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Concerns with my daughter

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • July 26, 2006
  • 06:46 PM

I have a daughter, now age 22, who really has developed over the last few years a low self esteem about her appearance and insecurites that go along with it. She is a little over weight but not fat compared to alot of other people. To her, her weight is a constant thing that she worries about. She also thinks she's not good looking and envies those that look great to her. Because of all this, I have noticed out in public, whenever someone trys to talk to her, other than myself and her boyfriend, she will ***m up and constantly look down....refusing to recognize anyone else. She never use to act this way, and I am really getting concerned over it.

She has told me that she is constantly down on herself and is becoming very insecure, too, because of it. She even questions what her boyfriend sees in her because she doesn't see it. Both him and I have tried telling her that she is very cute and has a very bubbly personality which stands out, those things are what makes her special; but still....she doesn't see that in herself.

I am really getting concerned over her low self esteem and what it is doing to her. I wish someone could give me pointers on what I can do or say that might lift her up. Seeing her depressed and acting the way she does now around other people really concerns me.

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  • That sounds a little like me. I'm not sure what to tell you, because to me it doesn't matter what anyone tells me Ill always know deep down inside how ugly I am. The best thing a parent can do is to let their kids be themselves and be understanding about any interests that you might disagree on(as long as it wont hurt anyone). Just the body image itself isn't neccessarily an illness or a horrible thing either.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 16, 2006
    • 11:29 PM
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  • I have a daughter, now age 22, who really has developed over the last few years a low self esteem about her appearance and insecurites that go along with it. She is a little over weight but not fat compared to alot of other people. To her, her weight is a constant thing that she worries about. She also thinks she's not good looking and envies those that look great to her. Because of all this, I have noticed out in public, whenever someone trys to talk to her, other than myself and her boyfriend, she will ***m up and constantly look down....refusing to recognize anyone else. She never use to act this way, and I am really getting concerned over it. She has told me that she is constantly down on herself and is becoming very insecure, too, because of it. She even questions what her boyfriend sees in her because she doesn't see it. Both him and I have tried telling her that she is very cute and has a very bubbly personality which stands out, those things are what makes her special; but still....she doesn't see that in herself. I am really getting concerned over her low self esteem and what it is doing to her. I wish someone could give me pointers on what I can do or say that might lift her up. Seeing her depressed and acting the way she does now around other people really concerns me. One suggestion I thought of is maybe you could take her and get Glamour shot pictures done, to show her how beautiful she is. Take walks with her tell her you could lose a few pounds and/or join a gym together. Will give u some mother daughter time. Hope this helps some.
    kathryns 3 Replies
    • October 24, 2006
    • 06:08 AM
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  • I have a daughter, now age 22, who really has developed over the last few years a low self esteem about her appearance and insecurites that go along with it. She is a little over weight but not fat compared to alot of other people. To her, her weight is a constant thing that she worries about. She also thinks she's not good looking and envies those that look great to her. Because of all this, I have noticed out in public, whenever someone trys to talk to her, other than myself and her boyfriend, she will ***m up and constantly look down....refusing to recognize anyone else. She never use to act this way, and I am really getting concerned over it. She has told me that she is constantly down on herself and is becoming very insecure, too, because of it. She even questions what her boyfriend sees in her because she doesn't see it. Both him and I have tried telling her that she is very cute and has a very bubbly personality which stands out, those things are what makes her special; but still....she doesn't see that in herself. I am really getting concerned over her low self esteem and what it is doing to her. I wish someone could give me pointers on what I can do or say that might lift her up. Seeing her depressed and acting the way she does now around other people really concerns me. Hi, you should sign her up with some fitness programs, I had low self esteem too and you know what helped me the most was kick boxing. She does not have to compete, but, they have these classes that do arobic kick fit or something to that effect. It really helped me. Self esteem is important to have. good luck.
    horsecrazy1 8 Replies
    • October 24, 2006
    • 01:52 PM
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