I have a grown sister in her 40s. I need help knowing if it would help to take her to a doctor. I'm not sure if she even has anything, but it is my thought that she might have some type of high functioning learning or developmental disability. She has always worked minimum wage jobs, and she has a very hard time getting or keeping them. She lives with my mother who in 10 - 15 years will not be able to support her any longer because of age and I will be in a position of taking care of an aging parent, my sister, and the family my husband and I are planning on starting in the near future.
While I love her and will be glad to do what I can, I know financially I can not support her and wonder if she would be better able to hold a job if we had some assistance in or knew what help to get for her. Her symptoms are as follows.
She has little to no concentration in most areas of her life, although when it comes to very simple and repetitive computer games she can focus for hours.
My mother states that she was very early to start to reading, but so bad at math her teacher had my mother take her to the doctor to see if she was mentally up to par with her age. ( this was thirty some odd years ago, they found nothing wrong)
She gets obsessive on certain subjects, like her favorite rock star. Interacting with her on a social level is very much like being with a 13 year old. She has only ever been able to date much younger and immature men. She is completely socially unaware, often saying things that are inappropriate to the situation.
She has always been very clumsy. This has caused a couple of head injuries when young.
I just need to know if there is anything we can do for her. To help her become somewhat more self sufficient. Can she get help for her problems? Some sort of assistance in finding a job that suits her. Medication to help her focus where she needs it. anything at all would be helpful really. These problems all her life have made her very insecure and given her low self esteem. She thinks she is stupid. Even just helping her to understand her problems might be of some help. Thanks in advanced for any input!!!