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  • Posted By: daryl1
  • July 12, 2008
  • 06:23 PM

Hi,this story may sound strange as it it certainly strange for me,so here goes.I got married in early 2006 to my partner of 12 years.We stayed together for 10.After the marriage she fell pregnant.During the pregnancy she became extremeley irrational and paranoid and also suffered fainting spells.Her symptoms were really hard to accomodate and she regularly became violant with me and cursed as loud as she could.After she gave birth(cesarian) i

thought that this would subside but she became worse.She would curse and swear and try to throw things at me at the slightest issue.When all this became out of control is when she started telling eople around us that i was being menatally abusive toward her and that i needed to leave.I thought that i was in some sort of nightmare.Her parents told her to call the police for me and so i left the home.The thing is that no person wants to believe that i did not harm or abuse her in any way.She started blaspheming me to everybody.I was not sure how to react.Whenever i tried to go to see my child she would become violent and try to kick me or punch me and she would curse and swear at me.It felt as if she were possesed by the devil.All i could do was run out the house or leave as quick as possible.The thing is that she is normal in front of others but is extremley violent abusive irritable and paranoid when she is with me and no one aelse is around so obviously

i cannot prove that there is something wrong with her and needs help.I have tried to tell her parents that i think that she may have a disorder but they refuse to admit anything.Her sister was diagnosed with bipolar.She was always irritable and fussy during the course of our relationship but somehow she seemed to have gone over the edge.There was no fight between us nor problem at all.she just started saying things eg she knows that i dont loe her and such after she gave birth.Where all this came from,i am not sure.But it has been a nightmare.She refuses to go for any type of therapy at all and no person beside myself knows exactly what is going on as she seems to cover up very well and projects any wrong doing on me.so i am left trying to figure out what on earth is going on.I have had to move on with my life now but i believe that something is wrong with her and i would like to know if there are similar symptoms out there such as this or has anyone experianced this.Or is this just someone that loved me today and then all of a sudden hated me the next.To clear up a few issues before anyone answers.I am not a drunk and dont drink,nor have i had any affairs,nor do i run around with buddies and am not physically or mentally abusive and have not been.i just need to know if there is some condition that could have caused this.I gave my all to my relationship and am ready to give up but i promised to love this person in sickness and health.If she pulled a number on me as she was broody for a while,i have found the strength to move on,however if there is something wrong mentally i would try my best to help her before i give up.

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  • weird. maybe she is borderline? impossible to know from the info you provided, but i would suggest if you were appropriately motivated, track down an old boyfried of hers and ask him about it. this seems like something someone would do in a movie. Did you guys live near her parents? Does she have many friends? Did she have many close relationships prior to marrying you? were you together for a long time before getting married? How old is she? Did she or does she now work? Just trying to establish how she is pulling this off...
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  • weird. maybe she is borderline? impossible to know from the info you provided, but i would suggest if you were appropriately motivated, track down an old boyfried of hers and ask him about it. this seems like something someone would do in a movie. Did you guys live near her parents? Does she have many friends? Did she have many close relationships prior to marrying you? were you together for a long time before getting married? How old is she? Did she or does she now work? Just trying to establish how she is pulling this off... Hi,i cannot track down any old boyfriends as i was the only one.We were together since she was 18 and i was 20,she is now 35 and well i am 37.In all we were together for 15 years.Her parents stay hundreds of miles away from us for the last 12 years staying together.The only communication is via telephone.She does have friends.They are all from the transgendered community.She always hated any normal woman.The problem first startes when she started to hate my sister.I could not understand it as they never had any fights and she never visited much maybe once every two months.I could not figure out why.She became obseseed with hating my sister and i had to tell her that in order to get along she should stop talking about my family.She then started to hate the woman that my brother was going out with and eventually married but that also became a problem and yet i did not know why.She does work but not in an office tyoe environment and does not work with the same people regularly.There are always different people working with her on a crew at an airline.I was able to handle things although she was never satisfied with anything.From have a low self esteem when i met her to thinking that everything and everyone is below her when she got a job as a flight attendant.Presents needed to be at a certain price range or she wont accept it and it was just very difficult.I became addicted to trying to please her but she never really was pleased.No person was really ver close to us beside freinds that came however it was all her freind as she hated mine and did not allow them to come over including my family.I was left in her world with her friends and family.Everything intensified tenfold when she became pregnant.The violance ,the swearing and calling of names and just never letup.She however acts normal in front of others.ONE DISTINCT attribute about her character was that she would make people aware about how she hates people that speak lies and then she would lie about people and everyone would believe her because she hates people that speaks lies so she cannot be telling a lie.We were together obviously for a ver long while.I hate to say this but i dont think our reltionship would have lasted very long if i had not carried it along as she was never happy with anything i did and seemed to want to be part of this in crowd thatshe thought she was in.If i can put it another way.HER FRIENDS AND HERSELF honetly thought that they were the people from sex and the city and then desperate house wives if you can now understand the characters i am talking about yet they were in real lives.I think that i was taken for a fool but she harbours complete raw hatred toward me yet i did nothing wrong.This cannot be normal.
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