for over 8 years and feel very lonely as my hubby works afternoons regular. I have 2 children 8 and 5.Hope to get some support here. If you know a cure it would be great help.

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  • Life is a gift, don't waste it!
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  • Life is a gift, don't waste it!Spoken by someone who's obviously never had chronic, clinical depression.I'm 50 years old, and I've had chronic depression all my life, so I know what you're experiencing and I can suggest many things. Jennifer, you've talked to medical doctors? Psychiatrists? Psychotherapists? Depression has a lot of possible causes. It can be caused by physical illnesses such as an underactive thyroid, so you should have a full physical exam and blood tests. It can be caused by stress, trauma (which you may not even remember), and dissatisfaction with your life, and that's what psychotherapists are for. And finally, it can be caused by the imbalance of brain chemistry that antidepressant medications are designed to correct. For that you need a psychiatrist.You say you've been depressed for the last 8 years. What happened in your life just before then? That could give you big clues on the source of your depression. Your oldest child is 8 ... ? :)Depression can also be caused by the wrong diet for you, and basic changes such as reducing alcohol, sugar, refined carbohydrates, and heavily processed foods, and adding more fresh fruits and vegetables, beans, and whole-grain products, help a lot of people. There are plenty of books and websites to guide you with that. You might also have undiagnosed food allergies. That's a tricky area. Some food allergies are well accepted, such as celiac disease (intolerance to wheat gluten) and peanut allergies, and an allergist can test you for those. But there are a million less-accepted theories on food allergies and dietary cures for depression. So if you go out to investigate that, be prepared to wade through lots of material.Non-traditional treatments for depression help a lot of people, such as acupuncture; chiropractic, massage, Rolfing, and other bodywork; Chinese medicine; meditation; and systems of movement and breathing such as yoga, tai chi, and chi gong.St. John's Wort, an herb, is well-established as a treatment for milder forms of depression. It's not so well accepted in the U.S., but it's widely used in Europe, and in Germany it's part of their official pharmacopeia. It's available in capsules and tinctures at any alternative-health or whole-foods store, and in many mainstream pharmacies. If you want to try St. John's Wort, read up on it before you decide how much to use and in what form.Regular physical exercise can also do wonders for depression.And finally, loneliness can be a cause of depression as well as a symptom of it. Being home a lot with your young children and without your husband can be really lonely. This site isn't really set up for finding friends and regular companionship, but lots of other sites are. Yahoo has tons of groups for people dealing with depression, or isolated parents, who need support and friendship Those groups are *very* active, and some of them have live chat as well as bulletin boards. I'm sure there are other sites that have such groups too. WebMD.com might have some, and if not, they surely have links to other useful sites.For local, in-person support, check out Meetup.com. It's a site for people who want to get together over any kind of common interest, and if you're in or near a large city, there's almost sure to be something near you.Can you afford occasional babysitting, or arrange times for your kids to visit with friends or family, so you can have time for a social life? Maybe a mother's day out program? Those not only provide child care, but also contact with lots of other overwhelmed moms who could be good support people and potential friends. Those programs were a godsend to my (now ex-) wife and me when our kids were young.My best wishes, Jennifer. Depression really can be tough. I hope you find the treatments that work for you, and I hope you find some friends to help you with it, online or in real life! :)
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  • I'd suggest a lot of physical exercise as one of the best methods for depression treatment. At first it may be hard to start, but you gotta push yourself harder and harder.It's all about converting your mind and depressive thoughts into something else and when you're tired you won't even have the time to think about depression. Exercise outside in nature, not indoors. Go on a hike, try new things. DIVERT YOUR MIND.
    JohnS0N 2 Replies
    • September 9, 2008
    • 09:15 AM
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