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I'm 23 and homebound...what could be wrong?!

Posted In: Mental conditions 3 Replies
  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • August 21, 2007
  • 02:21 AM

Hi all,

My name's Paul. I'm 23 years old from NY, and for the past 7 months or so, I've been homebound with chronic tiredness and many other symptoms. Before I get to those, however, I'll give a short and sweet background on me.

My personality is one of introversion. I never really partook in social activities throughout my life, and I never had a true "best friend" or an intimate relationship (only acquaintances or work relationships). My sense of humor was phenomenal. I always excelled at school, particularly in the sciences. Studying was really my main hobby and I was great at it. I also held an awesome part-time job at a drive-thru convenience store for 4 years while attending college.

After I graduated, I got a job working at a laboratory overnight. It lasted for 6 months (got laid off last November). Since then, I've been unemployed, living at home with my mother and brother.

Ever since around February or so, I started experiencing the following symptoms:

Excessive tiredness (mostly mental), wanting to sleep all the time
Homebound and not going out, decreased social interaction (mostly out of fear due to all these symptoms I have)
Difficulty concentrating and focusing
Total loss of interest in things
Having this "blank" feeling all the time, like feeling no emotion for things (I feel neither sad nor happy)
Very apathetic and unmotivated to do ANYTHING (this is the worst symptom...for example, I was supposed to start a Ph.D program next month, but I just can't do it)

So these are my symptoms. I'm not hallucinating or experiencing delusions or suicidal thoughts, and bodily I feel ok. No aches or pains, nothing like that. I went to my doctor last month, took a blood test. Everything checked out normal, except he said I have Epstein-Barr Virus (EBV), which could cause chronic fatigue syndrome, but I don't think I meet all the criteria for that.

And I currently don't have health insurance....hopefully my Mom could get it at work or I'll have to lie to get Medicaid (if I can follow through with social services).

I'm in such a rut, and the hardest part is that nobody in my family is showing any genuine concern. Seeing my previous level of functioning, they think I'll just "snap out of it," but I know it's a serious matter.


WHAT COULD THIS BE? Please help....I wish I was back to my old self again.

~Paul~

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  • I think you're depressed from loosing what seemed to be such a good job for you. Perhaps your energy would be better served getting a resume by a pro and sending off to other labs.Too much time on your hands and sitting around is not healthy for anyone. You are too young to not bring yourself up via spiritual means or a follow through with your virus, and that could be a source of trouble for you, too. You don't need to lie about anything to apply for state assistance. You should qualify for medical and food stamps and owe it to your mom to apply and get some of your own groceries. I know, too, when you are laid off or fired, that their is job corps retraining and it may have funds in it for you to go back to school and study something...Try some work from home jobs in the meantime. Luckily, there are a lot of freelancing jobs in the world and you may find a perfect spot somewhere working from home.
    Monsterlove 2921 Replies
    • September 1, 2007
    • 04:28 AM
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  • My name is Danielle im is years old and live in England... please do not worry you are not on your own, i have had the same symptoms as you for a long time now but for me things have just got worse. i have had all of these blood tests, endless hospital appointments im basically fed up of being poked around like some sort of guinnea pig. i very rarely go out, i dont have any people that i find that i can trust.i am constantly tired (mentaly) i have no motivation and nothing interests me, stuck in a dead end job, the only thing that i can think of is that you feel that are stuck in this big hole and you feel that you are going no where in life, im now on anti depressents and i feel a whole lot better, i feel that things are sowly turning around... it does take time, you may not agree with me, and it took a ***l of a long time for me to agree that being drugged up may be a way to help me. everyone has different opionons, and im just telling you mine. i hope that things do work out for you and good luck. :p My name's Paul. I'm 23 years old from NY, and for the past 7 months or so, I've been homebound with chronic tiredness and many other symptoms. Before I get to those, however, I'll give a short and sweet background on me. My personality is one of introversion. I never really partook in social activities throughout my life, and I never had a true "best friend" or an intimate relationship (only acquaintances or work relationships). My sense of humor was phenomenal. I always excelled at school, particularly in the sciences. Studying was really my main hobby and I was great at it. I also held an awesome part-time job at a drive-thru convenience store for 4 years while attending college. After I graduated, I got a job working at a laboratory overnight. It lasted for 6 months (got laid off last November). Since then, I've been unemployed, living at home with my mother and brother. Ever since around February or so, I started experiencing the following symptoms: Excessive tiredness (mostly mental), wanting to sleep all the timeHomebound and not going out, decreased social interaction (mostly out of fear due to all these symptoms I have)Difficulty concentrating and focusingTotal loss of interest in things Having this "blank" feeling all the time, like feeling no emotion for things (I feel neither sad nor happy)Very apathetic and unmotivated to do ANYTHING (this is the worst symptom...for example, I was supposed to start a Ph.D program next month, but I just can't do it) So these are my symptoms. I'm not hallucinating or experiencing delusions or suicidal thoughts, and bodily I feel ok. No aches or pains, nothing like that. I went to my doctor last month, took a blood test. Everything checked out normal, except he said I have Epstein-Barr Virus (EBV), which could cause chronic fatigue syndrome, but I don't think I meet all the criteria for that. And I currently don't have health insurance....hopefully my Mom could get it at work or I'll have to lie to get Medicaid (if I can follow through with social services). I'm in such a rut, and the hardest part is that nobody in my family is showing any genuine concern. Seeing my previous level of functioning, they think I'll just "snap out of it," but I know it's a serious matter. WHAT COULD THIS BE? Please help....I wish I was back to my old self again. ~Paul~
    Danni 1989 12 Replies
    • September 5, 2007
    • 08:15 PM
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  • train yourself with small challenges .use what energy you can muster to ensure that your efforts lead to small successes.deny yourself pleasure and comfort which do not result from your training programme. allow yourself a small pleasure as and when you succeed.and not otherwise. get a copy of "rational emotive therapy"by albert ellis.read the list of"core irrational beliefs",contained therein.choose one (which seems true to you,or which seems to drive your behaviour,);start to challenge it,within your mind ,in small ways at first. enjoy the growing benefits.then do the next one.and so on.living in such a sequestered way should at least be economical.itshould enable you to save.as the money builds up in your account,allow yourself to fantasise different ways to enjoy spending it,when you have recovered enough tospend it as a young man should,on activity which will build you into a useful and attractive partner,and one day,a father.start to think about the woman who is waiting for you when you have made yourself fit for her company.it might be a good idea,also,to neglect your teeth.there is nothing like a really bad toothache to demonstrate to you how fast you can really move ,and how good you are at going out,when you need to.this is a joke of course,but one with a truth at its core.think about it.your behaviour is exposing you to risks compared to which a toothache is trivial.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • September 14, 2007
    • 01:12 PM
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