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Social Anxiety Disorder

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • November 24, 2007
  • 03:22 PM

For about 5 years now I've suffered on and off with anxiety. It started out quite serious and all of sudden, basically every morning I would wake up and be sick. And it didn't matter if I didn't eat anything, or if I had a glass of water, or a bowl of healthy dry cereal. This was a regular occurance on mornings when I had to go to school. It would usually subside at the weekends, so long as I didn't have to go anywhere.

After a while I just stopped eating completely, that way I thought.. 'Hey, If I'm not eating, then I can't throw up.. right?' And that just led to worse problems, because then I would find it hard to eat anything. Over the last 5 years I've got better at dealing with my anxiety, and I've had a few different jobs, and I've been OK with those, although initally going to the interviews and starting there were absolutely terrorfying.

It used to be so bad that I would be scared to get a haircut, because I knew I would be sitting in the chair for 30 minutes or more, and I would worry myself thinking 'what If I throw up'. But I'm now OK with those situations, so I feel as though I'm slowly conquering it. However, I am still having problems with larger social situations, such as eating in a restaurant with a group of 4+ people, I feel sick to the stomach for the duration. And often now when thrown in to those situations, I sometimes just go to the toilets and I'll make myself sick just to rid myself of the feeling. Also going out with friends to pubs or clubs, I can find that difficult, just worrying again about being in the queue outside hoping I don't throw up, or in the car on the way there. It sometimes gets to the point where I'll avoid those social situations. However, on the odd occassion I do manage to not avoid them, and I'm sometimes OK, but it's never without the fear and anxiety.

I just wish it would magically go away. Although I've somewhat got better over the last 5 years from when it first started, It's not completely gone away. A girl I like, her parents have invited me for a dinner, and I absolutely want to go and for everything to be alright, but I'm already worried about it. Meeting the parents is hard enough, let alone with the feeling that you might be sick.

So that's my story. Just wondering if anyone has had the same sort of experiences in social situations at restaurants, and how they've tried to conquer their fears and anxiety.

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • November 29, 2007
    • 08:24 AM
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  • Your Social Anxiety is pretty pretty nasty my friend. Yes, I can relate, but I have luckily been able to choke on most of my fears and let them subside. You however, seem to be getting the kind you cannot merely hide. You know there are a lot of things and lot of ways to tackle this but I will tell you barely any of them are foolproof. Some will say Visualization, Some will Say Drugs, some will day exposure and the Irritant... And others well, they have thousands of answers for you. Personally I would try them all and find what works for you because being afraid of Life will kill you and ruin your life. If it requires Valium, if it requires Prozak, if it requires hours of Therapy, cliffjumping...whatver you have to do but you are obviously not tackling it... You're young and I will give you some good advice, get it before you get older. the Vomiting is merely your bodies illness with life... You can recluse to rebuild your strength but you need to stop worrying about stuff and get to what's important defeating Anxiety so you can live... Freely and perfectly, other than that all I can say is this... You can be a quiet and reclusive person... It doesn't really matter, it's your choice. Though there must be a solution for you, depends on how determined you are. Good Luck and if you need any help just write me back. I'd more than happy to elaborate or give more advice... I had anxiety so bad, I lost 2/3rds of my education for it, lost a great deal of my life for it. Defeating Fear is a Monster Job, and you can't do it with guts alone you need smarts For about 5 years now I've suffered on and off with anxiety. It started out quite serious and all of sudden, basically every morning I would wake up and be sick. And it didn't matter if I didn't eat anything, or if I had a glass of water, or a bowl of healthy dry cereal. This was a regular occurance on mornings when I had to go to school. It would usually subside at the weekends, so long as I didn't have to go anywhere. After a while I just stopped eating completely, that way I thought.. 'Hey, If I'm not eating, then I can't throw up.. right?' And that just led to worse problems, because then I would find it hard to eat anything. Over the last 5 years I've got better at dealing with my anxiety, and I've had a few different jobs, and I've been OK with those, although initally going to the interviews and starting there were absolutely terrorfying. It used to be so bad that I would be scared to get a haircut, because I knew I would be sitting in the chair for 30 minutes or more, and I would worry myself thinking 'what If I throw up'. But I'm now OK with those situations, so I feel as though I'm slowly conquering it. However, I am still having problems with larger social situations, such as eating in a restaurant with a group of 4+ people, I feel sick to the stomach for the duration. And often now when thrown in to those situations, I sometimes just go to the toilets and I'll make myself sick just to rid myself of the feeling. Also going out with friends to pubs or clubs, I can find that difficult, just worrying again about being in the queue outside hoping I don't throw up, or in the car on the way there. It sometimes gets to the point where I'll avoid those social situations. However, on the odd occassion I do manage to not avoid them, and I'm sometimes OK, but it's never without the fear and anxiety. I just wish it would magically go away. Although I've somewhat got better over the last 5 years from when it first started, It's not completely gone away. A girl I like, her parents have invited me for a dinner, and I absolutely want to go and for everything to be alright, but I'm already worried about it. Meeting the parents is hard enough, let alone with the feeling that you might be sick. So that's my story. Just wondering if anyone has had the same sort of experiences in social situations at restaurants, and how they've tried to conquer their fears and anxiety. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
    Liam123 48 Replies
    • December 22, 2007
    • 11:11 AM
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  • I suffered from much anxiety in the past and still do a little bit.Mostly social anxiety. I find the similar thing with restaurants. I can eat fine on my own though, but I find it difficult to eat in public and it can get stressful...I would maybe try not making yourself throw up though because then you might learn to associate eating out with throwing up, and the nausea will come on automatically. Maybe if you could try calming yourself through your upset stomach, that would help. Like practise on your own at first, then try in a slightly more public place, and then work your way up to the restaurant situation. When the feeling comes on, try and sit through it and breathe deep and slow and just know that you're making it go away. Then again, I know it is not exactly that easy. If you gotta go you gotta go! But I hope you can find a way to ease yourself out of the bad tummy situation... Good luck!
    drifter 7 Replies
    • February 25, 2008
    • 06:53 AM
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