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Borderline Personality Disorder

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  • Posted By: Jezebel Iscariot
  • March 8, 2008
  • 03:44 PM

For over 10 years now I have recognised that I struggle with my perceptions, emotions, thoughts and feelings towards people, myself and the environment. I have been numerous times to various GP's but was fobbed off with pills for anxiety and stress.

Only 7 months ago did I progress when my GP advised seeing a psychiatrist, after I said I thought I had a multiple personality and described my symptoms to support that view of myself.

I have spent the past 6 months with my care co-ordinator who has put together a detaied summary of my 25 year life history and discussed my thoughts and feelings (past and present ) on how each traumatic event has/had affected me. Without going into detail, we found that I match all the criteria to be suspected as suffering from BPD. Close friends and family agree, as do I, particularly after reading and relating to a book on BPD.

So last week we presented this to my designated psychiatrist in the hope of gaining a concrete diagnosis. Instead, he dismissed pretty much everything that we presented and fobbed me off with a common diagnosis - fear of rejection and poor management of emotion.

My understanding is that this is just one of the key symptoms with BPD, yet I display all of them, including my age group and the fact that I am female where it is found to be most common. So really, i'd like your thoughts on:

How do I convince my psychiatrist that I fit the symptoms of BPD to gain a concrete diagnosis?
Why was I fobbed off with a blase response?
Can anyone confirm my rights to a second opinion?

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  • hi sweetie!i am a recovering "Bordie", as i like to call it. i want to first commend you for realizing that this is what you probably have. it can be difficult to acknowledge things about ourselves that we don't want to hear.Borderline Personality Disorder is at the center of a good amount of controversy. Therapists and doctors usually cringe when they hear the diagnosis, because of several common misconceptions. Because of this, this diagnosis is not handed out lightly. It can be a life sentence, as there are no take-backs, as far as society and personality disorders are concerned.However, you have every right to be validated and listened to. you need to get a second, third, fourth opinion, if necessary, to find someone to listen to you, and help you get the help you need. there are psychologists (i recommend MFTs) that specialize in this disorder. ask anyone, from any mental health office, to give a referral. you need to be in the right place for this type of thing.once you find someone, keep looking, if you need, to find the right fit. this therapy will be long, and difficult, but TOTALLY WORTH IT. despite what lots of doctors think, therapists and those of us who have beaten this illness can tell you that you CAN get better, WILL get through this, you just need the right tools. my email address is sharkybordie at aol.com. email me if you have any questions, or just want to talk about this. i have been through it, and can offer you hope.best of luck to you, keep fighting!!
    katyafan 2 Replies Flag this Response
  • Jezebel, You have done alot of hard work, and I think that you are a very strong person. Some doctors have problems when they are given a diagnose. They have what you might call a big ego. This ego is so big that they let it get in the way of their better judgement. If I were you I would do what I could to see another psychiatrist. And as Katya said a second, third, fourth and even fifth opinion. Do not let one doctor take away a diagnose that you think is right. You want to get better, and a psychiatrist is only a tool on you way to recovery. Warm hugs Kiera
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  • For over 10 years now I have recognised that I struggle with my perceptions, emotions, thoughts and feelings towards people, myself and the environment. I have been numerous times to various GP's but was fobbed off with pills for anxiety and stress. Only 7 months ago did I progress when my GP advised seeing a psychiatrist, after I said I thought I had a multiple personality and described my symptoms to support that view of myself. I have spent the past 6 months with my care co-ordinator who has put together a detaied summary of my 25 year life history and discussed my thoughts and feelings (past and present ) on how each traumatic event has/had affected me. Without going into detail, we found that I match all the criteria to be suspected as suffering from BPD. Close friends and family agree, as do I, particularly after reading and relating to a book on BPD. So last week we presented this to my designated psychiatrist in the hope of gaining a concrete diagnosis. Instead, he dismissed pretty much everything that we presented and fobbed me off with a common diagnosis - fear of rejection and poor management of emotion. My understanding is that this is just one of the key symptoms with BPD, yet I display all of them, including my age group and the fact that I am female where it is found to be most common. So really, i'd like your thoughts on: How do I convince my psychiatrist that I fit the symptoms of BPD to gain a concrete diagnosis?Why was I fobbed off with a blase response?Can anyone confirm my rights to a second opinion? Hi Jezebel, if you have experienced traumatic events in your life have you looked into Complex Post Traumatic stress disorder? If you can i would do anything i could to avoid the diagnosis of BPD- which is a very stigmatised and out dated diagnosis. If you've experienced trauma the likelyhood of your being traumatised is high, this experesses itself similarly to a handful of mental illnesses but is not actually a mental illness but a human reaction to trauma- just like soldiers respond to war.
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