Discussions By Condition: Menopause

Mom is in trouble.

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • April 6, 2007
  • 03:32 PM


I am here to ask some advise, perhaps a name of the doctor/hospital specializing in menopause research/treatment in NYC area.

My mother is 50 yrs old and her menopause started about 4 years ago.
She was very uncomfortable with lots of hot flashes, so against all advise she researched and started treating herself with a bunch of homeopathic remedies. The flashes disappeared and this is where everything else started.

She started to feel extremely tired all the time, gets disy a lot, has traveling muscle pain in various muscles daily, sometimes she looses control of her right leg and her toes seem to be curled under her foot and she can't straighten them, and some other symptoms I really don't want to list.

We have been to several doctors, did every urine and blood test ever conceived, she has taken prescribed hormone pills, but hey generally make her feel worse. A common answer to all tests: everything is in order, all hormone levels are in range and so on.

Once in a while (maybe once every 1.5-2 months) she would get a hot flash, during which she really starts feeling better!!!! All other symptoms disappear and reappear the next day.
If anyone out there has any info, please share.
Thank you so much!


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  • Unfortunately, menopause is a natural process with a lot of unexpected symptoms. I am 50 also and my cold sweats and hot flashes started about five years ago. I'm over the hot flashes and only have cold sweats once in a while. The fatigue is what gets me. I have had a lot more muscle spasms in my legs and get a lot of cramps in my feet. I do suffer from periodic anxiety attacks. I am resistant to HRT. I've read a lot about it and will never take the treatment. I figure my granma and other family members were able to survive Menopause back in the day, so I am just educateing myself on all the symptoms, so that I know I am not going crazy. Knowing what to expect helps a lot. Keeping a healthy diet, regular walking, and getting at least 8 hours of sleep really relieves many symptoms. Keeping stress levels at a minimum also relieves symptoms, although that can be difficult. My advice is to read as much as you can on menopause and recognize the symptoms when they appear. Your mom is going to seem very different in the way she thinks and acts. I have two daughters 23, and 19. My elder one understands what I'm going through, my younger one thinks I'm crazy and we are on two different communication levels. I'm much more sensitive to remarks and we never seem to agree on anything. I love that you are so concerned about your mom. She will survive it, with a lot of support from you. But, she will feel like she is going insane frequently. post an update or get your mom to post one and I can share experiences.
    bentley 1 Replies
    • August 31, 2007
    • 09:17 PM
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