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Husband agressive

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • February 15, 2007
  • 00:07 PM

Approx a year ago my husbands behaviour changed. To keep it brief he stopped going out (which he did regually with his friends) this in it's self was strange. He then started obsessing about his health and illnesses. He would go to GP and then out of hours doctors and A&E. Quite often this would be at the weekend rather than during the week. He would become very angry agressive and uncontrolable about his symptoms while at home but would revert to his normal reasonable self in public or seeing the doctor. If he was given reassuance about his symptoms by the following weekend he would have new symptoms. He then had a mild MI which I thought would stop this behaviour ( finally he had something that had been diagnosed ) but slowly after the initial diagnosis and things are returning to 'normal' the agression
has started and is becoming worse. Nothing I can do is ever right and he is now becoming violent - kicking, pushing and throwing things. He has refused to leave the house and I financially can not afford to leave with my children. He never acknowledges his behaviour as being irrational or unreasonable and I am questioned about everything I do receiving phone calls, where I shop, my friend calling to see me, work - infact every 'normal' thing I do in my life.

I wondered if this could be depression or another mental illness triggered by something that happened (something to stop him socialising ?)Would it be depression if he can control himself in public and put on a 'front' when with other people and at work?

I'd appreciate any thoughts and opinions.

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  • dont put up with agressive behavour ,stand your ground.even if he does have problems let him see that you wont tolerate aggresion.
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 17, 2007
    • 07:33 PM
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  • i realize that this post is from quite some time ago, but i'm just reading it now. your husband certainly needs some form of help, whether it be psychiatric, counseling, or otherwise. however, the most important thing for you to do is to keep your kids safe. even if he is not violent towards them or you, witnessing his violence is going to have a detrimental effecton your children's development. they need to feel safe at home. if money is too tight to leave for a while, visit your county's social services office and they will have resources for you as far as finding a safe place to stay with your kids. alternatively, many cities have crisis nurseries where you can take your kids for 72 hours while you get things straightened out at home. good luck and be strong
    Anonymous 42,789 Replies
    • October 23, 2007
    • 10:07 PM
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  • Wonder if you are still with him??? Can you get a scan of his brain? He might have something in there, a tumor or slight stroke...could be hormones, too...get his glands checked.
    Monsterlove 2,921 Replies
    • November 26, 2007
    • 09:18 AM
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  • Have they done a scan of his brain? It sounds like there might be a tumor or lesion there, that can affect how he behaves. Also, is there a chance he's doing drugs? That can change behavior, while still leaving enough cognition to control the behavior in public.
    PagaNovelty 14 Replies
    • November 26, 2007
    • 07:17 PM
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  • How old is he? If he is about 40, he's just got age crisis.Don't worry, everything will be ok!
    Farmover 3 Replies
    • November 26, 2007
    • 07:54 PM
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