I know we can't save anyone from themselves but after losing a sister to suicide not long ago, I'd greatly like to help my remaining sister if I can.
She has extreme pain after extensive back surgeries and due to that, I believe, is fairly well addicted to pain meds. With a large dosage she says she can get up and live a fairly normal life for the day and I never want to take that away from her, but I think the meds are also killing her.
She doesn't drink but smokes (alot) , has extremely distended abdomin and ab pain frequently. Throws up frequently (what looks like coffee grounds ,she says). Has had diverticultis in the past and was traumatized by the invasive 'treatmen't of oral and rectal methods and so doesn't want to really push her dr and explain all this for fear of going through that (or I think, fear of losing the amount of meds she gets now).
I've also seen her drive when she is feverish and somewhat incoherent and talking 'nonsense'.
I am truly at a loss for what to do. I try to let it go because I know if she won't help herself , no one else can.....but then I think, maybe there was more I could have done to save the sister I lost and I would give anything to reverse that....so maybe there is SOMETHING I could do or say in the matter to help save this sister from an unnecessary death??
(I've suggested she go and ask for a 2nd opinion , ask for non invasive checks, like xray/mri/ultra sound/cat scan etc......kind of seems like she is unwilling or unable to move forward).
Any suggestions or advice is welcome. I know it sounds like I MUST do something....I just don't know what else to do. How can I shock her into action?