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  • Posted By: jeremy2094
  • December 5, 2006
  • 06:43 AM

My name is Jessi, and I am the mother of 4 beautiful children. They are 10, 6, 3, and 19 months. My 6 year old daughter, has been recently diagnosed with a Wilms Tumor. It is a rare kidney cancer found only in children. She has undergone radiation and is currently on her 9th week of chemo. This means we are only about a third of the way done. This Wed. she has her first CT scans to determine if there are any new tumors or signs of growth. I am very NERVOUS! Life has been too much to bear in the last two months. On Sept. 28th, Katie was diagnosed, then on Nov. 1st, I lost my father to Lung cancer. To make matters worse, my husband went on a deer hunting trip on the 14th of November, only to return 2 hours later. He broke his leg while walking on the trail to his blind. The docs say he will be off from work for at least 12 weeks. I feel like our family has gone through way too much, and we could not take any more heartbreak. With Christmas comming we have all been at the end of our witts. I know that there is a God, and I know that my Dad is up there watching over us, but it's just hard! I need some encouragement for my family!:confused:

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  • My name is Jessi, and I am the mother of 4 beautiful children. They are 10, 6, 3, and 19 months. My 6 year old daughter, has been recently diagnosed with a Wilms Tumor. It is a rare kidney cancer found only in children. She has undergone radiation and is currently on her 9th week of chemo. This means we are only about a third of the way done. This Wed. she has her first CT scans to determine if there are any new tumors or signs of growth. I am very NERVOUS! Life has been too much to bear in the last two months. On Sept. 28th, Katie was diagnosed, then on Nov. 1st, I lost my father to Lung cancer. To make matters worse, my husband went on a deer hunting trip on the 14th of November, only to return 2 hours later. He broke his leg while walking on the trail to his blind. The docs say he will be off from work for at least 12 weeks. I feel like our family has gone through way too much, and we could not take any more heartbreak. With Christmas comming we have all been at the end of our witts. I know that there is a God, and I know that my Dad is up there watching over us, but it's just hard! I need some encouragement for my family!:confused:Hey Jessie!I just want to say that i am not a doctor, but i when it comes to encouragment you dont really have to be a doctor to give people something forward to look for.I am 21 years old and just like you i am having my own problems.My story is on the HIV thread, and its so discouraging to think that you may have it. I have been tested and everything seems to be normal, but i am still paranoid and worried as i have to wait for another 3 months to get chcked again to make 100 percent sure i dont have it.My story gets even worse because i had sex with a girl while i briefly broke up with my girfriend, and i am back with the girlfriend and had sex with her afterwards and the fact that she may have it too is always in my mind and the guilt is just unberable.I am telling you this story because i know what your going through. Constantly thinking about the worse possible stuff, the fate we have, and how depressed you can get at times with nothing forward to look for.My normal activity has decreased completely and i am in a quiet state at most times not wanting to talk with others. Although everything seems to be going wrong with me (guilt, pain, not being able to function normally, and the fact that i cant talk to anybody about this) I am starting to buy into the idea that, life sometimes throughs alot of challenges at us. No matter what happens i think that it is important to realize that life still goes on. I know that anxiety and depression is not something i can cure, i cant tell you to go home and not to worry. It obviously will take time. But it is important that you make the best of every moment. Try to preoccupy yourself with stuff you like to do. I think it is also important to not sit alone because those are the times when you tend to think about all the possible wrong stuff.Also the way you act can effect you and your children. it is important that you dont show any sign of discouragment even tho this may be hard. Try to create a playful atmosphere with the rest of the kids. This will help them, and maybe it will help you as well.I am deeply sorry that your dad passed away and that your child is going through all this stuff. I am sure the child is in good care of the doctors and they will do everything possible to make sure she will be fine.You also have to trust the doctors with this and their are the proffessionals.As far as your husband breaking his leg: That is nothing serious, I am sure he will be fine in a short period of time. This may actually be a good thing because now hes around the house and can be engaged with the kids and can also make you not feel alone.Its important that you talk to him about these things that are bothering you just as much as they may be bothering him. I would also go get counseling if i were you if you feel like what your doing to make things better are not effective.I really hope that you will be fine, and keep your chin up:)
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 5, 2006
    • 07:22 PM
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  • I know how you feel hun. I have always heard that God will not throw at you more than what you can take, but sometimes you wonder how much is enough, how much more you can take.I don't have any advice for you except keep you chin up, stay strong for your family, there will always be better days...I am so sorry to hear what your 6 yr old has to go throw. Give her a big hug. Just remember to enjoy everyday with her.Things will eventually look up hun.I will be praying for you and your family!
