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  • Posted By: Joseph James
  • February 10, 2008
  • 09:09 PM

I'm a 16 year old male, for the last year or so I've been feeling in an extremely low mood almost constantly, and it's getting worse. I always feel depressed, I get the feeling that pretty much everything is pointless, and I've become extremely pessimistic, I've gotten a lot more irritable towards people as well. I often think about suicide when I feel particularly bad, and the whole situation has made me feel pretty hopeless.

Since these symptoms started, I've had a lot of difficulty in social situations where I used to be ok, I used to be able to talk to anyone, but now I find myself with only a few friends I'm able to hold a conversation with. In an attempt to become more social again, I started drinking a lot and smoking weed a lot because it makes it easier for me relax when I'm on them, but it's just made things worse. Now I only really feel able to function in any social situation with more than around 4 other people unless I get wasted. So, this has made me pretty much dependant on drink and drugs to feel comfortable when I'm out. I wouldn't describe myself as addicted to either alcohol or weed though. I've cut down my weed smoking in recent months because I felt like it was making me worse, and I was tired of dealing with some of the scum you have to meet to get weed round my area, but now I'm drinking a lot more.

My sleep has been affected too, I wake up a lot in the night and never feel rested. My appetite has decreased as well, I often go for a day or two with only one meal, when I used to have a huge appetite.

I tried to tell a close friend about how I feel, and he didn't take me seriously and made fun of me a little bit. This has made me wary to go to the doctor's incase I'm not taken seriously again; I don't want that humilation again. I'm also worried that a doctor wouldn't be able to do anything for me.

I just thought I should mention that there have been two or three times where I feel almost back to my old self again for around three or four days, but I always feel terrible afterwards.

Please, I need some advice on what to do, I want to feel better.

