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I know my mom is paranoid and I don't know what to do.

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  • Posted By: TinyTeeth
  • October 14, 2008
  • 02:17 AM

Almost 1 year ago my mom stopped working just because she felt she could start her own business and was pretty much tired of working for other people. Well like I said this was almost 1 year ago (it will be 1 year in December) and since she has stopped working she has just been sitting in the house day after day after day only leaving to go to the store or church or out to eat every once in a while.

I first started seeing signs of her being paranoid when she stopped talking to one of her friends saying that a "hater" of hers set this guy up to be friends with my mom just to get into her "business" I was just like... okay, whatever. It just got worse from there... she would be up at 2am looking out the window claiming the guy was driving by to spy on her everyday and things like that. Also she would begin starring down every car that drove through the neighborhood claiming it was someone driving by to spy on her. I really didn't think it could get any worse but it has because now she claims someone has come into the house and put something in the air vents, made copies of ALL of her and put some type of poison in the air vents that make her cough (which she actually starts t cough when we get into her car but somehow nobody else gets effected by it...) Today I came home to find all of my perfume, lotion, shower gel, make up, toothpaste, toothbrush, hair things, in the trash because "they" did something to them. Oh yes, let me mention there is NO sign that anyone has been into our house. We have an alarm system and all that. She claims she knows they have been in the house because God reveiled it to her. She claims she gets revelations (which are really just thoughts in her mind) from God.

My mom's mom was schizophrenic so I'm assuming this is wear it's all coming from. I just feel like her being cooped up in the house for a year has just turned her into this crazy psycho. She also claims she cannot have a mental illness because she didn't have one before the age of 18 and she is past the age of 36 which is suppose to be the clear or something like that. She is 43. Also, I didn't go into everything she is paranoid about... she doesn't want to go to restaurants, the hair salon, the movies, anywhere because she thinks everyone knows somebody who is out to get her.

So what should I do?

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  • Call her church and ask her pastor to get a member to spend some time getting her out of the house. It sounds like she feels afraid and alone, and if she is unable to admit it, it may be good for her to be around people who are I don't know, certifiably safe. You know?Also, PLEASE do not have your mother committed, that is the worst thing a family member can do, and if you take her to a psychiatrist investigate her meds absolutely, because medications to treat these symptoms can also wreck a person, especially at her age.Technically, if she has lived her whole life without ANY signs of illness she probably would not develope illness now. It is perhaps an extreme effect of being shut in the house for a year or more. This happens with retirees and persons who are unemployed. When you feel like no one needs you, there is no healthy stress in your life, or you have little to no responsibilities daily then ANYONE can get stir crazy. Stay at home moms, retired persons, unemployed and persons with disabilities all experience this kind of mentality and behavior.Force her to do things, does she like animals? Volunteering with animals in some fashion is a great way to feel safe and get some responsibility back into her schedule, but she should do it regularly, not once in a while. If she is not at home for medical reasons, and if she is not really working maybe you could suggest temping? Work is good for the soul, I should know I spent 6 months on SDI and I was out of my mind until I went back to work and got into my routine.
    wildhare 7 Replies
    • October 19, 2008
    • 02:39 AM
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