    billyandsarah99 19 Replies
    • December 6, 2006
    • 02:20 PM
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  • Hi Jessie,I'm not going to say 'I know what you are going through' because of course, I can't even begin to imagine. No one knows what you are going through unless they themselves have experienced it. All I can say is I'm sorry for you and your family (not in a patronsing way), genuinely from my heart, I'm sorry that you have to go through this. I'm not going to say I'll pray for you, or God works in mysterious ways, or everything happens for a reason. What I will say is I hope from the very bottom of my heart that your little girl gets well, that whatever treatment she has, it works for her, that all of you have comfort, support and love to help you all come through this.I'm not going to tell you to stay strong, for your kids, or your husband. Who's staying strong for you? I do hope you can all stay strong together, as a family, for each other. Help, support and comfort each other. I honestly feel that love is the most powerful thing. More powerful than people realise. Love, hope, faith, laughter, happiness, appreciation of the 'little things', open mindedness, awareness, communication. I believe all these things MAKE you strong. When life becomes hard, for whatever reason, it does seem to get worse, one bombshell after another. It always hits you when your at your lowest and you feel like you can't take anymore. That seems to be the way it works. I don't even begin to try and understand why that is. I think it's for reasons none of us will ever know. Even if you believe in God or not. I believe that what will be will be. All I do know, is that you are an incredible lady and you should be so proud of yourself. You have shared your most personal pain with complete strangers on the internet, you have opened your heart and mind to people you don't even know. You have a beautiful family. You are already being strong for them, you are already coping, despite feeling that you're not. I hope Jessie, that your daughter gets well, that the chemo works, that the CT scan shows no more bad news. Whatever news you do get Jessie? Never doubt yourself, never doubt that you can and will get through this. Never doubt how proud your little girl is of you, how happy you make her, how much she loves you. How incredible you really are. Jessie, my thoughts are with you. With you and your family. May good luck and fortune shine upon you all. May your little girl be well again. May your family stay strong together, love each other, support each other. If there was one piece of advice I could give you? it would be to make sure you communicate, you share your pain, you talk about everything, don't keep it in because your trying to stay STRONG for everyone. Hold each other, cry if you need to, tell each other how you feel and above all, love each other like you always have.Don't be scared to shout and scream, don't be scared to say you need a hug or you need to talk. Don't be scared to ask for help, support. Do whatever you need to do to help you get through this.I hope everything is ok.............I really hope from the very bottom of my heart EVERYTHING is ok.Much love to you all.J xxx
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • December 9, 2006
    • 00:24 AM
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  • :) Greetings; The person that said, that nobody understands this condition, is incorect. There is someone that understands, for He has suffered more than anyone in history. His Name Is The Lord ***********t. Now instead of going into this subject in detail, i feel in your case, it is a very personal, thing, othrwise i would go into detail. I've a question for you, do you own a Bible? If so, just look up anything, that reffers to the sufferings of *****t, and then "know" that The ways He suffered, are beyond anything, that we can imagine. If you read the account written in the Scriptures, then "you" "will" understand. Good Luck, i'll be praying for you.
    hogndog 426 Replies
    • January 1, 2007
    • 01:59 AM
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  • I am so sorry to hear of your daughter's illness. Chemo is brutal and it must be very difficult for you all. Two things I highly recommend for you:1. BACH FLOWER'S RESCUE REMEDY. This is a tincture you can get at any health food store. It is hard to say how it works (not really a homeopathic remedy but similar), but it really helps you deal with any emotional and physical trauma. This stuff is amazing and very calming without sedating you. Put 4 drops in water and drink during stressful times. It is safe for children and even pets. Can't recommend it highly enough! 2. For your daughter to help build her up after chemo: Eleuthero Ginseng, also known as Siberian Ginseng. This is an adaptagenic herb and has been recently shown to restore immunity and help counter side effects of chemo and radiation. Hope this helps and wishing you all the best.Doctor of Oriental Medicine
    acuann 3080 Replies
    • January 2, 2007
    • 03:02 AM
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  • :) Hello, i just recieved this post in my mail, it's quiet good! What to do? Well there "are" other alternitives, allow me to share. #1, Have you "ever" considered going to your Heavenly Father?, you know, the One that Created you, to address your situation? He really cares you know, in fact He provided a way to solve your problem. If you are truly wanting to have the answer, answer this post, & i'll walk you through it. The results are guaranteed, and please don't spend a lot of valuable time shopping around, like you would at a mall, looking for something. I'm always hear to help, in a wheel chair ya know. In His Service.
    hogndog 426 Replies
    • January 2, 2007
    • 04:01 AM
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  • I am very NERVOUS! Life has been too much to bear in the last two months. Look into HeartMath. It will help.Regards,Davehttp://fiteyes.com/blogs/dave/
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 4, 2007
    • 04:24 PM
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  • :) What do you mean "Nervous" Just what is it your nervous about? Where your next meal is comming from, shelter, bills, or the cares of every day life? Or is it about "everything"? The thing i do is the same thing i do every day. First is to thank God & then ask him to lead, guide, & direct me; do you do this? If not maybe you should start doing it for yourself. I'm here to answer any questions that you might have, As Always, In His Service.
    hogndog 426 Replies
    • January 4, 2007
    • 04:45 PM
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  • You will be in my prayers as you and your family face this difficult time. Remember, you're not alone. There is One who loves you supremely and cares for you.
    Anonymous 42789 Replies
    • January 29, 2007
    • 07:58 PM
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