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ADD and why a person becomes alcoholic..

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  • Posted By: sunnyhelena
  • November 6, 2006
  • 06:08 PM

My husband has had ADD for a long time. He works fine, but at home is a disorganized mess. He obsesses about it, but doesn't fix anything- I try to keep things organized but resent enabling this-

It seems he also drinks to take the edge off- it's not always alot, as he works many hours; we have a business on the side-etc.; but for example- our yard is covered with leaves, a ripped up driveway and he usually tries to do 3 tasks at once, then gets enraged.

I am just curious to know of others who have ADD- is it this bad? he refuses meds- went thru the whole psych thing-I have given up on that.

Thanks for any comments. I really don't understand this, and am very drained.

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  • My wife started drinking constantly four years ago. I had to give up any kind of help, it nurtured her diesease. she fed on it like a rabbit animal. I had to accept my the more despair I showed the more she seemed to drink. It was to her just one more sorrow for her as sick as her mind was. I had to have back-up plans for myself. May he find for himself what lousy choices he has made.:p
    bill fisher 1 Replies
    • November 6, 2006
    • 06:19 PM
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  • good advice bill. yep. you cannot get anyone to change. they have to want it for themselves. as for you....ALANON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 9, 2006
    • 04:36 AM
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  • Been there-done that- The Alanon meeting I went to, I will not be going again; the people were in denial, staying in a bad marriage because "God wants them to". I had enough. :rolleyes:
    sunnyhelena 6 Replies
    • November 9, 2006
    • 02:23 PM
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  • again. i think alanon. try another meeting. i am a recovering-drunk, have ADHD and i have also been in your position as well. i didn't take suggestions either...but when it hurt bad enough i listened, so- since your way is working for you keep on until it gets bad enough.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • November 10, 2006
    • 00:22 AM
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  • Hi! I am 37 years old, was diagnosed with ADD 6 years ago. Before that, I was drinking every weekend both nights, and often a night or two a week. I don't mean a drink or two, I mean 7 or 8 or more.After being prescribed Adderall 30mgs. (not Adderall XR, there is a difference, my high-school children take them) I didn't even notice it, but lI ost the urge to drink. Months passed by and I still had no interest in binging and wasn't making an effort to quit. It just happened! Throughout the past six years, my husband and I have went to several wedding dances and things like that where I'll have a few drinks. But I no longer count down the days to the weekend so I can go boozing all night. And yeah, I drank until the cows came home. I ended up losing my job TWICE.When I described my childhood symptoms to my doctor, she said I definitely had all the signs of it when I was younger too. Which, would explain why I was such a pain!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • October 8, 2007
    • 10:55 PM
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  • Hi! I am 37 years old, was diagnosed with ADD 6 years ago. Before that, I was drinking every weekend both nights, and often a night or two a week. I don't mean a drink or two, I mean 7 or 8 or more. After being prescribed Adderall 30mgs. (not Adderall XR, there is a difference, my high-school children take them) I didn't even notice it, but lI ost the urge to drink. Months passed by and I still had no interest in binging and wasn't making an effort to quit. It just happened! Throughout the past six years, my husband and I have went to several wedding dances and things like that where I'll have a few drinks. But I no longer count down the days to the weekend so I can go boozing all night. And yeah, I drank until the cows came home. I ended up losing my job TWICE. When I described my childhood symptoms to my doctor, she said I definitely had all the signs of it when I was younger too. Which, would explain why I was such a pain! Thank you. He is a little better. He is on Lunesta for sleep.
    sunnyhelena 6 Replies
    • October 10, 2007
    • 04:28 AM
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  • I've never had a problem with drinking but have been battling depression, am a disorganized mess at home and have issues with certain kinds of projects which can kick up some rage. I am just now being diagnosed after 22 years of trying to find out what was wrong. One thing I've learned is that a person has to want to be helped. You have no control over his willingness to get help. Would encourage you do attend support groups, if no ADD support in your area try Alanon, CoDependents Anonymous and perhaps a counselor who specializes in ADD. Hang in there and please get a good support system for you.My husband has had ADD for a long time. He works fine, but at home is a disorganized mess. He obsesses about it, but doesn't fix anything- I try to keep things organized but resent enabling this- It seems he also drinks to take the edge off- it's not always alot, as he works many hours; we have a business on the side-etc.; but for example- our yard is covered with leaves, a ripped up driveway and he usually tries to do 3 tasks at once, then gets enraged. I am just curious to know of others who have ADD- is it this bad? he refuses meds- went thru the whole psych thing-I have given up on that. Thanks for any comments. I really don't understand this, and am very drained.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • September 14, 2010
    • 07:00 PM
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