My dad has been through a fair bit over the past year or two including hurting his shoulder at work, having 2 operations and being put off due to limited ability to do the same job, being unemployed, losing his mother (was old aged but still ******n him) and now he is having back problems caused by surgery on the shoulder and the worse case scenario is key-hole surgery on the back.
I understand him feeling so down about things and feeling bored and unmotivated spending so much time at home, looking for work in a small town and not having much luck.
I spent 6 months looking for work and felt useless enough then.
Recently he has been shouting alot at my mum and she's supporting him so strongly but i can see it taking its toll on her. The other day I went back to the home town to visit and heard crying suddenly and my dad was sitting in the loungeroom and had burst into tears. for the rest of the weekend he only grumbled and snapped at me, mum and my brother (also visiting).
my mum told me secretly that shes wanted to tell dad to "f^%$ing get over it and make an effort". my mum never says that word. but at the same time we cant make him want a job offered or make more effort looking for work or at least being happy with what hes got. I've studied psychology and feel dad has depression due to all thats gone on over the past few yrs and i'm worried it'll get worse unless he has a confidence boost suddenly and things turn around and get better than just staying the same, or getting worse for him. i dont like the idea of the medication bit (i probably wouldnt mind if i hadnt studied psych!). mum wants him to see a dr but he wont listen.
He has always been a tough man who ive never seen cry in my life (until his mum passed away) so it was surprising to go home and see him burst into tears - full on crying. i knew something was up before but now i know he isnt feel happy at all
how do we support him and make sure he is feeling happy and better about things if he only throws our suggestions back at our faces? do you think he has some sort of depression from what ive said (without going into finer details)? and what would you suggest?
thanks in advance :-)