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voluntary hysterectomy

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  • Posted By: ilcakita
  • February 15, 2007
  • 01:25 PM

Hi, we have an ovarian cancer in family history. My grandmother and mother had it, now my sister was dignosed. I am 30 years old and I dont want children. Could I just have a hysterectomy to prevent this disease and what do I need to do to have it done? Thank you for all your coments.

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  • There is a wonderful webite called hystersisters.com. The love support and advice you will get from these woman is unbelievable. They helped me with my hysterectomy in 2001. In fact I made a friend for life on this site. Good luck with whatever you choose.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 24, 2007
    • 10:59 PM
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  • A hysterectomy is a very serious step. You'd be better off to have yourself monitored very carefully with very regular paps and checkups- like at least every 3 months. A hysterectomy wouldn't even usually be necessary then, because anything would be detected very early on- early enough to be thoroughly taken care of in other ways less invasive. Do some reading- read Our Bodies Ourselves on women's health issues including this very discussion. See a Dr for advice that is sensible and sensitive. The consensus is: too many women have had hysterectomies for not enough reason. It's a life altering operation- know a lot more before you proceed.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 26, 2007
    • 02:22 AM
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  • A hysterectomy is a very serious step. You'd be better off to have yourself monitored very carefully with very regular paps and checkups- like at least every 3 months. A hysterectomy wouldn't even usually be necessary then, because anything would be detected very early on- early enough to be thoroughly taken care of in other ways less invasive. Do some reading- read Our Bodies Ourselves on women's health issues including this very discussion. See a Dr for advice that is sensible and sensitive. The consensus is: too many women have had hysterectomies for not enough reason. It's a life altering operation- know a lot more before you proceed.Hello,I know this will sound crazy, but I have felt like this ever since I started my periods at fourteen. I'm now 22I hate my periods, and they feel disgusting and just intolerable. I went througha phase of wanting a baby and ignoring it because I knew how stupid it would be for me to have one at seventeen. My periods are heavy and make me violent and nothing seems to calm them down, I get angry enough to kill someone. I know it sounds dumb - periods are a naturtal part of nature and there's nothing to be ashamed of, but I have a deep hatred of putting up with themI don't want my ovaries any more. I know with all my heart that I will never, ever want children. I understand the doctors reluctance to do a hysterectomy because women change their minds, but I am one of the women who will never want children. I know, I know, youre thinking I'll change my mind in ten year stime but I won't. If I do ever have a child at all I'd prefer to adopt. That even if I want children, which I find difficult to deal with I was thinking if anyone can help me? If I go to a solicitor and get a sworn affidavit promising that I will not sue the doctor if I do change my mind (which is pointless anyway - because suing someoen won't make you fertile again)With this, would I be able to convince a doctor this is the best thing for me, say if I get eggs frozen again in the possibility I will change my mind? I would be happy to pay money to go private in order to do this, as I know I wouldn't have a hope of it being done on the NHS. But I just hate the idea of having a uterus and always have done. I feel it would just be better if I didn't have any possibility of being pregnant. Being on the contraceptive implant has calmed it down, and stilled the fear of pregnancy a lot, but still I can't deal with the periodsI would be happy to have it removed, and donate eggs to someone who wants a baby, and maybe freeze some for myself if I ever do want a kid. I don't have the problem of wanting to be a man, nor do I have any mental issues I just feel also that this is my body and my choice - I don't have to have children and i do not wantto have children. I know its a huge risk and again I understand why doctors feel its not a good idea, but I feel totally different about this. I just don't see the point of having these thinsg if I don't want babies, and I hate teh way I have to suffer the aggravation just because of the fact it's down to the production of babies. I feel I just shouldn't have thisIf anyone here is infertile and feel angry at me, all I can say to you is I'm sorry, I'm sorry if anything I said has hurt or offended you. I cannot help the way I feel. I have no idea why I have such a deep seated anger and resentment about periods
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 27, 2009
    • 09:54 PM
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