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Have BPD, can't afford treatment

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • November 15, 2006
  • 03:52 AM

I'm 23 years old, and I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder almost 3 years ago by my school's shrink, but shortly after that I graduated and never recieved any treatment or help. Things are getting worse, and not better, and I'm at a loss where I should go and what I should do. I have no insurance, and I've been out of work for almost 2 years because of another condition, social phobia. So really I need help for both, but I don't know where to go or what to do. I will say this, that I am at a danger to myself and others because my anger outbursts have become so severe that I'm hurting myself again (something I haven't done since i was about 14), and I emotonally abuse family and my spouse so severely that I end up making them think like they are the crazy person. I have also had violent outbursts where I will throw things at my spouse or try to get in a car accident. My life is out of control please help me.

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  • How much exercise do you get a day? Try working up to at least 30 minutes of aerobic exercise per day, preferably first thing (or as close thereto as you can) in the morning. Also, take a good multivitamin and eat a balanced diet. No coffee, tea, or sodas. Drink at least 8 glasses of water per day. Write back and let us know how you are in 30 or 45 days. Bet you are doing much better. There's really "magic pill" for what you have. It cause can generally be traced to lifestyle. Lots of luck. HOpe you feel better soon.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 26, 2006
    • 00:30 AM
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  • Call your local community mental health center. You should be able to receive low-cost or free treatment, often of excellent quality.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 27, 2006
    • 08:48 PM
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  • i know exactly what you mean. it is so frustrating. i have looked everywhere
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 6, 2006
    • 01:29 AM
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    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 17, 2007
    • 09:35 PM
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  • didnt he just say he couldnt aford it grabber?live with you concious greedy soul
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 7, 2007
    • 01:56 AM
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  • i agree about exercise.and there are some simple things you can start doing to keep yourself right.first you can keep clear of alcohol and drugs,which form one of the main traps for people in this position.nothing can be so trusted to make things worse!try to simplify your life ,so that your energy is not taken from you by lots of small concerns.sleep more than you need,so you have alertness to deal properly with lifes problems.if this means missing out on entertainment,so much the better!remember that someone married you.put them first in everything.love them.make your spouse into your best friend,in time,your best counsellor.think hard about the advisability of having kids.they may be a responsibility too far for you.and you will probably be no fun for them.so when the day dawns when you feel that having kids would put it all right,be realistic.talk to some adult survivors of disturbed parents,see what they say.stay involved in some sort of education.if you cant trust your feelings(and you cant) you are going to have to build a mind you can rely on.stay disciplined and remember the connection between laundry and morale! there must be no violence or thoughts of violence in your mind or in your home. this includes violent television films as well as aggressive violent "music"when a marital row looms one of you must say"be kind!"and it must stop there.you must become your own parent.be kind to yourself but be strict about what is dangerous to you.when you fail,be forgiving to yourself and any others involved,and make a fresh start.for everything you experience ,be alert to one thing"is this helping us?is it making things worse for us?"act accordingly.finally immerse yourself as far as you can ,inthe natural world.this would include the excellent dietary advice an earlier contributor gave you.as an emergency workshop manual for the mind,let me suggest "rational emotive therapy"by albert ellis.it isnt designed for b.p.d. people,but it is practical and very simple,andwill help you avoid some of the worst human errors.remember what comes easily and naturally to others---the lucky ones(!)you will have to train yourselves to do.this is a lot i know.dont do it all at once.one thing every three months ,cumulatively, will do. let me know how you get on,please.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 7, 2007
    • 08:21 PM
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  • I know this sounds symplistic but have you researched the internet for information of BPD? I too have been diagnosed with BPD and have found that identifying you limits really helps. One of the biggest problems with it is getting those around you to understand exactly what it is. If you are in a relationship your partner has to do his part too. You need to tell him what sets you off and together talk about ways to avoid altercations. I have a lot of difficulty with somone raising their voice with me. As soon as I hear it I get aggitated, anxious, frustrated and finally very angry. I often told my daughter that if she wants me to hear what she says she has to speak in a soft, calm voice. Needless to say it was not easy but in time she realized I did respond better to a calm voice. Also sarcasm throws me into an instant tirade. I repeatedly had to tell her that if you start a sentence with a snotty tone I don't hear anything after the first word. These are over simplified suggestions but I hope you get the idea. I agree exercise, a good diet and not too much stimuli are good but I also suggest finding a good relaxation technique that works for you. Unfortunately people with BPD are easily wound up and generally aggitated. For some simply going for a walk works. Others formal training in meditation is best. Try to find what works for you and stick to it. As far as entertainment is concerns, whether it's music, movies of watching a wrestling match, if it makes you feel good go for it. If you don't like scary movies don't watch them. That goes for everyone not just people with BPD. One more thing I suggest you get a copy of a book called "I hate you, Please don't leave" I don't remembe the author's name but just about every book store carries it. You will find it helpful and so will the people around you. It is not technical but gives a good overview of what a person with BPD is going through and what family and friends can do to understand it better. Good Luck
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