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losing hope.

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • February 25, 2009
  • 03:34 PM

hello i am writing this cus i am losing hope. i am a 21 yr old college student who jus found out im having a kid. my girlfriend and mother of my child is going completely crazy. she yells,threatens, and downright doesnt care it seems. her treating me this way has triggered my bipolar disorder like never before i go from the best mood ever to one wrong thing she says im crying trying to do cocaine and gobble vicoden like tic tacs. iv tried to explain to her but she says im haveing a "pity party" and she can do whatever she wants even if it means causing my mental insanity. i cannot leave her for i would never do that too my child. but this is driving me absolutely insane and its too the point i need to either commit myself or kill myself and when ur giving advice back to this dont say prayer or god i moved on from him long ago and have gone so far i cannot stand to go back and ask for forgiveness. i am a drug addict with manic depression trying to clean up and prepare to be the best parent i can but with my spouse treating me this way i feel this will all get worse instead of better i feel helpless someone got some advice?

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  • hey man, im 16 and i am going through something similar to you. i know since im not very old my advice doesnt mean much. from what it sounds your wife sounds angry because she doenst know what to do. I too think i suffer from bipolar disorder and hate it more than anything. My best advice is you sit her down and just let it all go and listen to what she has to say. i know it may be hard, but you have to try to lay off the drugs as best you can because althoght they feel like they help, they only make things worse, trust me i know. Talking things out is the best you can do or seek professional help. i hope this helped a little.
    Nick04 1 Replies
    • February 26, 2009
    • 11:38 PM
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  • hello i am writing this cus i am losing hope. i am a 21 yr old college student who jus found out im having a kid. my girlfriend and mother of my child is going completely crazy. she yells,threatens, and downright doesnt care it seems. her treating me this way has triggered my bipolar disorder like never before i go from the best mood ever to one wrong thing she says im crying trying to do cocaine and gobble vicoden like tic tacs. iv tried to explain to her but she says im haveing a "pity party" and she can do whatever she wants even if it means causing my mental insanity. i cannot leave her for i would never do that too my child. but this is driving me absolutely insane and its too the point i need to either commit myself or kill myself and when ur giving advice back to this dont say prayer or god i moved on from him long ago and have gone so far i cannot stand to go back and ask for forgiveness. i am a drug addict with manic depression trying to clean up and prepare to be the best parent i can but with my spouse treating me this way i feel this will all get worse instead of better i feel helpless someone got some advice? I am assuming that you got married to your wife because she is pregnant. Well you guys need to take a couple steps back. Act as if you don't have a kid. Maybe start fresh or break it off. As long as a kid gets to see both their parents and they remain civil they will turn out fine. No kid wants to have parents that are arguing all the time. Believe from my personal experience it would be easier if you just broke it off now. Then remained civil in the future when the kid is around. Since you are an addict I suggest you get your relationship worked out and figure everything out. Then get into a rehab facility. I have a parent who was an addict, and they couldn't get clean until rehab. Go into their sober living program as well, not just detox. It makes life easier in the end. The final thing is if you relapse, keep trying. Go back to rehab because you're gonna have a kid and this isn't just about you anymore. I do believe that if you were to break it off with your wife in a civil reasonable way, you could get better. Keep in mind if you don't your kid will see their dad being insulted all the time and assume that's how either they're supposed to be talked to (if a boy) or how they are supposed to talk to boys. Plus the kid will blame it on themselves. That's my advice.
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