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  • I have exactly the same problem, minus the weed, but I did turn to alcohol. I am female.I didn't want to go to my gp as I thought she'd tell me to go home and get over it and that it was just teenage hormones. After describing my symptoms to her she wrote me out a prescription for anti-depressants (Fluoxetine). I took them for a few months last year but didn't notice a difference. I then stopped without consulting her, which I shouldn't have done. At the same time I significantly reduced my alchol intake (I drunk excessively 2-3 times a week) and I just turned 17. I now drink once every 3-4 weeks and no longer drink to get drunk. This has made a huge improvement as drink is a depressant, it may help for a while but as soon as your sober it hits you back round the face twice as hard.I still have low patches where suicidal thoughts occur but I try and keep myself busy and look to the future (my depression was due to a traumatic childhood-especially in my early teens). Socially I have a pretty normal amount of friends but struggle with meeting new people. My suggestions to you:-STOP the weed completely, may need to be bit by bit.-Reduce the alchohol intake, bit by bit though, don't shock yourself.-Go to your doctor, he or she will NOT laugh. This is more common then you think. As well as medication you may get referral to counselling (not sure where you live-In UK you can get it free on nhs).-Get a new hobbie or interest to keep yourself occupied-Do you have a job? If not try and get one, it will get you meeting new people-not as scary as you think! And also earn you some money.-This has benefited me greatly.-Buy uplifting books to put you in a good mood. "Being happy"-Andrew Matthews.Best of luck. There are so many people who suffer with this, you're not alone!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 11, 2008
    • 04:31 PM
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  • Thanks for the advice, I've got a doctor's appointment on wednesday morning, so we'll see what happens.
    Joseph James 2 Replies
    • February 15, 2008
    • 05:35 PM
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  • Definitely sounds like a treatable depression to me...I used to feel much the same way and over time things got better. If I may make some suggestions to consider:-get enough sunlight-get aerobic exercise! Run or jog or jump around, this has been shown to help depression a great deal-stop the drinking and weed for sure. a night of drinking can mess with your serotonin, leaving you depressed for days. I'm sorry to hear about how you feel you can't cope socially without this stuff, I know how you feel. I went out drinking last night for the first time in a long time. It makes it easier to socialize, but you don't really get anywhere with it. And today I feel terrible. My mood is so messed up. Now I remember why I don't drink. :p Good luck!
    drifter 7 Replies
    • February 25, 2008
    • 06:18 AM
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  • Sounds exactly like me ,did the weed since i was 14 and drank .....get an androgens test. im 25 now, it took me 5 years to get a diagnosis. low testosterone levels in guys makes us depressed moody emotional sleep probs and...... DEPRESSION. depression and bipolar are crap. If you are defiecient in iron , testosterone - anything your body needs to run propelry, good diet etc. Guess what? your gonna feel fatigued depressed anxious and unconfident. I know i did and after my first hrt injection i feel normal again. You should get on a good toxin flush and detox ,stop drinking alcohol , start eating healthy and go get that test, push everyone to the side for 2 months and have someone look after you if poss cos the detox sux. I also suggest a naturpath, they might seem like crap to you. i was very sceptical at first. but man... chinese medicine has been round for ions. It works. I tried all the depression meds. They are ****. they just alter your perception of reality so its easier to cope and eventually turn you into a numb zombie that cant operate or talk to anyone cos you have no feeling. Your body requires certain minerals in it to make you feel and operate normal. Low testosterone could be the cause of your "depression".Just another way to go about things when all you hear from your doc is "heres prozac" or "heres avanza" or bla bla bla etc etc etc ....breathe in..... breathe out....relax.... they tell you.... what a load of crap they dish. ....anyway cya mate.goodluck
    rollercoaster 1 Replies
    • February 25, 2008
    • 07:23 AM
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  • Your psych symtoms could be triggered by the drugs and alcohol. Please see a GI dr and get evaluated for possible elevated porphyrians. It is possible you could have triggered acute intermittant porphyria; the drugs have messed with your mind and system and your brain chemistry could also be out of whack. Stop the drugs. Anyone with psych issues/signs like yours and has been taking drugs both legal and street kinds/alcohol should have their porphyrian levels checked out. http://wrongdiagnosis.com/p/porphyria/symptoms.htm#symptom_list Get the help you need asap... so you can feel better. And learn about porphyria triggers. It would be best for you to avoid triggers like alcohol and drugs not safe for porphyria patients. Your liver needs you to care for it, and and so does your brain and rest of your body. Take care.tdwi ;) I'm a 16 year old male, for the last year or so I've been feeling in an extremely low mood almost constantly, and it's getting worse. I always feel depressed, I get the feeling that pretty much everything is pointless, and I've become extremely pessimistic, I've gotten a lot more irritable towards people as well. I often think about suicide when I feel particularly bad, and the whole situation has made me feel pretty hopeless. Since these symptoms started, I've had a lot of difficulty in social situations where I used to be ok, I used to be able to talk to anyone, but now I find myself with only a few friends I'm able to hold a conversation with. In an attempt to become more social again, I started drinking a lot and smoking weed a lot because it makes it easier for me relax when I'm on them, but it's just made things worse. Now I only really feel able to function in any social situation with more than around 4 other people unless I get wasted. So, this has made me pretty much dependant on drink and drugs to feel comfortable when I'm out. I wouldn't describe myself as addicted to either alcohol or weed though. I've cut down my weed smoking in recent months because I felt like it was making me worse, and I was tired of dealing with some of the scum you have to meet to get weed round my area, but now I'm drinking a lot more. My sleep has been affected too, I wake up a lot in the night and never feel rested. My appetite has decreased as well, I often go for a day or two with only one meal, when I used to have a huge appetite. I tried to tell a close friend about how I feel, and he didn't take me seriously and made fun of me a little bit. This has made me wary to go to the doctor's incase I'm not taken seriously again; I don't want that humilation again. I'm also worried that a doctor wouldn't be able to do anything for me. I just thought I should mention that there have been two or three times where I feel almost back to my old self again for around three or four days, but I always feel terrible afterwards. Please, I need some advice on what to do, I want to feel better.
    TaylorDeelwithit 382 Replies
    • February 25, 2008
    • 08:04 AM
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