I am 30 years old - Female - 145kgs - 5'5 - Yes on a diet!
I have always been overweight, since I was around 6 years old, but only got really heavy in the last few years, my partner and I both overeat and enjoy bad foods. So moving in together made things worse.
I was sexually abused at 5 by my oldest brother - I now believe this is the cause of my emotional eating and have addressed and now I am losing weight
But... No matter what weight I am, whatever I drink or dont drink. I wet the bed almost nightly. Sometimes twice. I have for almost all of my life. I also get intense burning pain in the entrance of my vagina when i urinate and I hold onto my urine for too long and sometimes even I just get pain without holding it. I can tell before I urinate it is going to burn. I then go onto leak urine afterwards, with the intense urge to urinate while its happening, and deep pain in my pelvis area. It also burns when I have sex these days, quite badly.
I have been with 15 sexual partners, most of them unprotected sex, but have been with my current partner for 9 years. and he was a virgin when i met him.
I only now get my period every two months and it is extremely heavy with large clots, around 10 years ago, they were light and normal and fairly regular.
I had an abortion at the age of 20.
I was diagnosed with fibroids. I get facial hair on my chin which i have to wax.
I vacate my bowels at least twice a day, usually soft stools and often feel unwell in my stomach, even when eating well.
My pelvis for at least 10 years has been tender to touch, pressing down on it is painful and now that i am so heavy it hurts without pressing down on it.
My legs and ankles ache, although i believe that is due to my weight.
Wearing control underwear or anything right, cause intense pain in my lower back around my kidneys.
I have noticed a darkness around my neck that i have not noticed before.
Life is complete misery for me at the moment and are looking for help anyway I can.