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Newly Diagnosed Bipolar

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  • Posted By: isitmee2
  • December 17, 2006
  • 03:31 AM

I have been diagnosed bipolar and was on medication for depression for a while before that. I had to go through quite a few different tests and speaking to a few different people before they told me it was bipolar rather than clinical depression. I am a little embarassed to discuss this with the counselor just yet - the whole comfort level thing. I am just wondering, if anyone can help, do you feel like your relationship is not working anymore as part of this condition? I constantly think about having an affair but haven't as yet and I really don't think I ever will but am I the only one? Or is this part of it? I am working really hard and just need a little help.

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  • Having an affair is tempting when your needs are not being met. But having an affair doesn't meet your needs in the long run. It involves guilt, deception, a risk of anger and violence, intimacy without commitment, and self-deception. It's a fantasy but not reality. You pretend the person is wonderful because they act nice during the short times you are together, but they have no commitment to you. And, you'd be using that person to meet your unmet needs from your committed relationship. I would recommend two things: Read "His Needs, Her Needs," and see a marriage counselor, even if you have to do it by yourself. Affairs can be addictive, and you don't need an addiction to meet your needs. Respect yourself by resisting that temptation and getting your needs met in a way that can last and that you don't have to feel guilty about.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 17, 2006
    • 08:25 AM
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  • Thank you for the advice and I will definitely read "His Needs, Her Needs". I am slowly working up the courage to talk to my therapist about it and if she suggests seeing a marriage counselor also, I will. My husband and I have communication problems which I have discussed with my therapist and she said he is welcome to join me for therapy -- still working on that one........
    isitmee2 1 Replies
    • December 18, 2006
    • 03:15 AM
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  • Don't really know how to explain this... You need to read up more on your condition. During the mania part of your condition, apart from blowing money on frivolous things, having several affairs is one of the symptoms, something to do with being promiscuos(sic).
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 20, 2006
    • 07:22 PM
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  • I was diagnosed three years ago as bi-polar, I went through years of taking different combinations of medications, the doctors never seemed to get it right what I should take, anyway, after many many doctors and lots of therapy I was re-diagnosed as severely depressed. It seemed at the time that everyone I ran into was being diagnosed bi-polar, all I'm saying is get a second or even a third opinion.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 20, 2006
    • 07:29 PM
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  • Please read this my friend. One of the symptoms of Bipolar Disorder is hypersexuality. This can lead to sexual addiction. This was the most destructive symptom in my case. When I was manic, I would go looking for loose women, go to massage parlors, look at **********y. During a really bad episode I even told my wife that I thought we should split because I could not defeat the temptations/addiction. Recently I found on www.lifeloveandbipolar.com/hypersexuality.html that this is common. DO NOT GIVE INTO THESE TEMPTATIONS! Once I got on the right medicine, I wanted to work things out...but my wife divorced me. You need to ask your Doctor about Naltrexone. It is an anti-addiction medicine that has really helped me conquer the sexual temptations. A major drawback is that I can not have a beer or glass of wine without getting ill. BUT IT IS WORTH IT.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 19, 2008
    • 11:00 PM
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