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Open breast sore

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  • Posted By: Anonymous
  • December 5, 2006
  • 04:18 AM

Let me start by saying that I am asking for help for a woman who will not get it.. my 63 year old mother, who hasn't seen a doctor since she was a child and doesn't intend to do so; ever. This is more for me so that I can brace myself for what lies ahead, I need to know. She told me over the holiday that 5 years ago she found a lump in her breast. Then, about a year ago she found a pin hole in the same breast, which as grown in size now to half her breast and as she describes it, it looks like -- sorry -- raw meat. She of course refuses to see a doctor for any kind of treatment. Is this what it sounds like? Any help you can give me, would at least help me deal with what may come.

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  • yes it does sound like cancer. at this stage it may be too late .sounds like she is just tired of life and wants to rest now. i can relate with her sometimes elderly people like myself just want to rest in peace without pain . talk to her again and try to get her to get help, if she will not , then just try to make her life as comfortable as possible .best of luck
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 6, 2006
    • 01:52 PM
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  • 63 years old is not really elderly in my opinion,she really needs to be seen by a dr ,I think I would call a lawyer or someone and see if you can legally make her go to a dr ,if she wasn't concerned she would not have told you about this ,does she have any other symptons like weight loss or being very tired or anything else like other sores on her ,good luck to you ,just keep trying maybe someone else can help you if you have sisters or brothers or if she does .try an intervention
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 28, 2006
    • 01:54 AM
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  • Your mother has breast cancer. At age 63, she is a young woman. I personally know women treated for breast cancer in their 80's, so her age is not the issue, but her mentality. Your mother might not have seen a doctor in the past, but she will wish she had when the cancer attacks the rest of her body (breast cancer metastasizes to the bones, lungs, liver and brain). It is not a comfortable thing and can be quite painful before death. I don't know if your mother is treatable for cancer, but hopefully they can remove her breast, give her radiation or chemo and save her life. Because she has waited so long, it might be too late and it might have traveled to other parts of the body that you can't see(listed above). Only an oncologist, oncological surgeon, and oncologist radiologist as a team can make that decision. Go to a good hospital that specializes in cancer or has a good Cancer Treatment Center for advise. Even if she can't be treated for the cancer, they know how to help her and educate her with the pain and other major problems she will face. When she gets down the line and she is too far gone and can't benefit from medical treatment, then she will benefit from hospice care-at home or at the hospital-they will help her with making her as comfortable as possible with pain etc. This is something that she should not be facing alone and be putting up a stiff upper lip. I does not do any good in this case and there will be lots of suffering down the line (I am so sorry to say!). I know because I have personally been treated for breast cancer for yrs. now and have seen others loose the battle. I wish you luck and I have sent a little prayer that your mother can be treated. She is definitely too young to die(sorry for being so graphic but you and her have to act now as it is hoped it is not too late already!)
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 31, 2006
    • 08:19 AM
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  • Nov."99" I was rushed to the hospital bleeding heavily from my left breast. The E.R. doctor tried to cauderize the site four times in an attempt to stop the bleeding--- it didn't work. I was bandaged tightly and admitted that night. Next morning, I had a biopsy and full body scan. The scan came back showing no abnormalties except my breast. My doctor said he wasn't waiting for the biopsy result, bcause he was sure it was Cancer. There was no time for Chemotherapy, surgury first, then chemo and radiation. I was scheduled for the next day, but first I needed two units of blood because I was bleeding so much. When I came out of surgury I remember a nurse asking why I waited so long. I said "fear" made me wait. My tumor was 10.5 cm, stage 3b (next stage 4 is terminal) to date, I am still in remission..... the reason I wrote the above is because I knoe your mother has known for awhile that she was in trouble and fear is keeping her from what she knows she WILL have to face. I let my fear stop me TWENTY YEARS ago and I lived knowing that somthing was terribly wrong. Every day I would look and see it getting worse, but fear of all the horror stories I'd heard kept me from getting treatment. What a fool I was. Tell your mom that the surgury and the treatment after is a piece of cake compared to the anxiety she has now. She can't ignore it any longer, make that appointment and get it done. Heck, she still has alot of living ahead of her!!
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • February 6, 2007
    • 05:23 AM
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  • If there is any possible way to convince her to see a doctor, please do. You can do a search on the Internet, breast masses and ulcerations, open sores. She must have had a very bad experience at the doctor's office when she was young. She needs to been seen by a gyn!
    Anonymous 1 Replies
    • October 29, 2014
    • 03:29 AM
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  • Yeah this is ominous and not likely anything that can be managed on your own. Please post an update.
    Anonymous 1 Replies
    • November 16, 2014
    • 04:16 AM
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