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Spouse Denying Mental Illness

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  • Posted By: femme1610
  • September 11, 2008
  • 05:45 PM

Hi

I am in a bit of a bind... Hope someone can shed some light and give me peace. I'll try to keep it simple. Here goes..

My husband (aged 38) has the following character traits:

Irrational thinking
Anti-social behaviour
Highly dependant on me
Uncontrollable anger
Continously bringing up the past
Self absorbed most times (not considering other ppl's feelings)
Blaming others
Very guilty
Paranoid (always thinks i am trying to "punish" or hurt him)
Thinks he has "bad luck" continously
Defensive
Sensitive
Highly emotional
Negative ("glass is always 1/2 empty" way of thinking)
Overly happy at times
Exaggerates/lies/twists truth to suit himself
VERY creative
Makes silly or illogical decisions in his personal life (but at work he's highly looked upon)
becoming more aggressive (occassionally hitting and damaging property)
Talks wayyyy too much and quickly
Highly irritable
Always demanding apologies (even if i have done nothing wrong)
He views day to day responsibilies as "chores"
Possibly OCD??? Over cleaning and grooming his body.

He has a "high-up" job and rose up 3 levels very quickly over 6 months in the justice system (so there is stress), he is the youngest ever to be at that level. He is also "self medicating" to keep "calm" as he says - but to me its not working! And the use of this "herbal" substance has increased over the last 6 months. He has been on Lexapro for 5 years, but started to wean himself off about 9 months ago, was on 10mg, now on 5mg.

On the other hand, he can be the most loving, sweetest, kindest, most beautiful thing in the world, but the above sympoms are starting to take over.

He doesnt recognise that there is anything wrong, nor does his family, so I have no support. He wont up his meds either.

2 questions: What can this illness be? and what can i do to help him without him knowing??? Very tricky!!

I appreciate anyones help, as I have exhasted all avenues and cant see him wither away like this, nor can I live like this, as I am the one who will end up in an institution!

Many Thanks!!

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  • It sounds like he is bipolar, what they used to call manic-depressive. They can be very hard to live with and you have my sympathy.
    alias2277b 18 Replies
    • October 1, 2008
    • 01:59 PM
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  • I would get him to a psychologist. Skitzo demonstrates such symptoms, although in later stages "word-salad" episodes begin. Skitzo can start at any age too. Keep track of if this happens in episodes or just all the time. If his "new self" takes over every other day and then switches back, get him to a psycologist before something happens. Psychotic episodes = not good.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 3, 2008
    • 06:55 AM
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  • Hi,You have beautifully described the illness but you have never cared that you are inclined to your parents and ignoring/insulting inlaws parents and this only has changed the scenario.Hi I am in a bit of a bind... Hope someone can shed some light and give me peace. I'll try to keep it simple. Here goes.. My husband (aged 38) has the following character traits: Irrational thinkingAnti-social behaviourHighly dependant on meUncontrollable angerContinously bringing up the pastSelf absorbed most times (not considering other ppl's feelings)Blaming othersVery guiltyParanoid (always thinks i am trying to "punish" or hurt him)Thinks he has "bad luck" continouslyDefensiveSensitiveHighly emotionalNegative ("glass is always 1/2 empty" way of thinking)Overly happy at timesExaggerates/lies/twists truth to suit himselfVERY creativeMakes silly or illogical decisions in his personal life (but at work he's highly looked upon)becoming more aggressive (occassionally hitting and damaging property)Talks wayyyy too much and quicklyHighly irritableAlways demanding apologies (even if i have done nothing wrong)He views day to day responsibilies as "chores"Possibly OCD??? Over cleaning and grooming his body. He has a "high-up" job and rose up 3 levels very quickly over 6 months in the justice system (so there is stress), he is the youngest ever to be at that level. He is also "self medicating" to keep "calm" as he says - but to me its not working! And the use of this "herbal" substance has increased over the last 6 months. He has been on Lexapro for 5 years, but started to wean himself off about 9 months ago, was on 10mg, now on 5mg. On the other hand, he can be the most loving, sweetest, kindest, most beautiful thing in the world, but the above sympoms are starting to take over. He doesnt recognise that there is anything wrong, nor does his family, so I have no support. He wont up his meds either. 2 questions: What can this illness be? and what can i do to help him without him knowing??? Very tricky!! I appreciate anyones help, as I have exhasted all avenues and cant see him wither away like this, nor can I live like this, as I am the one who will end up in an institution! Many Thanks!!
    mehtaanil2001 5 Replies
    • December 4, 2008
    • 05:39 AM
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