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My wife is VERY paranoid

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  • Posted By: ginadarrel
  • February 1, 2007
  • 03:33 PM

My wife, Gina is 41 years old and has been having problems with paranoia, delusions and hallucinations for about 3 years now. She had an ovary removed almost 4 years ago, and after that things started going bad. She was very depressed at the time, so I put her in the hospital and they diagnosed her as bipolar. They put her on a few bipolar medicines. After about 6 months she started becoming paranoid, thinking that my ex-wife and some of our neighbors had broken into our house and that her own Mom and some of my family was involved. She then started having delusions and hallucinations thinking that someone was living in our attic and seeing and hearing other things. Her psychiatrist kept changing her medicines around, and sometimes she might be ok for a couple of months, but then she would revert back to the way she was. She started thinking that the police were after her and that our phones were tapped and there were cameras in our house. It got so bad that I had to end up selling our house and moving because she thought all of our neighbors were conspiring against her. That was in July 2006, and things went really well for a few months, with the exception of her becoming very paranoid about the cars going by the street behind our house (we live in a subdivision). Slowly she started thinking again that there were cameras in our house, and that when a car went zooming past, it meant that they were keeping an eye on her, and sometimes they were giving her messages. Also when she would see something expensive on tv or in person, she would think that she was being offered that house or car or whatever it was in exchange for divorcing me. She started thinking that I was being unfaithful and that I wanted a divorce. Neither of those were even remotely true. Whenever we would go somewhere, she always thinks that we are being followed, even though the cars or the people are never the same each time. Then on Thanksgiving morning, we were putting up our Christmas tree and since I was sweating, I wiped off my forehead. She became furious and said that I was doing hand signals to these people in the cars. It then progressed to if I sniffed, it meant that I didn’t love her or some other message. When dozing off to sleep, if I flinched, like everyone does when they first doze off to sleep, it meant that I was pushing her out of the bed and telling her to leave the house. We went to Detroit for the weekend a couple of months ago, and a car passed us with a woman in it. All of a sudden she claimed that this was the woman that I was having an affair with. She came up with all of these details including what her name was, that she had a son, that she worked at a local hospital as a nurse, and that I had already bought her a diamond ring and was planning on marrying her.
She had never had any paranoia, delusions or hallucinations before in her life until her psychiatrist put her on the bipolar medicines. She has been on at least 30 types of medicines, including several anti-psychotics that were supposed to control her paranoia. We were hoping that it was the medicines that were causing these mental problems, so we convinced her doctor to back her up to a base level, and to give her an anti-depressant and some Xanax for her anxiety. She is also on birth control pills, which when she first started taking them about 9 months ago seemed to balance her out some at the time. She is still about the same as she was when she was on the bipolar medicines, but her paranoia seems to have even gotten worse. She has also gotten violent at times, and has hit me a few times. I am currently living with my parents to protect myself.
A few months ago, she started having an accelerated heart rate, so they did some tests and realized that she was having some thyroid problems. We were hoping that this might have been the cause of her behavior problems, but her endocrinologist informed us that her thyroid levels were low, but that they weren’t that far out of range that could cause this type of behavior. One thing that we (her Mom and I) have especially noticed is that somewhere around 5:00 – 6:00 each day is when she gets really bad. Earlier in the day she might have some thoughts and talk about whomever she thinks is watching or following her at that time. For the most part though, she is fairly normal acting. Then it is like a switch is turned on in her brain and she starts having these outlandish thoughts and loses pretty much all touch with reality. She cannot be reasoned with logically at all. At first, her Mom thought that she had gotten some drugs or something that she might be taking around that time, but neither her Mom nor I have seen her do anything like that. She will be sitting there talking normally, and then all of a sudden it’s like she switches to a different personality.
We have been to so many doctors and she has been on so many medicines that we are not sure what to try next. Her doctor recommends putting her back in the hospital, but they will only put her back on the medicines again that could be masking the true cause. We were wondering if you might have any ideas about what path to take, and any theories about why it seems to happen around the same time every day? I know that it’s hard to draw any conclusions without having actually examined her, but we would appreciate any insight you might have into this.

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  • You are the third person posting this kind of story in 24 hours.You got to get in touch with the other 2 husbands- I am sure there is a link.Either a toxin, a virus, a medication, something.I am very sorry.Take Care.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 1, 2007
    • 04:17 PM
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  • i hope this isnt too late to reply, but here it goes:1-the bipolar medicines make your thyroid levels off. thats probably why her thyroid went off.2-check to see if she has some sort of "sleep issue" going on during that time. "sleep issue" referring to losing some sleep and/or getting sleep interrupted by something. a "sleep issue" can produce those symptoms. example, if she has an underlying sleep disorder it can cause "sleep to be interrupted all night long" & she & you may not even be aware that anything this bad is occurring (like, if it were the sleep disorder "sleep apnea", she would have a few symptoms of snoring or maybe a few problems where she sounds like she's gasping for air when she sleeps)--a sleep disorder can REALLY mess up sleep real bad. another "sleep issue" can also be from other underlying medical conditions that cause a person to lose sleep at night-if it went on for long enough, the person could get those mental & emotional symptoms from it. also- if she just likes to stay up late at night doing things & therefore "loses some sleep", this too could set things in motion.for more education on "sleep issues" & what it can produce, try this website for further info:http://sleepinformationfacts.ebloggy.com/also, its unfortunate to say that some anti-psychotics & bipolar medications can actually CAUSE those symptoms they're trying to get rid of. for this, you can get further info on drugs & side-effects if you visit the following website that's put out by the Food & Drug Administration:http://www.fda.gov/cder/ (hit the "drug information" tab)
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 5, 2007
    • 09:31 AM
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  • i forgot to give you a website for information on "sleep disorders" in case she has one:http://www.talkaboutsleep.com/bye
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 5, 2007
    • 09:40 AM
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  • oops, its ME again, the one who just posted things about sleep issues & the medications.i didnt word that one statement right about what the bipolar medications can do- they can give side-effects of "thinking impairment", "hallucinations", "psychosis". that's what i meant, not that it can just create what you're trying to get rid of- it can do BOTH.i dont now the totality of your wifes case. if it was like mine, they put me on bipolar medicines that never worked, but it had the side-effect of making you fat as a house. then the fat created a new medical problem, a sleep disorder called "sleep apnea" (which if untreated, can produce symptoms like what you described). if she ever got overweight from those pills, she could have sleep apnea & should have it checked & the treament for it will put a stop to that messed up thinking.bye
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 5, 2007
    • 10:06 AM
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