The woman I love and have for 3 years has been a mystery for me for years. Loving, caring, but consistantly convinced that I'm always with someone else when she is not around. It's causing great grief for both of us. She believes, without exception, that she is correct in over 15 allegations. I assure her that each are incorrect and logically could not happen. The result is her belief that I'm a liar and have no diginity to tell her the truth (of which I am telling the truth but not believed.) She now feels justified in sexual activity with others without my knowledge but recently learned as such to my surprise. I don't want to loose this special person of 3 years. She would never accept she might have some disorder but self evident by life long companions and sexual partners that none have lasted very long and usually because the same symptoms arise which the partners tell her "your crazy" and just leave. this has always left her feeling the need to protect her "heart" to the extreme.
Recently discovered, the father, highly authorative person in family unit has/had same symptoms for past 40 years of marriage confirmed by wife.
She claims a miserable life with him always suspicous/allegations of seeing someone else. She confirms she has never, but she has always taken the verbal abuse which has been to the max.
Please help me before I loose the best thing that has happened in my life with meeting this loving person. I believe she knows she loves me but she's confused and doesn't want to continue unless I confess to her untruthful allegations. I've taken the stand to be honest at all risk of losing her. But her consistantly failed relationships up to her age of 40 with more than 25 different relationships that I know about concerns me for the future with her.
What do I do? What can I do? My friends say she can't be fixed. Idisagree and want to help her become better and more of who she really is. I can see into her deeply and I know the good person exists. It just hard to stay around while she abuses me with contineous lies of jealous delutions of meeting the gas station attendant to meeting store clerks.
Please someone help me with some advice, and soon !
Thank you, from a desparte lover.